Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Anjaane kaam ke liye shukriya aur zyada maayne rakhta hai.
Kuch log aise ghar mein pale jahan shukriya saadgi se aur aksar kaha jaata tha: “Wah, chai achhi bani,” “Kya khaana tha.”
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Meri qadar hoti to kehte,” ya “Jis kaam ka shukriya nahi, wo ginta nahi jaata.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Aadhe mazaak mein mehnat jata dena: “To shukriya ki zaroorat hi nahi!”
- Baaton-baaton mein mehnat ka zikr karna, aur jawab dekhna
- Sab karte rehna, aur chupchaap fehrist rakhna
- Chhoti baaton ke liye zor se shukriya kehna, is ummeed mein ki laute
- Ummeed karna chhod dena, aur thoda bujh jaana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Istri, plumber aur chai
Ahmedabad mein Wednesday ki raat. Aapne unke kapde istri se mangwaye, wo plumber book kiya jo wo baar-baar bhoolte the, aur der se aane par chai taiyaar rakhi. Wo chai peete hain, khabrein scroll karte hain, aur sone chale jaate hain. Koi ‘shukriya’ nahi. Sir hilana tak nahi. Aap cup dhokar sink par zaroorat se zyada der khade rehte ho, aur saari shaam achanak bekaar-si lagti hai.
Qadar ka matlab shukriya sunna
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: ‘Agar inhein meri qadar hoti to shukriya kehte.’ Sunne mein buniyadi tehzeeb lagta hai. Bas do shabd. Par ye karta kya hai: aapki bhalai ko ek aisi raseed ka intezaar karwa deta hai jis par sirf unke shabd dastakhat kar sakte hain. Har kaam khula latakta hai, aur jin raaton wo shabd nahi aate, diya hua apnapan aisa lagta hai jaise chheena gaya ho.
Shukriya batata hai hum maayne rakhte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki shukriya wo tareeka hai jisse hum mein se bahuton ne seekha ki hamara kiya pahunchta hai. Shayad aapka bachpan aise ghar mein beeta jahan har parosi thaali par ‘shukriya’ milta tha. Shayad nahi mila, aur aapne khud se vaada kiya ki alag hoga. Chahna ki ye sunayi de, chhotapan nahi hai. Ye chahna hai ki jiske liye kiya, use aapki care mehsoos ho. Ye hamdardi ki haqdaar hai, ilzaam ki nahi.
Har chhoote shukriya ka ginna
Har bina shukriya ka kaam ek chhota nishaan chhodta hai. Aap chai se zyada khaali jagahein dekhne lagte ho. Kaam thoda zor se karte ho taaki chhoot na jaaye, ya peshkash band kar dete ho. Chhoti bhalaiyan mehnat jaisi lagne lagti hain. Bistar par shaam dohrate ho. Garmahat ab bhi hai, par aapki shaanti do shabdon ki baat johne lagi hai jo shayad us roop mein aayenge hi nahi.
Kya shukriya ka intezaar sahi hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya shabdon ke intezaar se wo kabhi zyada aaye? Ya zyada-tar chhoti bhalaiyan chhoti kadwahaton mein badlin? Bahut-se log shukriya kahe bina dikhate hain, badle mein chai bana dene ya naram mood se, aur kuch gharon mein ye shabd kabhi bola hi nahi gaya. Har haal mein, do chhoote shabd aapke diye ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna aapko deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Bhalai dete hi ginti jaati hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki shukriya sunna aapko achha lagna band ho jaaye. Matlab ye hai ki aapki bhalai dete hi poori ho jaati hai, sweekar kiye jaane par nahi. Aap chai isliye bana sakte ho ki aapka mann tha, aur aaj raat ke liye use kaafi rehne de sakte ho. ‘Shukriya’ jab aaye, chukaya hua bill nahi, inaam ban jaata hai. Yahin se chain lautta hai: aapka diya aapke liye phir garv ki baat hai.
