Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Bachpan ki ye tasveer ki aage ke liye sab jagah par hai, mann mein ek tarah ke samjhaute jaisi baith sakti hai, jiski sharten kisi aur ne kabhi nahi dekhin, aur jab lage ki wo nibhaya nahi gaya to chubh sakti hai.
Kuch logon mein ye dekhne se ugi: school ka ek dost jiske agle kadam hamesha pehle se tay lagte the, ek cousin parivaar jo khulkar bachchon ke bhavishya ki yojanaon ki baat karta tha, padosi ka ladka jo kaam par bina kisi chinta ke laga.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Achhe maa-baap bachchon ko aage ke liye taiyaar karte hain,” ya “Agar unhone mere liye pehle se socha hota, to aaj meri jagah kuch aur aage hoti.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Apni shuruaat ki dost ki shuruaat se baar-baar, chupchaap tulna karna
- Har cousin ki khabar mein padhna ki uske parivaar ki yojanaein kya kehti hain
- Kisi ki achhi khabar par chubhan hona, phir usi chubhan par bura lagna
- Ghar par kuch na kehna, jabki khayal har mulaqat ke neeche chupchaap baitha rahe
- Ise bewakoofi kehkar taal dena, phir agli baar kisi ko sahara milte dekh isse milna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Dost ne jis sahare ka zikr kiya
Chandigarh ke Sector 17 mein Friday ki shaam, office ke baad. Ek dost baaton-baaton mein batati hai ki shuruaat mein uske maa-baap ne use kaisa sahara diya tha. Sab sir hilate hain aur aage badh jaate hain. Aap shishtata se muskurate ho, chai ka ghoont lete ho, aur kuch nahi kehte. Par ghar lautti bus mein shehar ki batiyan phisalti dekhte hue ek dheema, bhaari vaakya sir mein ghoomta rehta hai.
Unhein aapke liye taiyaari karni thi
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Maa-baap ko mere future ke liye taiyaari karke rakhni chahiye thi.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Kuch logon ko sach mein shuruaati sahara milta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki zindagi ko kisi aur ki shuruaati rekha se naapta rehta hai. Apne dum par uthaya har kadam aapke kiye ki jagah kisi kami ka saboot lagne lagta hai.
Surakshit shuruaat chahna swabhavik kyun
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki surakshit shuruaat chahna swabhavik hai. Shaayad aapne doston ko aisi madad paate dekha jisse sab aasaan lagta tha. Shaayad har kadam, forms se lekar pehle kiraye ke ghar tak, aapko akele sulajhana pada. Jo bhi ho, surakshit shuruaat ki chaah lalach nahi. Wo zindagi banate hue thaame jaane ki chaah se aayi hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Kise madad mili, ye dekhna
Har nayi tulna thodi aur chubhti hai. Aap dekhte ho kise madad mili thi aur kise nahi. Dimaag mein chupchaap ginti rakhte ho ki doosron ko kya diya gaya. Apni pragati chhoti lagne lagti hai, kyunki aap use kisi aur ki rekha se naap rahe ho. Aapki achhi khabar bhi is khayal se rang jaati hai ki kitna aasaan ho sakta tha.
Kya ye tulna iske laayak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya shuruaati rekhaon ki tulna se kabhi aapka apna raasta aasaan hua? Ya zyadatar aapki pragati jitni hai usse chhoti lagne lagi? Parivaar ke bahar koi nahi jaanta ki uske faislon ke peechhe kya tha. Dono haal mein, aapko mili shuruaat iska paimana nahi ki aapne uske baad kya banaya. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna apne kadmon se jo leta hai, uske laayak hai?
Jo aapne banaya, wo aapka hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki farq asli nahi. Matlab ye ki aapki pragati ko ab kisi aur ki rekha se naapna zaroori nahi. Jo kuch aapne banaya hai, wo aapne banaya hai. Aap pehle, poori tarah us par garv kar sakte ho, tulna ko saath jode bina. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapka raasta aapka banta hai, har kadam, kisi kami ki kahani ki jagah.
