Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye jisse poochha gaya use bhi ajeeb jagah par rakh deta hai: ek taraf wo parivaar jise phone ki baatein sunni hain, doosri taraf wo partner jiski aadatein uski apni hain.
Wo bachcha jise bataya gaya ki cousin ke number zyada aaye, chhota bhai jisse poochha gaya ki wo bade jitna phone kyun nahi karta, naye office mein kisi se kaha gaya ki pichhla aadmi roz der tak rukta tha.
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Agar unki Mummy ko unka itna hissa milta hai, to mere liye kam bachta hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Partner ki taraf se jhat jawab dena, koi bharose wali baat jodkar
- Kehna ki hisaab rakhna aapka kaam nahi, aur baat badal dena
- Hanskar kehna ki phone toh khoob karte hain, aur phir bechaini feel karna
- Chup rehna, aur baad mein akele mein ginti dohrana
- Apne phone ki aadaton par halka-sa apradhbodh feel karna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Curry ka chamcha aur ek sawaal
Indirapuram mein sasural ka dinner. Partner ki Bhabhi curry parosate hue halke se poochhti hain: “Roz Mummy ko phone karta hai na?” Partner kisi colleague ka phone lene bahar gaye hain. Aap kaam ki vyastata par kuch dhundhla-sa bol dete ho. Sab khana khate hain. Aapka kaanta chalta hai, par sir mein kuch ginna chal raha hai, aur aap bata nahi sakte kya.
Unki Mummy ko zyada, mujhe kam
Pehle seedhi baat: phone calls par sawaal parivaar mein aapki jagah ka paimana nahi hai. Par usse ek niyam ug sakta hai, aur wo aapka ho jaata hai: ‘Agar unki Mummy ko unka bahut hissa milta hai, to mere liye kam bachta hai.’ Ye barabari notice karne jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: kareebi ek banti hui pie lagne lagti hai, aur har call ek tukda le jaati hai.
Hum maayne kyun rakhna chahte hain
Aisa niyam hum isliye pakadte hain kyunki hum maayne rakhna chahte hain. Zyadatar log iska koi roop dhote hain. Ye sabse aam ummeedon mein se hai. Shayad aapne kisi shaam ghadi dekhi ho. Shayad darr hai ki parivaar kya sochega. Maayne rakhna chahna kamzori nahi, apnapan chahne se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Wo ginti jo kisi ne nahi maangi
Aisa har sawaal ginti mein kuch jod deta hai. Ye dheere-dheere hota hai, isliye pakadna mushkil hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap feel karte ho. Jab screen par maa ka naam chamakta hai, aap ek nazar daal dete ho. Chupchaap jod rakhte ho. Kisi aur ki zindagi ki ek garm aadat aapko pratiyogi lagne lagti hai, aur shaamein zaroorat se zyada shant ho jaati hain.
Kya ye muqabla is layak hai?
Khud se sach-sach poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rehne se aap partner ke kabhi aur kareeb hue? Ya zyadatar aam shaamein ek aisa muqabla lagne lagin jismein aapne naam hi nahi likhwaya? Pyaar kai logon ko bina khatam hue diya ja sakta hai. Ek sawaal aapki jagah ka paimana nahi hai. Narmi se poochna theek hai: kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna uski keemat layak hai?
Scoreboard ke bina kareebi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aapko behas karni hai, ya wo sawaal theek laga. Matlab ye hai ki kareebi ko bina scoreboard ke jagah mile. Aap ginne bina shaam feel kar sakte ho, aur phone ki us aadat ko garm awaaz ki tarah sun sakte ho. Agar koi sachmuch bura bartaav kare, dhamkaye, daraye ya aapke kaam par qaabu rakhe, to wo gambhirta se lene layak hai, aur us ghar mein kitna dikhana hai ye aap tay karte ho.
