Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Roop par kahi baatein aksar lagbhag shabd-dar-shabd yaad rehti hain, kabhi barson tak, jagah aur awaaz ke saath.
Kuch logon ke liye aaj suni baat purani baaton ke oopar aakar girti hai, kisi rishtedaar se, class mein, ya bachpan mein bhai-behen ya cousin se tulna hone se.
Kuch log sunte hain ki aisi line andar baith gayi: “Meri shakl se hi tay hota hai ki log mujhe chahenge ya nahi,” ya “Baaki sabko sab pata hai, bas mujhe hi baat samajh nahi aayi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Ekdam shaant ho jaana, aur dinon tak use dohrana
- Usi pal palatkar bol dena, phir ghar lautte bura lagna
- Baat badal dena, aur ummeed karna ki dobara nahi uthegi
- Mazaak pehle khud par kar lena, taaki koi aur na kare
- Kamre mein hans dena, aur ghar akele dhokar le jaana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Reunion ki kadwi hansi
Trichy mein school ke purane batch ka get-together. Barson baad mila koi hanskar kehta hai, “Arre, shakl to wahi ki wahi hai teri, badsoorat!” Kuch log saath mein hanste hain. Aap muskurakar haath dhone chale jaate ho, par sheeshe ke saamne khade reh jaate ho, aur school ki wo purani feeling aise laut aati hai jaise waqt beeta hi nahi. Music badalne tak aap wahin ruke rehte ho.
Unki raay tay kare aapka mol
Pehle saaf baat: kisi ko badsoorat kehna theek nahi, aur ye aapke baare mein koi tathya nahi. Par isse ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ho jaata hai: “Mere roop par doosron ki raay meri qadr tay karti hai.” Oopar se ye seedhi samajhdaari jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: ek kadwa shabd barson tak tay karta hai ki aap khud ko kaisa mehsoos karein.
Kadwe shabd der kyun rukte hain
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain ki roop par kadwe shabd bahut der saath reh sakte hain. Zyadatar log iska koi roop dhote hain. Shayad school mein sune. Shayad unse aaye jin par bharosa tha. Jo bhi ho, inse chot lagna kamzori nahi. Ye sweekare jaane ki chaah se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Laut aata purana ehsaas
Aisi har tippani purana ehsaas lauta laati hai. Thoda-thoda karke sab judta jaata hai. Ye dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Aap sheeshon aur photo se bachte ho. Logon se parakhe jaane ki ummeed rakhte ho. Jamaavon mein peeche rehte ho. Wo shabd aapke baare mein baaki har cheez se zyada asli lagne lagta hai, aur aap use un kamron mein bhi le jaate ho jahan kisi ne kaha hi nahi.
Kya unke shabd itne bhaari hain?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se kabhi apne baare mein behtar laga? Ya zyadatar wo kadwa shabd hi tez bajta raha? Kadwa shabd kehne wale ka hota hai, aapka nahi. Yahan koi galat jawab nahi. Chahein to ek pal iske saath baithiye. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke layak hai?
Kadwa shabd unka tha
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo shabd theek tha. Wo nahi tha. Matlab ye ki ab wo aapki qadr tay nahi karta. Aap us kamre mein jaise hain waise laut sakte ho. Shuruaat chhoti ho sakti hai, ek pal se. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Yahin thodi shanti lautti hai: purana shabd dheema padta hai, aur khud ko dekhne ki aapki apni nazar ko badhne ki jagah milti hai.
Being mocked about how you look again and again, threatened, hurt or frightened is not okay and is worth taking seriously; staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere roop par doosron ki raay meri qadr tay karti hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleKadwa shabd unka tha. Wo mujhe tay nahi karta.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Apne baare mein ek aisi baat khud se kahiye jiski aap qadr karte hain
- Kadam 2
Ek aise insaan ko notice kijiye jo aapke baare mein naram hai
- Kadam 3
Jab shabd laute, ek dheemi saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Ye kehne se theek pehle kya ho raha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Chehre par ek baat, sabke saamne kahi hui #
Trichy mein school batch ka get-together. Table ke us paar se koi hanskar kehta hai, “Arre, shakl to wahi ki wahi hai teri, badsoorat!” Ladai mein bhai-behen ne kaha tha, “Shakl dekhi hai apni?” School gate par, “Teri shakl par baarah baje hain.” Kuch hans dete hain, aur pal sabke liye beet jaata hai, siwa ek ke.
Ye kisi ke munh se nikli sabse teekhi baaton mein se hai, kyunki ye kiye hue kisi kaam ko chhodkar seedha chehre par aati hai, us cheez par jise insaan har kamre mein saath le jaata hai. Shabdon mein kuch second lagte hain, par kuch log unhein barson dhote hain.