If money in your family has ever been used to control or frighten you, or what was yours was taken, that is something different and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleUnhein mere liye taiyaari karni chahiye thi.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleJo maine banaya, maine banaya. Mera raasta mera hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Mann mein teen cheezon ke naam lijiye jo aapne apne dum par banayin
- Din 2
Jab dost se tulna shuru ho, rukiye aur saans lijiye
- Din 3
Aaj ek aisi cheez ka maza lijiye jise aapne khud sambhav kiya
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapke parivaar mein kisne aapko pehle se soche jaane ka ehsaas karaya, aur unhone kya kiya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Kisi aur ki khabar ke saath aane wala khayal #
Koi dost lagbhag baaton-baaton mein batati hai ki uske maa-baap ne use shuruaat kaise di thi. Ghar lautti bus mein ek dheema vaakya peechhe aata hai: “Maa-baap ko mere future ke liye bachakar rakhna chahiye tha.”
Ye deck ek aam shuruaati sahare ke baare mein hai, kisi shaadi, dahej ya kisi raqam ke baare mein nahi. Zyadatar yah kisi aur ki achhi khabar ke saath aane wala ek dheema vaakya hai, jo kisi ke dhyaan dene se pehle khisak jaata hai, kabhi-kabhi sochne wale ke bhi.
Maa-baap aur apne future ke baare mein ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya, aur tab aapne kiski khabar suni thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Soch se pehle shuru hoti tulna #
Kuch logon ko halka-sa dhakka lagta hai jab koi dost baaton-baaton mein kahe ki uske maa-baap ne “wo sab pehle se set kar rakha tha,” ya jab Family group mein kisi cousin ka agla kadam bataya jaye aur sab dil ki qatar bhej dein.
Kuch ko kuch teekha-sa mehsoos hota hai, tulna pehle hi chal rahi hoti hai isse pehle ki tulna karne ka faisla hua ho. Ehsaas pehle aata hai; uska matlab batane wali kahani ek pal baad.
Pichhli baar jab kisi ne apne parivaar se mili shuruaat ka zikr kiya, to sochne ka waqt milne se pehle aapko kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Iske bheetar ki ummeed aam hai #
Ye ummeed theek-si lagti hai, aur iske bheetar ki chaah mein asli samajh hai. Bade hokar zindagi sthir zameen se, thode sahare ke saath shuru karna ek bahut aam chaah hai, aur doosron ko wo milte dekhkar wo aam tareeke jaisi dikhne lagti hai.
Bachpan ki ye tasveer ki aage ke liye sab jagah par hai, mann mein ek tarah ke samjhaute jaisi baith sakti hai, jiski sharten kisi aur ne kabhi nahi dekhin, aur jab lage ki wo nibhaya nahi gaya to chubh sakti hai.
Aapne jo shuruaati sahara chaha tha, use ek aam din mein sochein, to us din mein kya alag hota?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Tulna karti rehne wali awaaz #
“Baaki maa-baap toh pehle se sochte the.” “Sabke liye intezaam kyun lagta hai, bas apne liye nahi?” Ye awaaz kisi dost ki nayi shuruaat scroll karne ke baad ke minuton mein, ya kisi paarivarik samaroh se lautte waqt bolti hai.
Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki tulna uski or ishara karti hai jo asal mein khalta hai: sirf shuruaati sahara nahi, balki is ehsaas ka na hona ki kisi ne aapke aane wale saalon ke baare mein pehle se socha.
Jab awaaz ginati hai ki doosron ko kya mila, to wo ek cheez kaun-si hai jo wo chahti hai ki aapke liye hoti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Shuruaati sahare ki tasveer kahan se aati hai #
Kuch logon mein ye dekhne se ugi: school ka ek dost jiske agle kadam hamesha pehle se tay lagte the, ek cousin parivaar jo khulkar bachchon ke bhavishya ki yojanaon ki baat karta tha, padosi ka ladka jo kaam par bina kisi chinta ke laga.
