Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Kai gharon mein bachchon ko sikhaya jaata hai ki “Sorry bolo”, aur wo niyam jaise sabke dastkhat wala vaada ban jaata hai.
Kuch logon mein ye bachpan mein zabardasti maafi mangwaye jaane se juda hota hai: cousin se, teacher se, chhote bhai-behen se, jabki badon ki chookein chupchaap nikal gayin.
Andar koi niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Jab tak wo maafi na maangein, baat khatam nahi hui,” ya “Unhein parwah hoti to wo maan lete.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Purani baat phir uthana, is ummeed mein ki is baar pahunchegi
- Chupchaap ginti rakhna ki kab-kab maa-baap galat nikle
- Tanav khatam karne ko khud pehle “Sorry” bol dena, aur baad mein kadwahat rakhna
- Baat paas aate hi ghar mein chup ho jaana
- Barson tak nahate hue poori baatcheet shabd-dar-shabd dohrana
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Auto mein ek purani baat
Sunday ka lamba lunch karke Kanpur mein Mummy-Papa ke ghar se lautte hue, auto mein. Raaste mein kahin saalon pehle Papa ki table par kahi ek baat shabd-dar-shabd phir bajne lagti hai. Unhone use kabhi wapas nahi liya. Kisi ne kabhi uska zikr nahi kiya. Haath pakde hue bag par kas jaate hain, aur purani chubhan ajeeb tarah se taaza lagti hai, jaise aaj subah ki baat ho.
Galat the to maafi maangein
Andar ek niyam baitha hai: “Agar wo galat the, to unhein maafi maangni chahiye.” Sunne mein bilkul jaayaz lagta hai. Aakhir yahi toh unhone hi sikhaya tha. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: purana pal ek darwaze ki tarah khula reh jaata hai jo sirf unki taraf se band ho sakta hai. Jab tak wo shabd nahi aata, chubhan chaalu rehti hai, aur aap intezaar karte rehte ho.
Maafi se baat seedhi kyun lagti hai
Hum ise isliye thaamte hain kyunki maafi se baat seedhi hui lagti hai. Shaayad har galti par aapse “Sorry bolo” kaha jaata tha, aur ye niyam dono taraf chalna theek lagta tha. Shaayad aap bas sunna chahte ho ki us pal aapki ahmiyat thi. Jo bhi ho, maafi chahna chhotapan nahi hai. Ye gambhirta se liye jaane ki chaah hai, aur use dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har mulaqat mein purana pal
Har mulaqat purane pal ko kamre mein wapas le aati hai. Jo ab tak nahi kaha gaya, wo dikhne lagta hai. Lambe raaston par wo shabd dohraye jaate hain. Har baar aap ek aise vaakya ka intezaar karte ho jo nahi aata. Chhoti-chhoti nayi baatein zyada chubhti hain, kyunki wo purani baaton ke upar girti hain. Ateet table par ek kursi rakh leta hai, aur kaafi jagah gherta hai.
Kya us maafi ka intezaar laayak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya maafi ka intezaar karne se purani chubhan kabhi chhoti hui? Ya zyadatar usne use taaza rakha? Kuch logon ke liye ye shabd kehna bahut mushkil hota hai, aisi wajahon se jo koi aur poori tarah nahi dekh sakta. Jo bhi ho, ankaha shabd is baat ka paimana nahi ki aapka aahat hona sahi tha ya nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke laayak hai jo ye maangta hai?
Wo darwaza khud band karna
Chhodne ka matlab ye kehna nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya usse farq nahi pada. Matlab ye ki purane pal ko neeche rakhne ke liye ab unki maafi zaroori nahi. Aap jaante ho ki chubha tha. Aap is par poori tarah bharosa kar sakte ho, unke shabd ke bina bhi. Yahin se thoda sukoon lautta hai: darwaza aapki taraf se bhi band ho sakta hai, aur ghar ka raasta bas ghar ka raasta ban sakta hai.