Where someone really does react badly, threatens or frightens you, or controls what you do, that is worth taking seriously, and how much to show in that house is yours to judge.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleUnki Mummy ko itna hissa milta hai, to mere liye kam bachta hai.
Try karne ke liye naya rulePyaar kai logon ko mil sakta hai, bina khatam hue.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Mann mein ek tareeka sochiye jisse aapki kareebi dikhti hai
- Kadam 2
Is hafte ka ek garm pal yaad kijiye, chahe kitna bhi chhota
- Kadam 3
Parivaarik dinner ke baad khud ke liye ek shant pal nikaaliye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Jab kisi ne poochha ki roz Mummy ko phone karta hai na, tab aap kahan the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek phone call par sawaal, aur us par kiska haq #
Indirapuram mein sasural ka dinner, Bhabhiji chulhe par dal mein tadka laga rahi hain, ghadi mein nau baj rahe hain, partner balcony mein kisi ka phone le rahe hain. Bhaunh zara si upar karke: “Roz Mummy ko phone karta hai na?” Halka lehja, sawaal jaise yun hi poochh liya ho.
Upar se ye bas aadat ki baat hai. Neeche se kuch logon ko ismein taraazu sunayi deta hai: partner ka kitna dhyan maa ko jaata hai, aur kitna aapko. Jawab aane se pehle hi sawaal kamre mein baith chuka hota hai.
Ek phone call taraazu ban gayi.
Aakhri baar kisi ne poochha “Roz Mummy ko phone karta hai na?”, tab aap kahan the, aur aapka partner kahan?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jawab se pehle ki wo thehran #
Kuch log batate hain ki ek thehran khulti hai, aadha second jismein sachcha jawab aur tameez wala jawab barabar khade hote hain. Pehle muskaan aati hai, phir kuch dhundhla-sa: kabhi-kabhi, busy rehta hai, aap toh jaante hi ho.
Partner ke baare mein sawaal jaldi chubhta hai, kyunki wo kisi aur ki aadaton ki taraf se bolne ko kehta hai aur saath mein us intezaam mein aapki apni jagah bhi khol deta hai. Sochna aksar baad mein aata hai, jab gas band ho chuki ho.
Partner ke gharwalon ke saamne pehli pratikriya shayad hi aapki apni marzi ki hoti hai.
Sawaal ke theek baad, aapne partner ki taraf se jawab diya, ya thehran ko waise hi rehne diya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ek call do logon ke beech score ban jaati hai #
Sawaal ek seedhi baat dekhta hai aur do logon ko uske dono taraf bitha deta hai. Maa aur partner, dono ek hi insaan se pyaar kar sakte hain, aur ye vaakya chupchaap us pyaar ko minuton ki ginti mein badal deta hai.
Ye jisse poochha gaya use bhi ajeeb jagah par rakh deta hai: ek taraf wo parivaar jise phone ki baatein sunni hain, doosri taraf wo partner jiski aadatein uski apni hain. Koi bhi jawab kisi ki tarafdaari lagta hai, chahe irada na ho.
Ek phone call ka matlab hazaar cheezein ho sakta hai: mausam ka haal ya yun hi gappein.
Us sawaal ne inmein se kaun-si baat chhod di?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab ginti andar shuru ho jaye #
Baar-baar suno to andar se ginne lagta hai. “Aaj kiya kya phone?” “Zyada hai, ya kam?” “Agar maine zikr kiya to kya kahenge?” Shaam ko phone bajte hi ye shuru ho sakta hai.
Rishtedaar doosre kamre mein hon ya doosre shehar mein, ginti chalti rehti hai: screen par “Mummy” chamke to ek nazar, is hafte ki calls ka mann mein jod, aur baat chhidne par apni awaaz mein sambhala hua lehja. Kyunki ye aapki apni awaaz mein bolti hai, ye saamanya dhyan jaisi lag sakti hai.
Andar ki awaazein aksar kisi se lehja udhaar leti hain.
