Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye body ko numaaish par bhi rakh deta hai.
Kai bade-buzurgon ko wo waqt yaad hai jab khaana kam tha aur bhara-bhara body hifaazat jaisa lagta tha.
Kuch logon mein ek line baith jaati hai: “Meri body sabke bolne ki cheez hai,” ya “Jo parosa gaya wo khana hi padega, warna kisi ka dil dukhega.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- “Bas, bas” baar-baar kehna jab tak use ansuna na kar diya jaye
- Sab le lena, aur thaali mein idhar-udhar sarkana
- Hans dena aur tippani ko mazaak bana dena
- Jaldi-jaldi kha lena, bas khatam ho
- Aise insaan se chidhne par apraadh-bodh karna jo aapse pyaar karta hai
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Dadi ke yahan chautha paratha
Chandigarh mein Dadi ke yahan Sunday ka lunch. Dadi bina poochhe aapki thaali mein chautha paratha rakh deti hain, aur Chachaji hanskar aapki kalai upar uthate hain: “Oye, kuchh khate-peete bhi ho? Haddiyaan hi haddiyaan!” Sab dekhte hain. Aap “Bas, bas” kehte ho, par karchhi chalti rehti hai. Aap muskurate ho, jaldi kha lete ho, aur ek hi pal mein pyaar aur thoda khula hua mehsoos karte ho.
Body jo sabka mamla hai
Wo pal ek aise niyam par girta hai jo shayad pehle se tha: “Meri body sabke bolne ki cheez hai.” Ye tehzeeb jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki thaali aur aapka aakaar mez ke har insaan ko thama deta hai. Pyaar bhari tippani bhi imtihaan lagne lagti hai, aur aap kuch tay karne se pehle hi chehre se jawab de dete ho.
Pyaar aur tippani saath kyun aate hain
Hum ye niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki kai parivaaron mein khaana hi pyaar jatane ka tareeka hai, aur mana karna pyaar lautane jaisa lagta hai. Shayad kam padne ka purana darr un buzurgon mein ab bhi jeeta hai jo ye kehte hain. Niyam bewakoofi nahi. Ye shaanti aur apnepan ki chaah se aata hai, isme kisi ko sharminda nahi hona. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Mez ko sambhalte rehna
Aisa har pal khaane se thoda chain le jaata hai. Aap parivaarik lunch se pehle tan jaate ho. Mez par dekhte ho ki kaun dekh raha hai. Jo nahi chahiye tha wo khatam kar dete ho, ya jo chahiye tha chhod dete ho, bas scene se bachne ko. Dheere-dheere garm ho sakne wali mez sambhalne ki ek aur jagah ban jaati hai, aur khaana khud, jo maza hona chahiye, baad ki baat ho jaata hai.
Kya sambhalna aapke sukoon layak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya is niyam se kabhi koi khaana zyada achha laga? Ya zyadatar aap bas mez sambhalte rahe? Unki fikr unki hai, aur unhone kya sochkar kaha ye wahi jaante hain, aapko andaaza nahi lagana. Lunch par kahi baat aapki body ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna aapke sukoon ki keemat ke layak hai?
Parwaah lena, faisla chhodna
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki tippani jaayaz thi, ya pyaar sachcha nahi tha. Matlab ye ki aapki thaali aur aapki body sabka mamla nahi rehte, aur ek tippani tay nahi karti ki khaana kaisa lage. Aap parwaah le sakte ho, faisla nahi. Wahin kuch chain lautta hai: tippani mez par reh jaati hai, aur lunch aapka rehta hai.
Being mocked about your body again and again, pressured, threatened or frightened is not okay and is worth taking seriously; someone you trust can help you work out what to do.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMeri body sabke bolne ki cheez hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleUnki fikr unki hai. Meri thaali aur mera sukoon mere hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Is hafte ek khaane mein ek pasand ka swaad gaur se lijiye
- Kadam 2
Jab tippani dobara chale, ek haath mez par rakhkar saans lijiye
- Kadam 3
Ek aisi mez yaad kijiye jahan koi aapki thaali par kuch nahi kehta
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab “Haddiyaan hi haddiyaan” suna, aap kahan the, aur karchhi kiske haath mein thi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Pyaar se bhari thaali, aur upar ek taana #
Chandigarh mein Sunday ka lunch, Dadi ke yahan. Dadi ne bina poochhe chautha paratha rakh diya, upar makhan ki dali. Chachaji aapki kalai pakadkar sabko dikhate hain: “Oye, kuchh khate-peete bhi ho?” Shaadi mein koi aunty plate thamati hai: “Khao-khao, haddiyaan hi haddiyaan!”
