Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Jo bheetar se saaf dikhta hai wo shehar ke us paar se mushkil se dikhta hai.
Kuch logon mein ye dekhne se aati hai: maa jo der shaam factory se kaam ke kapdon mein lautti thin, pita jo suraj nikalne se pehle dukaan ke liye nikal jaate the.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo samajhte ki ye kitna mushkil hai, to unhein garv hota,” ya “Meri mehnat tabhi ginti jaati hai jab ghar wale use dekh lein.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Har call par job ko zaroorat se zyada samjhana, aur koshish karke aur bura mehsoos karna
- “Kaam kaisa chal raha hai?” ka jawab “badhiya” dekar poori baat taal dena
- Zaroorat se zyada der tak kaam karna, aadha sochte hue ki ghar mein koi dekhe
- Koi post ya project ka naam bata dena, aur phir pratikriya dekhna
- Job par pehle khud hi mazaak kar lena, taaki koi aur use chhota na kar paye
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Client call jo ek baje khatam hui
Raat ke ek baje, Gurugram. Chicago ke client ke saath call aakhir khatam hoti hai aur aap jalti aankhon se laptop band karte ho. Agli shaam Prayagraj se Mummy phone par kehti hain, “Tum toh bas computer par baithe rehte ho, isme thakna kaisa?” Aap saath mein hans dete ho, par jabda kas jaata hai, aur haddiyon ki thakan achanak adrishya lagti hai, jaise uski koi ginti nahi.
Unhein samajhna chahiye ki kitna mushkil hai
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere maa-baap ko samajhna chahiye ki meri job kitni mushkil hai.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Aakhir aap itni mehnat karte ho. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki thakan ko asli lagne ke liye unki manyata ka intezaar karwata hai. Lambi raatein, mehnat, tanav, sab hawa mein latke rehte hain, jab tak ghar se koi keh na de, “Sunkar toh mushkil lagta hai.”
Samjha jaana aaram kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki parivaar se samjha jaana aaram jaisa lagta hai. Shaayad aapke maa-baap ka kaam sharirik tha, aur wo aapke kaam ki tasveer nahi bana paate. Shaayad kabhi wo sab samajhte the aur ab aapki duniyaein door ho gayin. Jo bhi ho, chahna ki wo aapki saari mehnat dekhein, kamzori nahi. Ye chaahat hai ki aapke mushkil din jaane jaayein. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Thakan mein khud ko samjhana
Har berukhi wali tippani pehle se thake sharir par girti hai. Aap apni job lambi-lambi samjhane lagte ho, unhein manane ki ummeed mein. Ya kaam ki baat karna hi chhod dete ho. Baad mein nahate hue unki baat dohrate ho. Apni hi mehnat ke andar akele lagne lagte ho, aur aapke chhutti ke din ek chup behas dhone lagte hain jo aap kabhi kisi se kehte nahi.
Kya unki samajh intezaar ke laayak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya unke samajhne ke intezaar se job kabhi aasaan hui? Ya zyadatar pehli thakan ke upar doosri thakan jud gayi? Aaj ki naukriyan bahar se sochna mushkil hoti hain, aur ye hamesha parwah ki kami nahi. Dono haal mein, unki samajh aapki mehnat ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke laayak hai jo ye aapse leta hai?
Khud jaanna ki kitna mushkil hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap chahna band kar do ki wo samjhein. Matlab ye ki aapki thakan ko asli hone ke liye unki muhar nahi chahiye. Aap jaante ho un raaton ki keemat kya hai. Aap apni mehnat ki izzat pehle, poori tarah kar sakte ho. Aap isliye aaram kar sakte ho ki sharir maangta hai, isliye nahi ki koi sehmat hai. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapki mehnat kam se kam ek vyakti dekhta hai: aap.