Ye ginti wali awaaz kiski tarah bolti hai, aur din mein kab sabse zor se sunayi deti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye tulna purani zameen hai #
Wo bachcha jise bataya gaya ki cousin ke number zyada aaye, chhota bhai jisse poochha gaya ki wo bade jitna phone kyun nahi karta, naye office mein kisi se kaha gaya ki pichhla aadmi roz der tak rukta tha. Kuch log bahut pehle se doosron ki aadaton se tole jaate rahe hain.
Kuch gharon mein dhyan ki tulna bas ye jaanchne ka tareeka thi ki sab maayne rakhte hain, aur wajahein ghar-ghar alag hain. Bachcha chupchaap ye seekh sakta hai ki gino kise kitna mila, aur usse apni jagah ka andaaza lagao.
Ye aadat naye parivaar mein bhi aa jaati hai.
Aapne pehli baar kab seekha ki logon ke beech dhyan ginna jaata hai, aur ginti kaun kar raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Neeche-neeche banne wala ek chupchaap niyam #
Neeche-neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Agar unki Mummy ko unka itna hissa milta hai, to mere liye kam bachta hai.” Kuch log iska daba roop dhote hain: “Mujhe saabit karna hai ki meri jagah bhi utni hi badi hai.”
Aisi maanyata maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Ye kisi barabari ki baat notice karne jaisi lagti hai, jaise ghadi dekhna bas hisaab lagta hai. Isiliye ise kabhi-kabhi bahar nikaalkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Zindagi ke kin hisson mein “dhyan ek tay matra hai, jo bantta hai” wala niyam baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Saal bhar ki ginti ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ek saal tak shaam mein phone ka intezaar, uske baad chhoti chuppiyan, aur dinner par maa ka naam aane par awaaz mein sambhala hua halkapan. Kuch log dekhte hain ki har raat usi waqt bajne wale phone se unhein darr-sa lagne laga.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai. Dhyan ka hisaab rakhne se ek apnapan bhari roz ki aadat, jaise maa ka apne bachche ko phone karna, pratiyogi jaisi lagne lagti hai. Barah mahino mein kai shaamein us baatcheet ke kinare beet sakti hain jismein aap shaamil hi nahi hue.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Baar-baar lautne wali bhaavna par chup rehna asli mehnat hai.
Pichhle barah mahino mein ginti ne aapko kya keemat chukayi: sukoon mein, neend mein, ya seedhe achhe mood mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, phone ki taraf dekhte hue #
Kisi aam shaam ki tasveer banaiye, aise din ki jab “main doosre number par hoon” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad usmein bajte phone par ek nazar hai, dinner ki baat jo chupchaap kisi aur taraf mod di gayi, ginti jo shuru hui aur rakh di gayi, aur kettle ubalte waqt chehre par khushmizaaj muskaan. Kuch fit baithega, kuch bilkul nahi.
Yahan abhi kisi cheez ka jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: screen, ghadi, call aane par sambhala hua lehja?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us shaam ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Wo pyaar jo tay matra mein nahi hota #
Maa ko phone aksar ek chhoti, aadat wali cheez hoti hai: din kaisa raha, khana khaya, ghutne ka kya haal hai. Ye aapke aane se dashkon pehle shuru hua ho sakta hai, aur iska isse kam hi lena-dena hai ki wo apne ghar ke logon ki kitni parwah karte hain.
Aise dekhein to roz ka phone aur kareebi saath ek hi zindagi mein, ek-doosre se kuch chheene bina, reh sakte hain, aur wahi insaan dono ke liye pyaara ho sakta hai. Kuch ko dhyan ko aisi cheez maanna halka lagta hai jo kai logon ko dene par khatam nahi hoti.
Rishton ki shaklein alag-alag hoti hain.
