Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ek insaan anokha kaam karne wala ban jaata hai, doosra wo jisne zaroor ijaazat di hogi ya intezaam kiya hoga.
Ek aisa ghar jahan auratein pakati thin aur mard baithte the, hostel ki mess jahan sab thali lekar line mein lagte the, ek dada jo saal mein ek baar chai banate aur aise dhanyavaad paate jaise chamatkar hua ho.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Zaroor meri hi galti hai,” ya “Meri zarooratein sabse aakhir mein aati hain.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Muskurakar kehna ki partner ko madad karna pasand hai
- Halke se samjhana ki aap log ghar mein kaam kaise baantte ho
- Kapda lekar kaam mein lag jaana, taaki baat khatam ho
- Kisi ki bhi galti na hone par bhi halka apradhbodh feel karna
- Baad mein vaakya dohrana aur jo kehna chahte the wo jod lena
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Ek plate, ek darwaza, ek tippani
Partner ke mummy-papa ke flat mein dinner ke baad, partner aapke baghal mein plates ponchhne lagte hain. Unki Mummy darwaze se, poore kamre se kehti hain: “Mere bete ne toh aaj tak ek bartan nahi dhoya.” Partner muskurakar ponchhte rehte hain. Aap nal par nazar tikaye rakhte ho aur feel karte ho ki kandhe upar chadh gaye. Haath ki plate achanak bahut zaroori aur bahut geeli lagti hai.
Ghar baanta to koi bura sochega
Pehle seedhi baat: ye vaakya kisi ek ki kitchen ka haal batata hai, aapki ke baare mein kam. Par usse ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ho jaata hai: ‘Agar hum ghar baantenge, to koi mere baare mein bura sochega.’ Ye samajhdaar mezbaani jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: sink par aam shaam ek numaaish ban jaati hai, aur aapka apna ghar dekha jaata hua lagne lagta hai.
Hum achha naam kyun chahte hain
Aisa niyam hum isliye pakadte hain kyunki hum izzat chahte hain. Zyada-tar log iska koi roop dhote hain. Ye sabse aam ummeedon mein se hai. Shayad aapko sikhaya gaya ki saleeqe wala ghar parivaar ki izzat dikhata hai. Shayad darr hai ki log kya kahenge. Achha naam chaahna kamzori nahi. Ise narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Wo ghar jise sajana padta hai
Aisi har tippani dikhawe mein thoda jod deti hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap feel karte ho. Visit se pehle sab sanwarte ho. Sink par madad lauta dete ho. Jo ghar saajha hona chahiye wo har visit se pehle sajaya jaane wala set lagne lagta hai.
Kya sajawat se ghar apna lagta hai?
Khud se sach-sach puchhiye: kya mehmaanon ke liye ghar sajane se aapka ghar kabhi zyada apna laga? Ya zyada-tar apni hi kitchen mein dekhe jaane ka ehsaas hua? Kaam baantna aur izzat paana saath-saath reh sakte hain. Ek vaakya aapke ghar ka paimana nahi hai. Narmi se puchhna theek hai: kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna uski keemat ke layak hai?
Wo sink jo bas sink hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aapko behes karni hai, ya wo vaakya theek laga. Matlab ye hai ki aapka ghar aapke tareeke se chal sake, bina har mehmaan ke liye saje. Sink bas sink reh sakta hai. Agar koi sachmuch neecha dikhaye, dhamkaye, daraye ya aapke kaam par qaabu rakhe, to wo gambhirta se lene layak hai, aur us ghar mein kitna dikhana hai ye aap tay karte ho.