If talk about work at home ever turns into something that frightens you, that is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleUnhein samajhna chahiye ki meri job kitni mushkil hai.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMujhe pata hai ki kitna mushkil hai. Aaram ke liye itna kaafi hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Aaj kaam mein sambhali ek mushkil baat ka naam lijiye
- Din 2
Bina wajah bataye das minute aaram kijiye
- Din 3
Khud se kahiye “aaj ka din mushkil tha” aur mann se kahiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapki zindagi mein kaun pehle se samajhta hai ki aapke kaam mein kya lagta hai, aur aap kaise jaante ho?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Lambe din ke baad ghar aane wala vaakya #
Raat ek baje Chicago ke client ke saath call khatam hoti hai, Gurugram ke kiraye ke flat mein laptop band hota hai, aur uske aur neend ke beech kahin wo vaakya aa jaata hai: “Maa-baap ko meri job ki mehnat dikhni chahiye.”
Uske neeche dekhe jaane ki ek chhoti chaah baithi hai: mehnat sach hai, din lambe hain, aur jinki raay bachpan se maayne rakhti aayi hai, wo koshish karein to iska kuch hissa toh soch hi sakte hain.
Maa-baap aur apni job ke baare mein ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya, aur us din office mein abhi-abhi kya hua tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Kandhe uchkane se pehle ki chubhan #
Kuch logon ko halki chubhan hoti hai jab maa-baap mein se koi kahe “Tum toh bas computer par hi baithe rehte ho”, ya “Humare zamaane mein toh isse kahin zyada mehnat thi”: jabda kas jaata hai aur kisi shaant khayal se pehle sab kuch ginane ka mann hota hai.
Kuch ko kuch zyada sapaat lagta hai: kandhe uchak jaate hain, “Theek hai, Mummy” nikalta hai, aur baat mausam ya kisi cousin ki khabar par chali jaati hai. Ehsaas pehle aata hai; samjhane ka irada na karna aksar ek second baad.
Pichhli baar jab maa-baap mein se kisi ne aapki job ek chhoti-si line mein nipta di, to jawab dene se pehle aapko kya laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Mehnat dikhe, ye chahna aam baat hai #
Jinhone aapko pala hai wo dekhein ki aap kitni mehnat karte ho, ye bahut aam chaah hai. Asli mehnat kya hai, is baare mein unki raay aksar pehli raay thi jo aapne jaani, isliye aapki job ki unki tasveer ab bhi report card ke nishaan jaisi lag sakti hai.
Jo bheetar se saaf dikhta hai wo shehar ke us paar se mushkil se dikhta hai. Tanav bhari callon, der raat ki gadbadiyon aur chhoti jeeton ka hafta aapke sir mein zor se bajta hai aur kahin aur sofe se lagbhag adrishya rehta hai, khaaskar jab job unke liye nayi ho.
Aapke maa-baap ko aapke ek aam kaamkaji din ke baare mein asal mein kya pata hai, aur aapne kya ummeed ki thi ki wo khud soch lenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Muqadme ki file rakhne wali awaaz #
“Inhein kuch andaza hi nahi ki mere din kaise hain.” “Engineering hoti to samajh jaate.” “Das baar samjha dun, tab bhi baat nahi pahunchegi.” Ye awaaz phone rakhne ke baad bolti hai, jab call sone jaate waqt phir se chalti hai.
Kabhi-kabhi chaah ke saath purani awaazein bhi hoti hain: maa-baap ka khayal ki dhang ki job kya hoti hai, kisi rishtedaar ka sawaal, kisi bhai-behen ke kaam se tulna. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki job ki unki apni samajh daba jaati hai.
Jab ye awaaz maa-baap ke saamne aapki job ki pairvi karti hai, to kaun-si line baar-baar dohrati hai, aur asal mein kiski awaaz ka jawab de rahi hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Mehnat ki tasveer kahan se aati hai #
Kuch logon mein ye dekhne se aati hai: maa jo der shaam factory se kaam ke kapdon mein lautti thin, pita jo suraj nikalne se pehle dukaan ke liye nikal jaate the. Us tasveer mein mehnat wo hai jo kamre ke us paar se dikh jaye.