Kuch mein shabdon se: Tauji ka kehna ki maa-baap ko bachchon ke liye pehle se sochna chahiye, ya kisi paarivarik jamavde mein kisi ki sochi-samjhi shuruaat ki kahani. Doosron ko jo mila, ya milta dikha, wo chupchaap tay kar deta hai ki saamanya kya hai. Kuch log aisi tasveer ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Kaun-sa pal tha jisne pehli baar aapko tasveer di ki maa-baap bachchon ke liye kya intezaam karte hain, aur aap kiske parivaar ko dekh rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Tulna ke neeche ka niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Achhe maa-baap bachchon ko aage ke liye taiyaar karte hain,” ya “Agar unhone mere liye pehle se socha hota, to aaj meri jagah kuch aur aage hoti.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har tulna kaise lagti hai.
Ye niyam se zyada aise lagta hai jaise cheezein honi chahiye, aur doosre parivaaron mein ise dekhkar ye tathya jaisa lag sakta hai. Yahi ise dekhne laayak banata hai, aapke apne parivaar aur apne raaste ke bagal mein, jaise wo ab hain.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ki zindagi mein aage ke liye taiyaar kiye jaane wala niyam kahan fit baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Tulna kya chheen sakti hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai dost ki achhi khabar par muskaan aur andar chubhan, ek paarivarik mulaqat jahan purana khayal table par ankaha baitha hai, aapki apni yojana jo shuru hone se pehle hi kisi aur ki shuruaat se tauli ja chuki. Shaant cheezein, phir bhi dhone mein bhaari.
Tulna kuch chhipa bhi sakti hai. Jab chahe hue sahare ka chashma chadh jaata hai, to jo maa-baap ne diya wo dikhna mushkil ho sakta hai, aur aapke apne kadam us waqt jitne bade lage the usse chhote dikhne lag sakte hain.
Itni der dhoyi gayi ummeed mein asli wazan hota hai.
Pichhle saal kaun-sa aam pal apni shuruaat ki kisi aur ki shuruaat se tulna mein sabse zyada ranga tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Tulna ke paanch saal aur #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “maa-baap ko mere future ke liye bachakar rakhna chahiye tha” zor se baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shaayad kisi dost ka update do baar padha gaya, aapki shuruaat uski ke bagal mein rakhkar chupchaap tulna, ghar ki call jo shisht aur chhoti rehti hai, aapki apni yojana jo tab tak taal di gayi jab tak wo kisi aur ki jaisi na lage.
Yahan abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur isse kuch badalna bhi zaroori nahi.
Usmein kya hai: sandesh, doston ki khabrein, yojanaein, na kahi gayi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya ho jaata hai, aur kya intezaar mein rehta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Shuruaati sahara, kis roop mein? #
Bahar se dekhi kisi dost ki shuruaat chupchaap saamanya ki tasveer ban sakti hai, bhale wo ek parivaar ki kahani ka sirf ek hissa dikhati ho, aur uske peechhe kya hai wo kuch nahi.
“Mere future ke liye bachaya hota” mein kai chaahatein aa sakti hain: shuruaati sahara, pehle se soche jaane ka ehsaas, aage ki kam chinta, bahut pehle se khayal rakha jaana. Inmein se kuch ek khaas tarah ki madad ke baare mein thin; kuch aaj aapke liye doosre dhang se maayne rakh sakti hain.
“Mere future ke liye bachaya hota” mein jo kuch bhara hai, usmein aapke liye sabse zaroori hissa kaun-sa hai, aur kaun-sa hissa pehle se soche jaane ke ehsaas ka hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Ghar se phir bhi kya aaya #
Jis shuruaat ki ummeed thi uske bagal mein maa-baap se kuch toh aaya, chahe kitna bhi chhota ya asamaan: unhein dekhkar padi koi aadat, koi recipe, bade interview se pehle ek phone call, kharab din par hansne ka ek dhang.
Inhein dekhne se kuch tay nahi hota, aur ummeed radd nahi hoti; dono saath sach ho sakte hain. Rozmarra ki jo cheezein kabhi tohfe ki tarah batayi nahi gayin, tulna ke zor mein un par nazar pher jaana sabse aasaan hota hai.
Kuch din bahut kam yaad aata hai, aur wo theek hai.