Aakhri baar ye, ya isse milti-julti baat, kahan suni?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kisne kahi, kaun-kaun sun raha tha, aur us pal ka kaun sa hissa yaad karne par sabse saaf lautta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sochne se pehle hi kyun lag jaati hai #
Kuch log batate hain ki chehra jal gaya, pet mein kuch gir gaya, achanak kahin aur hone ka mann kiya. Kuch jam jaate hain, kuch palatkar bol dete hain ya bahut jaldi hans dete hain. Kuch bilkul shaant ho jaate hain aur kuch kuch nahi kehte. Ye sab ho sakta hai, aur kisi ko samjhane ki zaroorat nahi.
Kisi ke roop par aisi baat, jahan doosre sun sakein, body mein ek second ke bheetar darj ho jaati hai, sochne se bahut pehle. Sochna ghanton baad aa sakta hai, der raat, shabdon, jagah aur wahan maujood har chehre ko phir se dekhte hue.
Wo pehli reaction bata sakti hai ki wo pal, ya wo insaan, aapke liye kitna maayne rakhta tha.
Un shabdon ke baad ke pal mein aapki body ne kya kiya: jam gayi, jal gayi, ya bhaagna chaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Jo hua use chhodkar seedha chehre par aati hai #
“Wo bura kaam tha” kisi kiye hue ke baare mein hota hai. Chehre par tippani kiye hue ko chhodkar seedhi insaan par aati hai, aur isiliye itni aakhri lag sakti hai, jabki vaakya ek aadmi ka ek pal mein kaha vaakya bhar hota hai.
Roop par kahi baatein aksar lagbhag shabd-dar-shabd yaad rehti hain, kabhi barson tak, jagah aur awaaz ke saath. Kuch log dekhte hain ki aisa ek vaakya un sainkdon aam baatcheeton se zyada zor se bajta rehta hai jinmein roop ka zikr hi nahi tha.
Jab wo baat lautti hai to saath mein kya aata hai: shabd, jagah, awaaz, hansi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur inmein se kaun sa sabse bhaari lagta hai, jab use uthakar dekhein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab baat khud bolne lagti hai #
Aksar suno to ye andar aakar bas sakti hai. Vaakya khud lautta hai, ajeeb waqton par, ya chupchaap door rehne ke ishaare ki tarah, kabhi kisi ke kuch kehne se pehle hi, bas koi naya insaan kamre mein aaye to.
Shabd ek cheez ke baare mein the, aur unhein sunne wala usse kahin zyada hai. Phir bhi vaakya andar chalne lage to apne aap aa jaata hai, aur aapki hi awaaz jaisa lagne ke kaaran doosre ki baat nahi, bas sachchai jaisa lagta hai.
Ye kiski awaaz mein bolti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki hai, ya kisi khaas insaan se, kisi khaas jagah par aaj se bahut pehle uthayi hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye ye purani baaton ki goonj hai #
“Saari sundarta to behen ko mil gayi.” Kuch logon ke liye aaj suni baat purani baaton ke oopar aakar girti hai, kisi rishtedaar se, class mein, ya bachpan mein bhai-behen ya cousin se tulna hone se.
Aisi baaton ke peeche ki wajahein jagah-jagah alag hain, aur sunne wale bachche ko kam hi samjhayi jaati hain. Jo reh jaata hai, wo bachche ka chupchaap nikaala nateeja hai: ki chehron ki ranking hoti hai, aur uske chehre ko pehle hi ek jagah de di gayi hai.
Pehli baar kab dhyaan gaya ki aapke roop par aapke saamne baat ho rahi hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab kaun-kaun tha, aur baat us taraf mudne par aapne kya karna, ya na karna, seekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ek chup niyam jo tippani chhod jaati hai #
Kuch log sunte hain ki aisi line andar baith gayi: “Meri shakl se hi tay hota hai ki log mujhe chahenge ya nahi,” ya “Baaki sabko sab pata hai, bas mujhe hi baat samajh nahi aayi.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo bas duniya ko dekhne ka tareeka lagte hain, jaise zameen zameen lagti hai. Isiliye unhein kabhi-kabhi nikalkar, dheere-dheere, din ki roshni mein dekhna theek rehta hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak khoj lete hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah, use dekha ja sakta hai, ek tippani ke chhode niyam ki tarah, tathya ki tarah nahi.
Kya inmein se koi fit hoti hai, ya theek se nahi, ya bilkul nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo kin kamron mein ab bhi baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Vaakya ko dhone ki keemat #
Ye bahar jaane, photo aur plan ko chhoo sakta hai, hafte ke un aam hisson ko jinmein dekha jaana hota hai. Kuch log dekhe jaane ke hisaab se plan banane lagte hain, aur kuch nyoton ko kisi ke tay karne se bahut pehle na mil jaati hai.
Ek shaant keemat bhi hai. Jab dhyaan ka ek hissa hamesha is par rahe ki aap kaise dikhenge, to baatcheet, khel aur plan ke liye kam bachta hai. Kuch logon ke liye, saal bhar mein, ye aise kai mauqon mein judta hai jinmein jaane jaane ka mauqa chupchaap nikal gaya.
Kamzori se nahi. Doosre ki aankhon se khud ko dekhte rehna sachmuch mehnat hai.