Kuch mein shabdon se: shaadi mein cousin ke baare mein kaha gaya “asli job wo jo sabko samajh aaye”, ya chacha ka poochhna ki analyst asal mein karta kya hai. Kuch log aisi tasveer ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Kis bade ne aapko pehli baar dikhaya ki mehnat kaisi dikhti hai, aur aapko wo kya karte hue yaad aate hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Samjhe jaane ke neeche ka niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo samajhte ki ye kitna mushkil hai, to unhein garv hota,” ya “Meri mehnat tabhi ginti jaati hai jab ghar wale use dekh lein.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har phone call kaisi lage.
Andar se isme se kuch bhi niyam jaisa nahi lagta. Ye seedhi-si chaah lagti hai, aur isme sach mein samajhdaari hai. Yahi ise dekhne laayak banata hai, aapke maa-baap aur aapki job ke bagal mein, jaise wo ab hain, na ki jaise school ke dinon mein the.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ki zindagi mein gharwalon ke aapki mehnat dekhne wala niyam kahan fit baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Intezaar saal bhar mein kya chheen sakta hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai promotion ki baat itni jaldi mein bata dena ki wo darz hi na ho, ek achha hafta apne tak rakhna kyunki samjhana bahut lagta hai, ya chhutti ka Sunday job ka bachav karte beetna, aaram karne ke bajaay. Chhoti cheezein, phir bhi bhaari.
Kuch aur bhi chupchaap aa sakta hai. Kaam ki parwah bhaari nahi hoti; wazan tab aata hai jab job par har tippani use karne wale par faisle jaisi lagne lage, aur wo faisla ghar ke logon ki taraf se aata dikhe.
Pichhle kuch mahino mein maa-baap se kaam ki kaun-si baatcheet sabse zyada is intezaar se bani ki koi samjhe, aur us intezaar ki keemat kya rahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, “theek hai” kehte hue #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “unhein samajhna chahiye ki meri job kitni mushkil hai” zor se baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shaayad gadbadiyan sulajhane ka lamba din, chhoota hua lunch, phir ghar ki call jahan poora hafta “theek hai” mein nipat jaata hai kyunki baaki batana bahut lamba lagta hai; kisi cousin ki job par maa-baap ka sawaal; aur ek shaant shaam.
Isme kuch bhavishyavani nahi, aur tasveer kabhi bhi rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: meeting, ghar ki callein, jo chhod diya gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Samjha jaana, kis tarah? #
Parivaar itna kareeb lag sakta hai ki khaali jagahein bhar le, aur aksar wo khaali hi rehti hain. Kuch maa-baap job ko ek shabd se sochte hain, ek imaarat ya ek post, aur ghante, dabav aur chhoti jeetein tasveer mein aati hi nahi.
“Samjhein ki kitna mushkil hai” ke kai matlab ho sakte hain: jaanna ki kaam mein kya hota hai, jaanna ki wo thakata hai, kabhi uske baare mein poochha jaana, ya bas use aasaan na kaha jaana. Inmein se kuch samjhane par tike hain; kuch is par ki wo kya soch paate hain.
“Meri job kitni mushkil hai, ye samjhein” mein jo kuch bhara hai, usmein aapke liye sabse zaroori tukda kaun-sa hai, aur aaj kaun-sa kam zaroori hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Ghar se pehle se kya aata hai #
Lambe haftom ke neeche ghar se pehle se kuch chhoti cheezein aa rahi ho sakti hain: aadhi raat ko “Khaana khaya?”, aapke industry ke baare mein kisi ka bheja lekh, Papa ka padosi ko batana ki aap kahan kaam karte ho.
Ye chukane ka bill nahi, aur ye chaah ko radd nahi kartin; dono sach ho sakte hain. Bina maange di gayi cheezein lambe hafte ke aage chhoti lag sakti hain, aur unmein se kuch jitna dikhta hai usse zyada keh sakti hain.
Kisi hafte inmein se kuch na aaye, to wo bhi theek hai.