Rozmarra ke andaaz mein maa-baap ne kya diya jo aaj bhi aapke jeene mein dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Aapka agla kadam, pichhle ke bagal mein #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye bahut zyada maangti thi, ya ki sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jis shuruaat ki aapne ummeed ki aur jo mili, unke beech ka faasla har dost ki khabar aur har paarivarik mulaqat ka ehsaas tay karna band kar de.
Isme jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: sthir zameen chahna, pehle se soche jaane ka ehsaas chahna. Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo tulna hai, taaki cousin ki achhi khabar bas uski achhi khabar rahe, aur aapka apna agla kadam aapke apne pichhle kadam ke bagal mein rakha ja sake.
Parivaar mein buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hotin, aapke liye aur unke liye. Agar aapke parivaar mein paise ka istemaal kabhi aap par qaboo rakhne ke liye hua ho, ya jo aapka tha wo le liya gaya ho, to wo kuch alag hai aur gambhirta se lene laayak.
Is ummeed se sulah ki ek aam shaam sochiye: aap apne liye kya yojana bana rahe honge, aur kiska maza le rahe honge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Maa-baap ko mere future ke liye bachakar rakhna chahiye tha” se ulajhne ki jagah, kuch log taiyaar rakhte hain: “Maine shuruaati sahare ki ummeed ki thi, aur yahan se mere uthaye kadam phir bhi ginte hain.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas purane ke bagal mein baithna hai.
Shuru mein ye akda hua lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ko apna vaakya istemaal se narm hota lagta hai; kuch ko wo kabhi poora fit nahi baithta, aur doosra hamesha aazmaya ja sakta hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo ummeed ke baare mein imaandaar ho aur agla kadam phir bhi aapke paas rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch tulnaayein aaj raat aaram kar sakti hain #
Zindagi ki shuruaat ke baare mein har khayal is hafte sulajhana zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, pal bhar mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur alag rakha ja sakta hai, jaise Chandigarh ke kisi cafe ki table par ulta rakha phone, ya darwaze ke paas shelf par chhod diya gaya.
Paison ki baat poori tarah table se bahar reh sakti hai. Agar aapke parivaar mein paise ka istemaal kabhi aap par qaboo rakhne ke liye hua ho, ya jo aapka tha wo le liya gaya ho, to wo kuch alag hai aur gambhirta se lene laayak. Aapki mili shuruaat ke baare mein ek ummeed nijee reh sakti hai.
Aaj shaam is khayal ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya baat tay ho gayi. Bas itna ki kisi aur ki shuruaat ko aaj raat aapke saath ghar nahi aana hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar ye thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Chaah ab bhi hai, par dost ki shuruaat uski kahani hai, aapke parivaar ya aap par faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: tulna ko shuru hote dekhkar beech mein rakh dena, cousin ki khabar saadi muskaan ke saath sunna, ya ek shaam jo poori tarah aapki apni yojana par jaye.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne laayak hai. Aage, dekhiye ki is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Dekhiye kis tarah ki khabar tulna shuru karti hai, aur kis tarah ki nahi
- Jab kisi ki khabar pahunche, tulna ko shuru hote dekhiye, aur beech mein hi use neeche rakh dijiye
- Aaj ki ek chhoti chaah dekhiye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: iska kaun-sa hissa pehle se soche jaane ke ehsaas ka hai?
- Ek saal pehle ka apna raasta aaj ke raaste ke bagal mein sochiye, aur dekhiye kya aage badha
Chhoti, nijee aur sab apni marzi ki. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapke parivaar mein kisne aapko pehle se soche jaane ka ehsaas karaya, aur unhone kya kiya?
- Kiski shuruaat se aap apni shuruaat ki tulna karte paate ho, aur aap kya dekhte ho?
- Jab aap chhote the, tab aapne socha tha ki maa-baap aapke future ke liye kya karenge?
- Agar maa-baap se is ummeed ka wazan thoda kam ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?
- Maa-baap ne aapko rozmarra ke dhang se kya diya, jise aap thoda aur notice karna chahenge?