Pichhle saal iski kya keemat rahi, agar rahi: koi outing, koi photo, koi plan, koi baatcheet?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Tuesday, jab wo baat tez ho #
Ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din jab “Meri shakl se hi tay hota hai ki log mujhe chahenge ya nahi” tez baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ki koi cheez nahi.
Shayad kuch call, kuch message, ek-do plan, koi naya colleague, logon ke saath ek dopahar. Kuch jaana-pehchana ho sakta hai, kuch bilkul nahi, aur tasveer ke dikhne ka koi sahi ya galat tareeka nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ko abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein neeche rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: call, message, chupchaap tali gayi cheezein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhkar, agar kuch bhi, to kya notice hota hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ek chehre par ek raay, ek pal mein #
Shabd chahe jo bhi rahe hon, wo ek aadmi ki doosre insaan ke ek hisse par raay thi, ek pal mein kahi hui.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki shabd ek cheez ke baare mein the, aur unhein sunne wala usse kahin zyada hai. Us din jo unhone kiya, kaha, banaya ya jiski parwah ki, wo bhi wahin tha; tippani ne bas ek cheez chuni.
Aise rakhkar dekhein, to poori life ka kitna hissa, doston, kaam, hansi aur plan samet, ek raay sachmuch samet sakti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek aur tarah se: agar aapke kisi kareebi dost ne usi insaan se yahi shabd sune hote, to baad mein aap usse kya kehna chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kahan se shuru karte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par kya dikhta hai #
Kuch log us pal ko dheere se dobara dekhte hain to chhoti baatein dikhti hain: kisne hansa, kisne nazar hatayi, kisne kuch nahi kaha, kisne baat badal di. Kabhi kamra un shabdon ke peeche utna nahi tha jitna tab laga, aur kabhi tha, aur ye bhi jaanna zaroori hai.
Kuch aur un logon aur jagahon ko dekhte hain jahan roop ki baat kabhi uthti hi nahi: ek dost jo hafte ki khabar sunna chahta hai, ek teammate jo idea maangta hai, ek chhota cousin jo bas khelna chahta hai. Wo awaazein hamesha wahin thin, bas dheemi.
Inmein se kaun sabse pehle yaad aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jab aap uske saath hote hain to wo kis baare mein baat karta hai, agar us baat ke baare mein nahi jo kahi gayi thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Iski behes jeetna zaroori nahi #
Sulah ka matlab tippani se sehmat hona nahi, chahe wo jaisi bhi lagi ho. Matlab ye ki ek aadmi ka vaakya is par kam bole ki kaun si photo khinche, kaun se nyote par haan ho, aur hafta kaise chale.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab ve tippani ko mann mein haraane ki koshish chhod dete hain. Wo behes shayad hi khatam hoti hai, aur kehne wale ko har kamre ke beech mein rakhti hai.
Shabdon ko unhi ka rehne dena kaisa lagega, ek pal mein kahi ek raay, na ki kuch aisa jo har naye kamre aur har nayi photo mein dhona pade?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar tippani barson se chal rahi hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iski jagah aisa vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Wo ek aadmi ka vaakya tha, ek pal mein kaha gaya, mera saar nahi.”
Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek vaakya hai jo kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch paate hain ki kabhi-kabhi kehne par wo purane vaakya ki thodi jagah le leta hai, khaaskar naye kamre mein jaane se pehle.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo is baare mein sahi ho ki kya kaha gaya aur kisne, bina kisi aur se sehmati maange?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch baat bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hai #
Chehre par kahi har chubhti baat ko jawab, palatwaar ya plan ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch ko notice kiya ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambe din ke aakhir mein bhaari bag farsh par rakha jaata hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taaqat kahan jaye, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un cheezon ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinki unhein parwah hai, aur un logon ke liye jinke saath rehna aasaan hai aur jo roop ko mudda nahi banate.
Aaj shaam ke liye tippani ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya mamla nipat gaya. Bas itna ki use aaj ki baaki cheezon mein, agli call ya agli baatcheet mein, saath nahi chalna padega.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam zara dheela pade #
Sochiye, bas tasveer ki tarah, niyam zara halka. Naya kamra bas logon wala kamra ho sakta hai, aur photo bas ek din ka record.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise aisi baatcheet jismein dhyaan doosre insaan par rahe, ek naya kamra jo bas kamra ho, ya aasaan saath wale logon ke saath kisi dopahar ke liye haan.
Yahan kuch kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi uthe, aapka hai aur notice karne layak, chahe kitna bhi chhota lage. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to chat bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Phir wahi purani baat”
- Dekhiye ki pal ka kaun sa hissa zyada tez hai: shabd, ya lehja
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: ye raay kiski hai, aur kahan kahi gayi thi?
- Ek aise insaan ko yaad kijiye jo aapse baat karta hai, aapke roop ke baare mein nahi
- Aaj chahi hui ek chhoti cheez notice kijiye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhoti, nijee aur sab optional. Jo ho sake, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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