Being made to serve, checked on, put down, threatened, hurt, pressured about sex or frightened of them is something else, and worth taking seriously; going along or staying careful can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMeri qadar hoti to shukriya kehte.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMeri bhalai dete hi ginti jaati hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Agla ehsaan karne se pehle das minute aaram karein
- Din 2
Dekhein, kabhi shukriya bina shabdon ke bhi aata hai kya
- Din 3
Is hafte ki ek baat ke liye khud ko shukriya kahein
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kisne kabhi aapko aise shukriya kaha jo aaj bhi yaad hai, aur kya kaha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Bhari thaali, aur wo shabd jo nahi aata #
“Mere partner ko mere kaam ke liye shukriya kehna chahiye.” Ye tab uthti hai jab raat ka khaana bina ek shabd ke TV ke saamne khaya jaaye, jab gaadi service se aa jaaye aur koi zikr na kare, ya jab Patna mein Saturday bhar ki daud-dhoop ke baad poochha jaaye “Aaj khaane mein kya hai?”
Ye bhaashan ki chaah kam hi hoti hai. Ek saada “Ye nipta diya, shukriya” ya “Bahut badhiya bana hai” aksar kaafi hota. Jo chubhta hai wo ye ki kaam din mein aise kho jaata hai jaise apne aap ho gaya ho.
Ghar mein aap jo karte ho, usmein se kiske liye isi hafte, bas ek baar, saada shukriya sunna sabse achha lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Chupchaap pichakna #
Kuch logon ko halki-si pichkan mehsoos hoti hai, jaise gubbare se hawa nikal rahi ho, jab koi mehnat bina tippani ke nikal jaaye. Kuch ko chot ki tez tees hoti hai, aur phir mann un sab baaton ki fehrist banane lagta hai jin par kuch nahi kaha gaya.
Ye ehsaas jaldi aata hai, is soch se pehle ki saamne wale ne dekha par kaha nahi, ya dekha hi nahi. Us pehle pal mein, khamoshi aur care na karna bilkul ek jaise lag sakte hain.
Pichhli baar jab aapki koi mehnat bina ek shabd ke nikal gayi, to pehle aapko kya mehsoos hua, aur aap kahan the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Shukriya sunna, dekha jaana hai #
Ye ummeed saaf samajh mein aati hai. Shukriya ka ek shabd batata hai ki mehnat dekhi gayi aur ginti gayi. Iske bina, khushi se kiya kaam bhi aisi naukri lagne lagta hai jise dekhne wala koi nahi.
Anjaane kaam ke liye shukriya aur zyada maayne rakhta hai. Khaana banana, cheezein sambhalna, yaad rakhna aur theek karna aasaani se chhoot jaate hain kyunki ye theek chalte hain. Kaam jitna achha chale, utna kam dikhta hai, aur karne wala khud ko anjaana mehsoos kar sakta hai.
Aapki kaun si mehnat sabse poori tarah kho jaati hai, koi dekhe bina, ek baar ho jaane ke baad?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Khamoshi sunne wali awaaz #
“Thank you bolne mein kya jaata hai?” “Aisa kuch meri taraf se hota to dhyaan jaata.” “Mere kiye ka aadha bhi kisi ko nahi dikhta.” Ye awaaz table samette hue, kapde tah karte hue, ya kisi kaam ke din mein chupchaap ghul jaane ke baad bolti hai.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki awaaz ek shabd se zyada maang rahi hai. Aksar wo saboot chahti hai ki mehnat share zindagi ka hissa hai, seva nahi, aur kisi ko pata hai ki kaam ke peeche ek insaan hai.
Jab awaaz shukriya chahti hai, to use sabse zyada ummeed hai ki ek shabd aapko batayega ki aapko kaise dekha jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Shukrguzaar ghar ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch log aise ghar mein pale jahan shukriya saadgi se aur aksar kaha jaata tha: “Wah, chai achhi bani,” “Kya khaana tha.” Uske saath bade hone par uski kami thandi hawa jaisi lag sakti hai.
Doosron ke liye ye us ghar se aayi jahan koi ye kehta hi nahi tha, aur andar ek chup vaada bana ki apna ghar alag hoga. Aise vaade par bani chaah ko poora hote dekhna khaas maayne rakh sakta hai.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun shukriya achhi tarah kehta hai, aise ki mehnat dekhi gayi lage, aur wo kya kehta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Khamoshi ke neeche ka niyam #
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Meri qadar hoti to kehte,” ya “Jis kaam ka shukriya nahi, wo ginta nahi jaata.” Kahi hui chaah shukriya ke ek shabd ki hai; niyam tay karta hai ki har khamosh shaam ka kya matlab nikala jaaye.
Isme sachchi samajh hai; kaha hua shukriya bahut logon ke liye maayne rakhta hai. Niyam mehnat ki keemat ko kisi pratikriya par tika bhi sakta hai, yaani is par ki Tuesday ki raat saamne wala kitna bolne ke mood mein hai.
Shukriya wala niyam aapke ghar mein kahan baithta hai, aur kahan ek shabd se bahut zyada maangta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Shukriya ke intezaar ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki achha khaana kam bhaye kyunki banane wala kaan lagaye baitha hai, ghar ke kaam asal se bhaari lagein, aur aaram ki shaamon mein chhoti-si kadwahat ghul jaaye. Saal bhar ki chup prateeksha jama hoti jaati hai.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki mehnat ki khushi hi chali jaati hai. Pasandida pakwaan banana, koi shelf theek karna, koi masla suljhana: jo kabhi garv se hota tha, wo aisi pratikriya ke liye kiya kaam ban jaata hai jo shayad hi aati hai.
Ghar ke liye jo kaam aapko pehle achha lagta tha, wo kaun sa bhaari lagne laga hai, aur pehli baar aapne kab dekha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Barson tak ek shabd ki aahat #
Ek aisa Sunday sochiye jab “Inhein shukriya kehna chahiye” tez sunayi de. Sirf ek tasveer, jisme sudharne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad table par bhari thaali rakhna aur us shabd ka intezaar jo nahi aata; ek shelf theek ki gayi aur bagal se nikal liye gaye; daud-dhoop ki dopahar jo chupchaap shaam mein ghul gayi.
Tasveer ko jab chahein alag rakh dein; wo kuch poorvanumaan nahi karti.
Usmein kya hai: khaana banana, daud-dhoop, theek-thaak karna, ek shabd ki aahat, wo cheezein jo aap apne liye karna chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Sunday mein inmein se kya hoga, aur kya chhootega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek kadam peeche hatkar dekhein to us Sunday ka kaun sa hissa roshni pakadta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Shukriya, kis zubaan mein? #
Log alag-alag tarah se shukriya kehte hain. Kuch bolkar; kuch karke, badle mein koi kaam kar dena, thaali saaf kar dena, bina kahe coffee la dena, ya agli cheez aap par chhod dena. Kuch to shayad hi dikhate hain, aur wo khaayi asli hai.
Inmein se kuch bhi chaah ko bada ya khamoshi ko theek nahi banata. Bas itna ki “Shukriya kaho” ke andar kai ummeedein ho sakti hain: wo shabd, dekha jaana, mehnat mein saajhedaari, ya bas ye jaanna ki kisi ke liye maayne rakha.
“Shukriya kaho” ke andar jo kuch hai, usmein sabse zyada kya maayne rakhega: wo shabd, dekha jaana, ya badle mein koi baari nibhana?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Aapke paas jo pehle se hai #
Jo shukriya nahi aata, uske bagal mein kuch cheezein pehle se aapki hain: koi hunar jis par garv hai, ghar ke andar ya bahar, koi dost jo kehta hai “Wah, kamaal hai,” aur kaam theek se hone ka aapka apna ehsaas.
Inhein dekhna shabdon ki chaah chhodne ki wajah nahi hai. Jo aap roz ki zindagi mein laate ho wo asli hai, chahe uska naam liya jaaye ya nahi.
Roz aap jo karte ho, uske kis hisse par chupchaap garv hai, jiske liye aap khud ko thoda shrey dena chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Mehnat jo phir bhi aapki lage #
Is ummeed ke liye jagah banane ka matlab hai ki wo bina judgement ke bas reh sakti hai. Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Bina aaram ke seva karwaya jaana, ya kaam ke tareeke par neecha dikhaya jaana, chhoota hua shukriya nahi hai; wo kuch aur hai.
Kuch cheezein ek chhoote shabd se kahin aage hain: aap par nazar rakha jaana, password maange jaana, aapka phone ya messages khangaala jaana, paison par kabza, aapke kaagzaat rakh liye jaana, doston-family-kaam-padhai se door rakha jaana, neecha dikhaya jaana, chillaya jaana, ya unke mood ka dosh aap par daala jaana.