Where someone really does belittle you, threatens or frightens you, or controls what you do, that is worth taking seriously, and how much to show in that house is yours to judge.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleAgar hum ghar baantenge, to koi mere baare mein bura sochega.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleHamara ghar hamein jamta hai, aur wahi kaafi hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Apne ghar baantne ke tareeke ki pasand wali ek cheez dekhiye
- Kadam 2
Aaj ghar par jo ek cheez achhi lagi, use notice kijiye
- Kadam 3
Ek aam shaam ghar par bina jaanche hue bitaiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne kaha ki unke bete ne ek bartan nahi dhoya, tab aap kahan khade the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Sink ke paas ek tippani #
Faridabad mein sasural ka flat, dinner ke baad sink par aap bartan dho rahe ho aur partner steel ki plates ponchh rahe hain. Kitchen ke darwaze se partner ki Mummy kehti hain: “Mere bete ne toh aaj tak ek bartan nahi dhoya.” Garv se, hairani se, ya aise lehje mein jise naam dena mushkil hai.
Sunne mein ye ek seedhi, yahan tak ki pyaar bhari baat lag sakti hai. Par kuch logon ko ismein doosra sandesh bhi sunayi deta hai: ki sink par jo ho raha hai wo anokha hai, aur kisi ko theek se sochna chahiye ki use kaisa lag raha hai.
Ek bartan par kaha vaakya poore ghar ki baat khol sakta hai.
Aakhri baar jab kisi ne kaha “mere bete ne toh ek bartan nahi dhoya”, tab sink par kaun khada tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Haath mein geeli plate ke wo pal #
Kuch log batate hain ki achanak apne par nazar padti hai, partner ki taraf dekhte hain ki unhone suna ya nahi, aur lagta hai jaise kuch galat karte pakde gaye. Kuch ke mann mein jawab banta hai, phir chup rehne ka faisla, kyunki bartan abhi khatam nahi hue.
Ghar mein kaun kya karta hai, is par tippani jaldi lagti hai, kyunki ghar hi wo jagah hai jahan niyam tay ho chuke maane jaate hain. Sochna aksar baad mein aata hai, gaadi mein, jab wahi vaakya beech mein ek lambi thehraan ke saath dohraya jaata hai.
Kisi aur ki kitchen mein pehla reaction shayad hi aapki apni marzi ka hota hai.
Tippani ke theek baad aapke haathon ne us plate ka kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ek tathya jiske saath ek sawaal bhi aata hai #
Vaakya seedhi baat kehta hai. Par uske peechhe ek ankahaa sawaal chupchaap chalta hai ki ye insaan sink par kaise pahuncha. Bartan dhone ki ek aam shaam ek chhoti sunwayi jaisi lag sakti hai.
Ye bhoomikayein bhi baant deta hai. Ek insaan anokha kaam karne wala ban jaata hai, doosra wo jisne zaroor ijaazat di hogi ya intezaam kiya hoga. Kuch log dekhte hain ki wo tippani ka vishay ban gaye, jabki wo bas bartan nipatana chahte the.
Do logon ka ghar unhi ke banaye tareeqon se chalta hai, hazaaron chhote faislon mein.
Aapke yahan bartan baantne ka tareeka kaise bana, aur ek aam din mein wo intezaam kaisa lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab sink andar se bolne lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye andar ghar kar leta hai. “Main khud kar loon, behtar hai.” “Log is ghar ke baare mein kya sochenge?” “Koi ‘joru ka ghulam’ na keh de.” Kai baar ye paani mein pehla bartan daalne se pehle hi shuru ho jaata hai.
Rishtedaar doosre shehar mein hon, phir bhi nazar bani rehti hai: visit se pehle jaldi ki safai, koi kaam pehle nipta dena taaki batwara dikhe hi nahi, darwaze ki ghanti baje to sink par ek nazar. Kyunki ye mehmaannawazi jaisi sunayi deti hai, ye ghar sambhalne ki samajhdaari jaisi bhi lag sakti hai.
Andar ki awaazein aksar kisi se lehja udhaar leti hain.