Ek aam kaamkaji hafte mein maa-baap pehle se aapko kya dete hain, jise aap thoda aur thaame rakhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Faisle ke bina kaam ko ginne dena #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye bahut zyada maangti thi, ya sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jo aapne ummeed ki ki maa-baap dekhenge aur jo wo dekhte hain, unke beech ka faasla har kaam ki baatcheet ko tay na kare.
Isme jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: ki aapki mehnat ko gambhirta se liya jaye, ki job ko aasaan na kaha jaye. Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo hai unki raay par kitna tika hai, taaki jin dinon kuch samjhaya hi na jaye, kaam aapke liye phir bhi ginaa jaye.
Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hotin, aapke liye aur unke liye. Agar ghar par kaam ki baat kabhi aisi ho jaye ki darr lage, to use gambhirta se lijiye.
Is chaah se sulah karke Sunday ki call sochiye: kis baare mein baat hogi, aur kya chhodna achha lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Lambe haftom ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Maa-baap ko meri job ki mehnat dikhni chahiye” se ulajhne ki jagah, kuch log taiyaar rakhte hain: “Kaash wo mera kaam aur dekh paate, aur mujhe pata hai ki mere din kya maangte hain.” Ise purani line ko haraana nahi hai, bas uske bagal mein khade hona hai.
Pehle ye feeka lag sakta hai, ya apne aap se baat karne jaisa. Kuch logon ko apna vaakya istemaal ke saath jaana-pehchana lagne lagta hai; kuch ko wo kabhi poora fit nahi baithta, aur koi doosra hamesha aazmaya ja sakta hai.
Apne kaam ke baare mein aapke shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo chaah ke baare mein imaandaar ho aur jiske liye maa-baap ka sehmat hona zaroori na ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Job ka kuch hissa kaam par reh sakta hai #
Kaam ke baare mein har galatfehmi isi hafte sudharni zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek baar aah bhari ja sakti hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise Pune ke flat ke darwaze par tika laptop bag ya Noida ke office ke hook par tanga ID card.
Kuch ghar shaayad kabhi poori tarah na samjhein, aur kuch saabit karne ki zaroorat nahi. Agar ghar par kaam ki baat kabhi aisi ho jaye ki aapko darr lage, to use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai. Job kitni mushkil hai, iska aapka ehsaas nijee reh sakta hai, aur phir bhi sach hai.
Aaj shaam is khayal ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya baat tay ho gayi. Bas itna ki har ghar ki call par job ki pairvi nahi karni hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar ye thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Dekhe jaane ki chaah ab bhi hai, par kaam par ek chhoti tippani bas tippani hai, barson ki mehnat par faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: hafte ka ek sachcha pal kisi aise dost ko batana jo samajhta hai, ek achha din kisi ke sunne se pehle khud jee lena, ya aisi shaam jismein koi muqadma ladna na ho.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne laayak hai. Aage, dekhiye ki is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Ghar ki call mein wo pal dekhiye jab aap na samjhane ka faisla karte ho
- Ghar ki call ke baad dekhiye kaun-si tippani ruki rahi aur kaun-si nikal gayi
- Aaj se apni ek chhoti chaah dekhiye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Kaam ke kisi kathin din ki kalpana kijiye aur dekhiye uska kaun-sa hissa aapko garv deta hai
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: mere bheetar kiski “asli job” ki paribhasha baithi hai?
Chhoti, nijee aur sab apni marzi ki. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapki zindagi mein kaun pehle se samajhta hai ki aapke kaam mein kya lagta hai, aur aap kaise jaante ho?
- Aapke kaamkaji din ka kaun-sa hissa aap chahte ho ki maa-baap ek ghante ke liye dekh paayein?
- Kiski “asli job” ki paribhasha se aap ab bhi apne kaam ko naapte paate ho?
- Agar maa-baap ke aapki job samajhne ki chaah thodi dheeli ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?
- Ghar se aayi kaun-si chhoti cheez pehle se lambe kaamkaji hafte ko thoda halka karti hai?