If what happened was being hurt, threatened or frightened, that is something else, and worth taking seriously, sorry or not.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleAgar wo galat the, to unhein maafi maangni chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMujhe pata hai ki chubha tha. Darwaza band karna mere haath mein hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Jab purana pal laute, ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Din 2
Khud se kahiye: “Chubha tha, aur wo asli tha”
- Din 3
Ghar ke raaste ke liye apna pasandida gaana lagaiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapki zindagi mein kaun achhe se maafi maangta hai, aur wo kya karta hai?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek purana pal jiska ant nahi hua #
Sunday ka khaana khaakar Kanpur mein ghar lautte hue, auto mein, saalon pehle khaane ki table par kahi gayi ek baat phir bajne lagti hai. Aur uske saath ye vaakya: “Mummy-Papa ko apni galti par maafi maangni chahiye.”
Zyadatar baat jeetne ki nahi hoti. Baat ye hoti hai ki kuch seedha kar diya jaye: wo pal maan liya jaye, record theek ho jaye, aur aapse ek seedha “Mujhse galti hui thi” kaha jaye, taaki ek purana drishya baar-baar chalne ki jagah aakhir khatam ho sake.
Agar baat ghar mein buri tarah chot pahunchne ya darne ki hai, to dheere chaliye; ye silsila sirf roz ki galtiyon aur behason ke baare mein hai.
Maa-baap ke saath kaun-sa pal sabse pehle yaad aata hai, jab us maafi ki baat sochte hain jo kabhi nahi aayi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Shabdon se pehle jo uthta hai #
Kuch logon ko ye chehre ki garmi ki tarah mehsoos hota hai, jab koi bada baat badal deta hai. Ya jabda kas jaata hai jab purani kahani unke dhang se dobara sunayi jaati hai. Ya shabd gale mein atke reh jaate hain aur baaki sab table par mithai ki taraf badh jaate hain.
Ehsaas kisi bhi tark se pehle aa sakta hai: “Lo, phir wahi”, bhai-behen ki taraf ek jhatpat nazar, poora hisaab ek saath khol dene ki ichchha. Soch aksar baad mein aati hai, seedhiyon par ya raaste mein.
Pichhli baar jab maa-baap mein se kisi ne apni galti wali baat se bina ruke aage badhna chuna, to kuch kehne se pehle aapko kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Gambhirta se liye jaane ki chaah #
Jab maa-baap kuch galat kar dein, to unse maafi ki ummeed rakhna jaayaz hai. Maafi kehti hai ki wo pal hua tha, uski ahmiyat thi, aur aapko gambhirta se liya gaya. Uske bina kuch logon ko wo purana pal adhkhule darwaze jaisa khula lagta hai.
Kai gharon mein bachchon ko sikhaya jaata hai ki “Sorry bolo”, aur wo niyam jaise sabke dastkhat wala vaada ban jaata hai. Jab wo niyam upar ki taraf nahi chalta, to ye farq mood se zyada nainsaafi jaisa lagne lagta hai.
Agar kal maa-baap mein se koi ek baat ke liye maafi maang le, to aap sabse zyada kis baat ke liye chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Purana drishya dohrane wali awaaz #
“Bas ek baar maan lo.” “Mujhse aisa hua hota to aaj tak sunna padta.” “Har baar main hi maamla kyun sambhalun?” Ye awaaz aksar ghar lautte samay bolti hai, ya jab koi purani kahani sunate hue wahi hissa chhod deta hai jo chubha tha.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki ye awaaz baariq hisaab rakhti hai, aur har mulaqat ke saath hisaab badhta jaata hai. Us hisaab ka ishara shaayad shabdon se kam, gambhirta se liye jaane ki taraf hota hai.
Jab awaaz maa-baap ke saath wo purana drishya dohrati hai, to wo kaun-sa vaakya unse sunna chahti hai, shabd-dar-shabd?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Maafi ki chaah aksar kahan se shuru hoti hai #
Kuch logon mein ye bachpan mein zabardasti maafi mangwaye jaane se juda hota hai: cousin se, teacher se, chhote bhai-behen se, jabki badon ki chookein chupchaap nikal gayin. Maafi ka niyam saaf sikhaya gaya; bas wo ek hi taraf chalta laga.
Kuch mein ye kisi ek din se aaya: ilzaam galat bachche par pada, koi yatra jo tay hui aur phir chupchaap chhoot gayi, “Humein zyada pata hai” jo galat nikla. Kuch log aisi chaah ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Bade hote hue kaun-sa din tha jab pehli baar laga ki kaash maa-baap maafi maang lein, aur us din hua kya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Wo niyam jo shabdon ka intezaar karta hai #
Andar koi niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Jab tak wo maafi na maangein, baat khatam nahi hui,” ya “Unhein parwah hoti to wo maan lete.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki koi purana pal kabhi neeche rakha ja sakta hai ya nahi.
Ye niyam se zyada seedhe insaaf jaisa lagta hai, aur isme sach mein samajhdaari hai. Isiliye ise dekhna theek hai, aaj ke maa-baap aur us pal ke saath jaisa aapko yaad hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Maa-baap ke saath kaun-se purane palon par maafi wala niyam ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kaun-se par nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Adhoora pal kya keemat maangta hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ek paarivarik khaana, jo kisi aise mauke ki raah mein beeta jo aaya hi nahi; birthday ka phone chhota rakhna, ki kahin purani baat na nikal aaye; mulaqat ke baad ki shaam us maa-baap se behas mein beetna jo kamre mein hain hi nahi. Shaant, phir bhi bhaari.
Aur sawaal ye bhi hai ki ant kiske haath mein hai. Jab koi purana pal sirf kisi aur ke shabdon se poora ho sakta hai, to uski aakhri line unhin ke paas rehti hai, jo shaayad kabhi kahein, shaayad na kahein.
Haal mein maa-baap ke saath kaun-si aam mulaqat ya phone-call sabse zyada us na aayi maafi ke rang mein ranga rahi, aur usmein aapka kya gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Purana drishya, paanch saal aur #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Maa-baap ko maafi maangni chahiye” zor se baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shaayad raaste mein mann hi mann purani baat phir uthana, maa-baap ka phone chauthi ghanti par uthana, office ka ek kaam do baar padhna kyunki dimaag kahin aur hai, shaam ki sair baatcheet ke rehearsal mein beetna.
Inmein se kuch bhi purvanumaan nahi hai, aur tasveer ko jab chahein alag rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: phone-call, mulaqatein, dohraya ja raha purana drishya, ankahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar kar raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Gambhirta se lena, kis roop mein? #
Maafi ek saath kai cheezein le aa sakti hai: record ka seedha hona, chot ki ginti, aur ye sanket ki agli baar aisa nahi hoga. Inmein se kuch sirf maa-baap se aa sakti hain; kuch, jaise ye jaanna ki kya hua tha aur uski ahmiyat thi, aap khud thaam sakte hain.
Jo hua wo sach hai, chahe koi uske liye maafi maange ya nahi. Maafi usmein kuch asli jodti, aur uske na hone se us pal ki sachchai nahi mitti. Dono baatein ek saath sach ho sakti hain.
Maa-baap ki maafi se jo-jo milta, usmein sabse zyada kya maayne rakhta hai, aur kaun-sa hissa aap apne aap thaam sakte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Purani baat ke bagal mein jo ab bhi aata hai #
Jis maafi ki ummeed hai, uske bagal mein kuch cheezein maa-baap se ab bhi aa sakti hain, chahe kitni bhi saadharan: lautte hue raaste ke liye baandha hua aam ka achaar, train pahunch gayi ya nahi, ye poochhta phone, kisi purani film par saath ki hansi.
Inhein dekhne se purani baat sulajh nahi jaati, aur inka koi hisaab nahi chukana; ummeed aur ye chhoti cheezein dono sach ho sakti hain. Jab purana drishya chal raha ho, tab roz ki ye narmiyan dikhna mushkil hota hai.
Kuch hafte bahut kam laate hain, aur wo theek hai.
Maa-baap ek aam hafte mein pehle se kya laate hain jise aap dekhna chahein, bina ye maane ki usse kuch sulajh gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Wo sukoon jo maafi par nahi tika #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki purani baat theek thi, ya maafi chahna bahut zyada hai. Matlab ye hai ki na aayi maafi aapke ghar lautne ke raaste, agli mulaqat aur aapki shaam ke kitne hisse ka faisla kare, ye usse tay na ho.
Isme jo jaayaz hai, wo reh sakta hai: gambhirta se liya jaana chahna, ye chahna ki jo niyam badon ne sikhaya wo wo bhi nibhayein. Agar jo hua wo chot pahunchana ya darana tha, to wo kuch aur hai, aur maafi aaye ya na aaye, use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Ghar mein buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi aur unke liye bhi, chahe maafi kabhi aaye ya na aaye. Kuch baatein achhi wajahon se chup rakhi jaati hain, suraksha samet.
Is ummeed se sulah ke saath ghar lautna sochiye: usmein aapko kya achha lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Ghar ke raaste ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Mummy-Papa ko apni galti par maafi maangni chahiye” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log aisa vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Jo hua, hua tha, uski ahmiyat thi, aur ye mujhe unke kahe bina bhi pata hai.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas purane vaakya ke bagal mein baithna hai.
Shuru mein ye sakht lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki apna ek vaakya us jagah ka thoda hissa le leta hai jo dohrane wali awaaz gherti thi; kuch ko nahi lagta, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo jo hua use asli rakhe bina kisi ki maafi ki raah dekhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch purani baatein shelf par reh sakti hain #
Har purana pal isi saal poora karna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek baar gaur kiya ja sakta hai, aur sabke saamne rakha rehne diya ja sakta hai, jaise Lucknow ki kisi rasoi mein rakha chatka hua cup, ya kitaabon se tiki school ki purani tasveer.
Kuch parivaar ateet ki baat nahi kar paate, aur unhein parakhne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch baatein achhi wajahon se chup rakhi jaati hain, suraksha samet, aur wo bhi theek hai. Maafi ki chaah jitne samay chahein nijee reh sakti hai, aur phir bhi asli hai.
Aaj shaam ke liye ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki baat theek thi, ya sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki purana drishya har baar aapke saath ghar nahi jaana hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar pakad thodi bhi dheeli ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja shaant hai. Maafi ki chaah ab bhi hai, par purana drishya kai yaadon mein se bas ek hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: purani baat ab bhi wahin, par ghar ke raaste ka thoda kam hissa usmein gaya, radio par bajta gaana sach mein suna gaya, ya kisi mulaqat ki yaad mein khaana aur ek hansi rahi.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota ho. Aage, is par nazar ki is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur kya pehle se maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, thoda-sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Dhyaan dijiye ki kaun-sa purana pal sabse zyada lautta hai, aur kis tarah ke din
- Jab purana drishya chalne lage, dekhiye din mein kis baat ne use chaalu kiya
- Aaj ki ek cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: us maafi se theek-theek mujhe kya milta?
- Dekhiye kaun-sa hissa zyada tez hai: jo hua, ya ye ki use maana nahi gaya
Chhote, nijee aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapki zindagi mein kaun achhe se maafi maangta hai, aur wo kya karta hai?
- Maa-baap se aap kaun-se shabd sunna chahenge, aur us waqt kahan hona chahenge?
- Parivaar ki kaun-si chhoti asehmati achhe se khatam hui, aur kis baat ne madad ki?
- Agar maa-baap ke maafi maangne ki chaah thodi halki ho, to sabse pehle aapko kya dikhega?
- Ghar ki ek aam mulaqat mein pehle se kya hai jise aap thoda aur saraahna chahenge?