“Log kya sochenge is ghar ke baare mein” kehne wali awaaz kiski tarah lagti hai, aur aapke ghar ke kin kamron mein bolti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye kitchen ka lamba itihaas hai #
Ek aisa ghar jahan auratein pakati thin aur mard baithte the, hostel ki mess jahan sab thali lekar line mein lagte the, ek dada jo saal mein ek baar chai banate aur aise dhanyavaad paate jaise chamatkar hua ho. Kuch log aise gharon mein pale jahan ghar mein kaun kya kare, iske apne khayal the.
Kai gharon mein ye intezaam bas waise hi chalte the, mehnat, aadat aur un saalon ke hisaab se jinse parivaar guzra. Bachcha isse ye samajh sakta hai ki kuch kaam duniya ko karne wale ke baare mein kuch batate hain.
Shuru ki kitchens is par nishaan chhodti hain ki kisi ke haath mein plate ka kya matlab hai.
Aapke bachpan ke ghar mein bartan kaun dhota tha, aur kisi aur ke dhone par log kya kehte the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Zaroor meri hi galti hai,” ya “Meri zarooratein sabse aakhir mein aati hain.” Kuch log iska daba roop dhote hain: “Agar ghar ka kaam bata hua dikha, to koi mere baare mein bura sochega.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo samajhdaar host hone jaisi lagti hai, jaise mehmaanon se pehle ghar saleeqe se rakhna bas tehzeeb lagta hai. Isiliye ise kabhi-kabhi bahar nikalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ki zindagi ke kin kamron mein “koi sochega ki hum apna ghar kaise chalate hain” wala niyam ab bhi baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Mehmaanon ke liye ghar ka dikhawa karne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai saal bhar ki chhoti adjustments: kaam pehle nipta lena taaki visit mein ek khaas tasveer dikhe, sink par madad ko mana kar dena, plates jaldi mein kitchen tak pahunchana. Kuch log dekhte hain ki visit mein ghar mein aaram karna unhone chhodne ka faisla karne se bahut pehle chhod diya tha.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Jo ghar darshakon ke liye sajaya jaye, wo saajha jagah kam aur manch zyada lagta hai. Barah mahino mein kai aam shaamein us intezaam ka abhinay karte beet sakti hain jo asal mein roz waise chalta hi nahi.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Ghar ke do roop sambhalna asli mehnat hai.
Pichhle saal is tippani ne aapko kya keemat chukayi: aasaan shaamon mein, mehmaanon ke beech sahajta mein, ya ek-doosre ki madad karne ke seedhe-saade maze mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, ghar ka dikhawa karte hue #
Kisi aam Sunday ki tasveer banaiye, aise din ki jab “koi hamare ghar ke baare mein bura sochega” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad usmein phone call se pehle jaldi ki safai hai, ek patila jo kisi ke dekhne se pehle dhul gaya, aur ek hansi jo second bhar der se aayi jab rishtedaar purane tareeqon ki baat karein. Kuch fit baithega, kuch bilkul nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: safai, khaana, nazarein ki kaun haath bata raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Sunday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Do log ek sink baantein, ye aam baat hai #
Ek ghar waise chalta hai jaise uske logon ne aapas mein tay kiya ho. Kaun dhoye, kaun ponchhe, kaun chai banaye, ye chhote samjhaute hain jo unhi logon ko jamte hain. Purani peedhi ke ghar ki alag aadat bas alag aadat hai, har sink ka paimana nahi.
Aise dekhein to partner ke paas khade hokar plates ponchhta koi apvaad kam, aur apni kitchen baantte do vayask zyada lagta hai. Kuch ko vaakya ko uske ghar ki baat ki tarah dekhna halka lagta hai jisne kaha, us ghar ki nahi jahan kaha gaya.
Har ghar mein kaam batne ka apna tareeka hota hai.
Agar koi mehmaan bina tippani ke aapke ghar ko dekhta, to shaamon ke baare mein kya kehta, aur aap chahte ki wo kya notice kare?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab log us pal ko dheere-dheere dohrate hain, to kuch ko dikhta hai ki wo kitna chhota tha: ek plate, ek kapda, ek vaakya aur baatcheet aage badh gayi. Tippani aur uske baad usne jo wazan uthaya, dono ke size bahut alag nikal sakte hain.
