Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Apwaad ek sandesh jaise bhi lag sakte hain: kuch log baaqiyon se zyada gine jaate hain.
Kuch logon ke liye ye aise maa-baap se aaya jo sakht par insaaf pasand the: har bachche ke liye sone ka ek hi waqt, ek hi galti ki ek hi saza.
Is khayal ke neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Agar main nibhaoon, to sabko nibhana chahiye,” ya “Apwaad unka apmaan hai jo niyam maante hain.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Niyam ko aur sambhalkar nibhana, ek chup virodh ki tarah
- Agli baar khud niyam mod dena, kyunki koi aur to maanta nahi
- Apwaad ko zor se bata dena, aur kamre ko asahaj hote dekhna
- Mann mein list rakhna ki kise chhoot milti hai
- Tay kar lena ki poora system hi set hai, aur koshish chhod dena
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Teen baje nikal gaye, koi baat nahi
Bhopal ke ek office mein Monday ki subah. Pichhle mahine das minute jaldi nikalne par aapko toka gaya tha. Aaj aap dekhte ho ki ek senior saathi is hafte doosri baar teen baje nikal jaate hain, aur kisi ne kuch nahi kaha. Aap screen taakte rehte ho, jabda kasa hua, aur seene mein ek jaani-pehchani, garm beinsaafi uthti hai. Ek pal ko baaki sab khamosh ho jaata hai.
Niyam sab par laagu hon
Iske neeche ek niyam hai: “Niyam sab par barabar laagu hone chahiye.” Ye bilkul jaayaz lagta hai. Niyam barabar hone chahiye. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapko beinsaafi par lagaatar nazar rakhne wala bana deta hai. Har apwaad apmaan ban jaata hai, aur aap chupchaap hisaab rakhne lagte ho ki kaun kya karke bach gaya, jo aapke din ka ummeed se zyada hissa kha leta hai.
Insaaf buniyaad kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki insaaf har cheez ki buniyaad lagta hai. Bahut log is niyam ke kisi roop ke saath bade hote hain, aur tab ye aksar samajhdaari ki baat thi. Shayad niyam hamesha sambhalkar nibhane ki aadat rahi hai. Shayad un baaton par saza mili jin par auron ko chhoot mili. Jo bhi ho, insaaf chaahna akad nahi. Ye us duniya ki chaah se aata hai jahan sab barabar gine jayein. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har apwaad par jhunjhlahat
Har apwaad jhunjhlahat mein judta jaata hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Aap har moda hua niyam dekhte ho. Niyam manne par bewakoof lagte ho. Lautte raaste mein beinsaaf pal dohrate ho. Gussa jama hota hai aur office ke har pehlu ko rangne lagta hai, jab tak jagah set lage aur imaandaari se khelne ki koshish thaka de.
Kya ye jhunjhlahat zaroori hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochhiye: kya har apwaad ka hisaab rakhne se kabhi cheezein zyada insaaf wali hui? Ya zyadatar gussa aur thakaan hi badhi? Kuch apwaad seedhi sifarish hote hain. Kuch ki wajahein aapko nahi dikhtin, jaise koi aapaatkaal ya andekhi zaroorat. Bahar se wo ek-se dikh sakte hain. