“mere saathi ko mere doston se ghul-mil jaana chahiye” ka bojh itna bhaari kyun lagta hai?

Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka

Ghul-mil jaana, kis tarah? #

Ghul-mil jaane ke kai naap hote hain. Kuch saathi apne saathi ke doston ke kareeb kabhi nahi aate, par hamesha shaleen rehte hain, unka haal poochhte hain, aur kisi raat bahar jaane par khush hote hain. Kuch kisi ek dost se ghulte hain, doosre se nahi.

Isse ummeed zyada nahi ho jaati, aur ye bhi nahi ki thandi shaam theek hai. Itna hai ki “ghul-mil jaana” mein kai chaahein ho sakti hain: garmjoshi, table par sahajta, sammaan, ya bas ye ki sambhalna na pade.

“Mere doston se ghul-mil jaana” mein jo bhi hai, usmein sabse bada farq kya karega: garmjoshi, sammaan, ya sambhalna na padna?Is par baat kijiye ›

Jo pehle se hai

Aapke paas pehle se kya hai #

Bedhab dinner ke bagal mein kuch cheezein pehle se aapki hain: barson se jaanne wale dost, wo qisse jo sirf wahi suna sakte hain, unke beech aapki befikar hansi, aur wo shaam jo aapko halka kar jaati hai.

Ye bedhab shaamon ke saath baithi hain, unhein mitaye bina, aur badle mein kuch nahi maangtin. Aapki dostiyan apni shartein par ginaa jaati hain, table par aur koi bhi ho.

Kis dost ke saath aapko sabse zyada apnapan lagta hai, aur uske saath waqt ki kaun si baat aap aur mehsoos karna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›

Sulah

Dost aur saathi, dono apni jagah #

Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab taraazu neeche rakhna hai, ummeed nahi. Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada maangna” nahi, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi. Aapki dostiyan aapki apni hain; kisi se milne ki ijaazat tay ki jaana ya doston aur rishte mein se ek chunwaya jaana, mel ka sawaal hai hi nahi.

Na jaancha jaana, track kiya jaana ya password dene ko majboor kiya jaana, na phone ya messages ki talaashi, na paison par qaabu ya paise chheene jaana, na kaagzaat rakh lena, na doston, family, kaam ya padhai se door rakha jaana, na neecha dikhaya jaana, chillaya jaana.

Na hi dhamkiyan, khud ko, aapko, doosron ko ya pet ko nuksaan pahunchane ya nijee photos failane ki, dhakka dena, pakadna ya chot pahunchana, sex ya nazdeeki ko lekar dabaav, ya unse darr. Ye sab gambhirta se lene laayak hai; saath nibhana ya satark rehna surakshit ho sakta hai.

Jo saathi aapke doston ko neecha dikhata rahe taaki aap unse kam milein, ya har bahar ki raat ka baad mein hisaab le, wo bhi mel ka sawaal nahi. Aasaan mel ki ummeed ummeed banakar reh sakti hai.

Kisi purane dost ke saath bas ek achhi shaam sochiye: aap kahan ho, aur kis baat par hans rahe ho?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ek zyada sachcha vaakya

Ghar lautte auto ke liye ek vaakya #

“Mere saathi ko mere doston se ghul-mil jaana chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah, kuch log aisa vaakya paas rakhte hain: “Meri chaah hai ki sab aapas mein jamein, aur har koi mere liye apni jagah maayne rakh sakta hai.” Wo purane vaakya ke bagal mein baith sakta hai, use jeetna zaroori nahi.

Shuru mein lag sakta hai ki badi table chhodi ja rahi hai. Kuch ko lagta hai ki ye chupchaap dabaav kam karta hai; kuch ise apne shabdon mein tab tak badalte hain jab tak imaandaar na lage. Koi ek sahi tareeka nahi.

Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo aasaan mel ki ummeed bhi rakhe aur har kisi ko maayne bhi rakhne de?Is par baat kijiye ›

Kya rehne dein

Kuch shaamein bas bedhab ho sakti hain #

Har akdi hui shaam ka koi matlab nikalna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai aur table par pade napkin ki tarah wahin chhoda ja sakta hai: shaam ka hissa, ghar tak dhone ka nahi.

Kisi se milne ki ijaazat tay ki jaana, chunne ko majboor kiya jaana, jaancha ya track kiya jaana, password dene ko kaha jaana, phone ya messages ki talaashi, paison par qaabu, kaagzaat rakh liye jaana, doston, family, kaam ya padhai se door rakha jaana, neecha dikhaya jaana, ye baat alag hai.

Waise hi dhamkiyan, khud ko, aapko, doosron ko ya pet ko nuksaan pahunchane ya nijee photos failane ki, dhakka, pakadna ya chot pahunchana, sex ya nazdeeki ka dabaav, ya unse darr. Ye gambhirta se lene laayak hai; satark rehna surakshit ho sakta hai.

Bedhab shaam ko aaram karne dene se wo theek nahi ho jaati, aur kuch tay bhi nahi hota. Bas itna ki agli subah use dohrane se shuru nahi karni padti.

Agar yeh dheela pade

Agar mezbaani thodi dheeli pade #

Sirf tasveer mein ummeed ko ek darja neeche kijiye. Aasaan mel ki chaah ab bhi hai, aur ek akdi shaam ek shaam hi reh sakti hai.

Kuch log chhoti cheezein sochte hain, jaise dost ke dinner par kisi qisse par hans lena aur table ko apna khayal khud rakhne dena, ya kisi purane dost ke saath bas dono ki chai.

Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, aapke paas rehta hai. Aage: is ummeed se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur aapke paas pehle se kya hai.

Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe thoda?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›