Ye aksar pyaar se kaha jaata hai, hansi mein, aur un logon se jo khilakar pyaar jatate hain. Par poore parivaar ke saamne body ko “kam” bataya jaye, to wo pyaar se zyada tole jaane jaisa lagta hai.
Aakhri baar ye, ya isse milta-julta kuch, kahan suna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Karchhi kiske haath mein thi, aur kaun dekh raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Muskaan aur jhijhak ke beech #
Kuch logon ko gale mein kasaav lagta hai, muskaan chalti rehti hai aur thaali bharti jaati hai, aur ek bebas-si hansi nikalti hai. Koi kai baar “Bas, bas” kehkar haar maan leta hai. Koi chupchaap kha leta hai ki pal khatam ho.
Pyaar aur tippani saath aate hain, aur ye uljhan deta hai. Khaane ko mana karna insaan ko mana karne jaisa lag sakta hai, aur haan karna tippani se sehmat hone jaisa. Dono ek hi second mein ho sakte hain.
Uske baad ke secondon mein aapke haathon ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jab khaana aata raha aur sab dekhte rahe, to kaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ek vaakya mein khaana, pyaar aur body #
Bahut se gharon mein khilana parwaah kehne ka tareeka hai. Isliye patle hone par tippani aksar asal mein shabdon mein lipti fikr hoti hai, aur fikr ko faisle se alag pehchanna mushkil ho sakta hai. Sunne wale ko ye dono bhari thaali ke saath, sabke saamne samajhne padte hain.
Ye body ko numaaish par bhi rakh deta hai. Sab kalai, kandhe, chehre ko dekhte hain, aur insaan aisi cheez ban jaata hai jise khaane se theek karna hai. Jiske liye wo aaya tha, cousins, gaane, dopahar, wo peechhe chala jaata hai.
Jab thaali bhari gayi aur tippani hui, to usne kis cheez par qabza kar liya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur aap us mehfil mein kisliye aaye the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab tippani andar ki mez par baith jaye #
Ye agle khaane par aa baith sakti hai: “Meri thaali par sabki nazar hai.” “Sabko dikh raha hai.” “Bas khatam kar doon.” Kabhi pehle niwaale se pehle hi aa jaati hai, ghar par bhi, aisi mez par bhi jahan us mehfil ka koi nahi.
Shabd ek mez par, ek khaane ke dauran kahe gaye the, aur lunch tak bhoole bhi ja chuke honge. Par chunki ye apni hi soch jaisi lagti hai, ye kisi khaas rishtedaar ki bachi baat nahi, seedhe-seedhe hosh jaisi lagti hai.
Ye kiski awaaz mein bolti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya kisi khaas mez par uthayi hui?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch parivaaron mein ye kaise chala #
Kai bade-buzurgon ko wo waqt yaad hai jab khaana kam tha aur bhara-bhara body hifaazat jaisa lagta tha. Kuch ne batware ke baad khaali haath naye shehar mein shuruaat ki. “Haddiyaan hi haddiyaan” mein wo purana darr ho sakta hai. Wo sachcha hai, aur aaj ka waqt unhein alag lag sakta hai.
Jo bachcha har mulaqaat mein ye sunta hai, wo seekh sakta hai ki uski body hamesha jaanchi jaati hai aur uski bhookh sabka mamla hai. Kehne ka irada jo bhi raha ho, jo reh jaata hai wo jaanch hai.
Pehli baar kab dikha ki parivaar ki mehfil mein aapka khaana dekha ja raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Tab zyadatar kaun hota tha, aur aapne uske baare mein kya karna seekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Thaali kiska mamla hai, is par ek niyam #
Kuch logon mein ek line baith jaati hai: “Meri body sabke bolne ki cheez hai,” ya “Jo parosa gaya wo khana hi padega, warna kisi ka dil dukhega.”
Aise niyam niyam jaise lagte hi nahi. Wo tehzeeb jaise lagte hain, jaise darwaaze par joote utaarna. Isiliye inhein kabhi-kabhaar nikaalkar dekhna theek hai.
Is niyam ko aisi cheez ki tarah dekha ja sakta hai jo kisi tippani ne peechhe chhodi, koi tathya nahi.
Kya aisi line aapko fit baithti hai, ya poori tarah nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kin mezon par ye ab bhi fit lagta hai, aur kin par nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Dekhe jaane ki chupchaap keemat #
Ye ghar ke lunch, tyohaar ke dinon, picnic aur bina maange aa gayi thaaliyon ko chhoo sakta hai. Kuch log khaane ki mez par pahunchne se pehle hi usse darne lagte hain.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jab dhyaan ka ek hissa is par rahe ki body logon ko kaisi dikh rahi hai ya thaali kaise padhi ja rahi hai, to khaane ke swaad, qisson aur mez ke logon ke liye kam bachta hai.
Kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Mez ko sambhalne mein asli mehnat lagti hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein isne kya liya, agar kuch: koi khaana, koi mulaqaat, bhookh, koi dopahar?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek aam Tuesday, jab niyam zor se bole #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Meri body sabke bolne ki cheez hai” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad desk par jaldi mein khaya tiffin, thaali par nazar daalkar dekhna ki kaun dekh raha hai, subah se jis family dinner se darr lag raha hai. Kuch jaana-pehchana lag sakta hai, kuch bilkul nahi, aur tasveer ka koi sahi-galat roop nahi.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer ko jab chahein kinare rakha ja sakta hai.
Usme kya hai: khaane, messages, wo nyote jin par “Dekhte hain” kaha gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Pyaar aur tippani saath aa sakte hain #
Dadi ka ek aur paratha pyaar ho sakta hai, aur haddiyon wali tippani fikr, aur ek doosre ko kaatta nahi. Insaan pyaar mehsoos kar sakta hai aur phir bhi nahi chahta ki parivaar ke saamne us par baat ho.
Ye dono ek saath sach ho sakte hain. Khaana parwaah ki tarah liya ja sakta hai, aur tippani kisi aur ki fikr ki tarah neeche rakhi ja sakti hai. Ek ko lene ka matlab doosri ko dhona nahi.
Agar koi qareebi dost batata ki shaadi mein thaali bhari thi aur “Haddiyaan hi haddiyaan” suna, to lautte waqt aap usse kya kehna chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Dheeme replay mein logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Kuch log ise dheere-dheere dekhte hain to dikhta hai ki mez kitni jaldi aage badh gayi, baghal wale cousin par bhi wahi fikr baras rahi thi, aur Dadi ka haath isliye chalta raha kyunki unka pyaar jatane ka yahi tareeka hai.
Kuch ko wo mezein dikhti hain jahan khaana baat ka mudda nahi: dost ke flat mein sofe par noodles, canteen ka lunch jahan koi dekhta nahi, ek cousin jo bas katori aage badha deta hai. Wo mezein hamesha se thin.
Sabse pehle kaun si mez yaad aati hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wahan log kis baare mein baat karte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Na thaali khaali karni, na hawa saaf #
Sulah ka matlab tippani se sehmat hona nahi, na ye tay karna ki pyaar nakli tha. Matlab ye ki tippani ka is par kam chale ki khaana kaisa lagta hai aur baaki dopahar kaisi jaati hai.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo har mez ko imtihaan banana chhod dete hain. Imtihaan ka ant nahi, aur ye ek tippani ko har khaane ke sirhaane bithaye rakhta hai.
Agla khaana kaisa hoga agar “Haddiyaan hi haddiyaan” usi ke paas reh jaye jisne kaha, ek din ek mez par kahi gayi baat bankar?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar wo tippani saalon se chal rahi hai, to usse seedhe behas ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajay ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Unki fikr sachchi hai. Par wo meri report nahi hai.”
Ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Ye bas ek line hai jo kuch log aazmate hain, aur kuch ko lagta hai ki baithne se pehle chupchaap kehne par purani tippani ki thodi jagah bhar jaati hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo pyaar ke saath naram ho aur jo kaha gaya uske baare mein sahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein mez par hi reh sakti hain #
Har tippani ko jawab, safai ya agli mulaqaat ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur sabke uthne par khaali katoriyon ke saath mez par chhoda ja sakta hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse qisson, mazaak aur un logon ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinke saath rehna aasaan hai.
Tippani ko mez par chhod dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo sahi thi, ya baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki use agle khaane tak ya aaj raat tak saath nahi aana hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Khaana bas khaana ho sakta hai, logon, baaton aur swaad ke saath.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: parivaar ki mez par bina tane baithna, pehla niwaala theek se chakhna, aisi baatcheet jo bodies ko chhooti hi nahi.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota ho. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagega, zara-sa hi sahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapka pehla chhota nishaan kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi khaane wali baat”
- Gaur kijiye ki zyada zor se kya laga: shabd, ya karchhi
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: ye fikr kiski hai, aur kahan se shuru hui?
- Ek aisi mez yaad kijiye jahan koi aapki thaali par kuch nahi kehta
- Pichhle khaane ki ek chhoti-si cheez yaad kijiye jo aapko achhi lagi
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab “Haddiyaan hi haddiyaan” suna, aap kahan the, aur karchhi kiske haath mein thi?
- Kaun sa hissa sabse der tak raha: shabd, hansi, ya bhari thaali?
- Jab pyaar aur tippani saath aaye, to kaun-kaun se mile-jule ehsaas ek saath the?
- Jis din tippani baar-baar chale, us pal aaspaas kya hota hai?
- Agar niyam thoda dheela ho, to agle khaane par sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?