Aise hi dhamkiyan (khud ko, aapko, kisi aur ko ya pet ko nuksaan ki, ya private photos failane ki), dhakka dena, pakadna, chot pahunchana, sex ya nazdeeki par dabaav, ya unse darr lagna. Ye sab gambhirta se lene layak hai, aur saath chalna ya satark rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Bina tippani ka khaana ghar mein aapki jagah par faisla padha jaana band kar deta hai. Apni mehnat ka dekha jaana chahna swabhavik hai, aur yahan uska swagat hai.
Kalpana kijiye ki aap koi pakwaan bana rahe ho jo aapko bas isliye pasand hai ki pasand hai: chulhe par kya chadha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Chulhe ke paas rakhne ki ek pankti #
“Mere partner ko mere kaam ke liye shukriya kehna chahiye” se ulajhne ki jagah kuch log aisa vaakya paas rakhte hain: “Mujhe shukriya sunna achha lagega, aur mera kiya koi kahe ya na kahe ginta jaata hai.” Ye purane vaakya ke bagal mein baith sakta hai, use dhakele bina.
Shuru mein ye khud ko samjhane jaisa lag sakta hai. Kuch ko dheere-dheere ye sachcha lagne lagta hai; kuch shabd badalte rehte hain jab tak lage nahi. Iski koi sahi raftaar nahi.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek zyada sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo shukriya sune jaane ki chaah bhi rakhe aur aapki mehnat ko apne pairon par khada rehne de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch shaamein thaali bas utha li jaati hai #
Har ankahe shukriya ka aaj raat niptara zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekhkar khoonti par tange apron ki tarah rehne diya ja sakta hai: phir bhi aapka, par baaki shaam mein pehna hua nahi.
Kuch cheezein ek chhoote shabd se kahin aage hain: aap par nazar rakha jaana, password maange jaana, aapka phone ya messages khangaala jaana, paison par kabza, aapke kaagzaat rakh liye jaana, doston-family-kaam-padhai se door rakha jaana, neecha dikhaya jaana, chillaya jaana, ya unke mood ka dosh aap par daala jaana.
Aise hi dhamkiyan (khud ko, aapko, kisi aur ko ya pet ko nuksaan ki, ya private photos failane ki), dhakka dena, pakadna, chot pahunchana, sex ya nazdeeki par dabaav, ya unse darr lagna. Ise gambhirta se lena chahiye, aur satark rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Aaj raat chaah ko aaram dene se khamoshi theek nahi ho jaati, aur kuch tay bhi nahi hota. Bas shaam usi ko wapas mil jaati hai jiske liye aap use chahein.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar shukriya ki aahat zara dheeli pade #
Ise sirf tasveer ki tarah aazmayein: chaah ek darja kam. Shukriya ki chaah ab bhi hai, aur khaana banana phir bhi aapka maza reh sakta hai.
Kuch log chhoti cheezein sochte hain, jaise thaali rakhkar khaana banane ka maza usi ke liye lena, ya kisi dost ko kisi achhe bane pakwaan ke baare mein batana.
Yahan kuch kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi ubhre, aapka hai. Aage: is ummeed se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya halka-sa alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Chupchaap aazmane ki chhoti baatein #
- Aaj ki us ek mehnat ko dekhein jise karke aapko achha laga, bas apni khaatir
- Khamoshi ke neeche ki chaah ka naam lein: dekha jaana, share hona, ya qadar
- Jo bana rahe hain use pakte waqt chakhein, aur maza lein
- Dekhein ki kaun se kaam aap tab bhi rakhte jab koi zikr na karta
- Sochein ki aapko kis tarah shukriya kaha jaana sabse achha lagta hai, poore byore mein
Sab private, sab optional. Jo jache, wahi lein.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kisne kabhi aapko aise shukriya kaha jo aaj bhi yaad hai, aur kya kaha tha?
- Aapki kaun si mehnat aisi hai jise ghar mein shayad koi sach mein nahi dekhta, aur usmein kitna lagta hai?
- Ek saada “shukriya” aapko kya deta hai jo aur kuch nahi deta?
- Shukriya ki aahat thodi kam ho, to kaun se kaam halke lagenge?
- Roz aap jo karte ho, uske kis hisse ka aap khud ko shrey dena chahoge?