Apne partner ke saath apni kareebi mein aap jo qadr karte ho, use apne shabdon mein batayein, to phone calls se bilkul alag aap kya ginayenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab log us pal ko dheere-dheere dohraate hain, to kuch ko dikhta hai ki jagah kitni chhoti thi: kadchhi, ghadi, ek cup, do kaur ke beech kahi gayi baat. Vaakya aur uske baad usne jo wazan uthaya, dono ke size bahut alag nikal sakte hain.
Kuch ko wo pal dikhte hain jab kareebi saaf thi: partner ko din ki koi chhoti baat yaad rahi, bina kahe aaya koi message, dinner ke beech bewajah ki hansi. Aise pal sawaal se dheeme the, ya kam the, aur dono ko saaf dekhna theek hai.
Teekhe sawaal ke bagal mein chhoti kareebi aasani se chhoot jaati hai.
Pichhle hafte kab aapke partner ne aisi parwah dikhayi jiska phone se koi lena-dena nahi tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Hisaab rakhne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab ye maanna nahi ki calls bahut zyada ya bahut kam hain, na ye dikhana ki baat chubhi nahi. Matlab bas itna ki ek vaakya ka is par kam chale ki aap khud ko kitna safe feel karne do, aur shaam ka kitna hissa ginne mein jaye.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo har call ko apni jagah ka paimana maanna chhod dete hain. Paimane mein ek taulta hai aur doosra taula jaata hai, aur beech mein koi sirf shant shaam ka maza nahi le paata.
Agar koi sachmuch bura bartaav karta hai, dhamkata hai, daraata hai ya aapke kaam par qaabu rakhta hai, to wo gambhirta se lene layak hai, aur us ghar mein kitna dikhana hai ye aap tay karte ho.
Us sawaal ka asar kam ho to ek aam shaam kaisi lagegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “main doosre number par hoon” pehli baar poochhe jaane ke baad se baj raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaay ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Pyaar tay matra mein nahi hota, dono ke liye jagah hai.”
Shuru mein ye sach lagna zaroori nahi. Kuch log ise kisi visit ya shaam ke phone se pehle mann mein aazmate hain, aur kehte hain ki chupchaap dohraane se purani line ki thodi jagah ye le leti hai.
Sachcha vaakya paksh liye bina bhi baat keh sakta hai.
Kareebi ke baare mein, jismein koi darja na ho, wo vaakya aapke apne shabdon mein kaisa hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas shelf par rakhi ja sakti hain #
Calls ke har sawaal ko jawab, faisla ya agle dinner ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal feel kiya ja sakta hai, aur din ke aakhir mein chaabiyon ki tarah darwaaze ke paas ki shelf par rakha ja sakta hai.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai, na sehmati. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taakat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un hisson ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jo pehle se unke hain: ek sair, purane dost se baat, shaam ki kitaab.
Aaj ki shaam is vaakya ko rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki baat theek thi, ya sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki chulhe ke paas kahe kuch shabd raat ke baaki hisse tak na jaayein.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar ginti thodi bhi dheeli ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Calls bas calls hain, aur aapki jagah unki ginti par nahi tiki.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: ghadi dekhe bina shaam ko feel karna, ghar mein sunayi deti ek call ko garm awaaz ki tarah sunna, ya kisi dost ko is hafte ki ek chhoti meherbaani batana.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mann mein naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi ginti wala sawaal”
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: aaj shaam mujhe asal mein kya chahiye?
- Gaur kijiye ki zyada zor se kya laga: shabd, ya uthi hui bhaunh
- Is hafte ki kareebi ka ek chhota pal yaad kijiye
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Jab kisi ne poochha ki roz Mummy ko phone karta hai na, tab aap kahan the?
- Aapki kareebi mein aisa kya hai jiska calls se koi lena-dena nahi?
- Us parivaar mein kaun aapke baare mein poochhta hai, sirf unke baare mein nahi?
- Jis aam shaam ginti zor se bole, aap ab bhi kya taal rahe honge?
- Agar ginti thodi halki ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?