Kuch ko wo pal bhi yaad aate hain jo ulte gaye: kisi rishtedaar ne chupchaap paas khade hokar cup ponchh diya, kisi cousin ne kaha ki dono ko kaam baantte dekhna achha laga. Aise pal tippani se dheeme the, ya kam the, aur dono ko saaf dekhna theek hai.
Teekhi tippani ke baghal mein chhoti saraahna aasaani se chhoot jaati hai.
Us parivaar mein kab kisi ne is par kuch achha kaha ki aap aur aapke partner ghar kaise baantte hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Dikhawa karne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki sink koi faisla hai, na ye dikhana ki vaakya nishaan chhode bina guzar gaya. Matlab bas itna ki ek tippani ka is par kam chale ki mehmaanon ke saamne aapka ghar kaise chale, aur shaam ka kitna hissa image sambhalne mein jaye.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo har visit ko ghar ki jaanch maanna chhod dete hain. Jaanch mein ek taraf number deta hai aur doosri taraf number paata hai, aur beech mein koi bas bartan dhokar gappe nahi laga pata.
Agar koi sachmuch ghar ke kaamon ko lekar aapko neecha dikhata ya dabaav daalta hai, to wo gambhirta se lene layak hai, aur us ghar mein kitna dikhana hai ye aap tay karte ho.
Agar “ek bartan nahi dhoya” ka asar kam ho to shaam kaisi lagegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “koi hamare ghar ke baare mein bura sochega” pehli visit ke baad se baj raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Hamara ghar waise chalta hai jaise hamein jamta hai.”
Shuru mein ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Kuch log ise rishtedaaron ke aane ya tyohaar ki yatra se pehle mann mein aazmate hain, aur kehte hain ki chupchaap dohrane se purani line ki thodi jagah ye le leti hai.
Sachcha vaakya paksh liye bina bhi baat keh sakta hai.
Aapke ghar aur use baantne ke tareeke ke baare mein, jo kisi aur ghar ke alag tareeke ke liye bhi jagah rakhe, wo vaakya aapke apne shabdon mein kaisa hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas rack par rakhi ja sakti hain #
Ghar par har tippani ko jawab, safai ya badli hui dincharya nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur din ke aakhir mein kapde ki tarah sukhane ki rack par rakha ja sakta hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai, na sehmati. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un hisson ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jo pehle se unke hain: ek shaant chai, dost se baat, pasandida show ka ek episode.
Aaj ki shaam is vaakya ko rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki baat theek thi, ya suljh gayi. Bas itna ki sink ke baare mein kahe kuch shabd raat ke baaki hisse tak na jaayein.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Bartan waise hi nipatate hain jaise aapke ghar mein nipatate hain, jo bhi paas ho uske saath, aur mehmaan ek aam shaam dekhte hain.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: call ke dauraan counter par mug chhod dena, plates ki khanak ka maza lena, ya kaun dekh raha hai ye jaanche bina bartan khatam karna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi bartan wali tippani”
- Gaur kijiye ki pehle kya laga: apradhbodh, kheej, ya kuch aur
- Chupchaap khud se puchhiye: ghar ki ye tasveer kiski hai?
- Apne ghar baantne ke tareeke ki ek cheez sochiye jo aapko pasand hai
- Aaj ghar par ek aisa pal dekhiye jo aasaan laga, chahe kitna bhi chhota
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne kaha ki unke bete ne ek bartan nahi dhoya, tab aap kahan khade the?
- Aapke ghar mein bartan kaise nipatate hain, aur ek aam din mein wo kaisa lagta hai?
- Visit se pehle safai karte hue aap kiske ghar ki tasveer sochte ho?
- Aapne pehli baar kab jaana ki kitchen logon ke baare mein kya keh sakti hai?
- Agar us tippani ka aapki shaamon par kam asar ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?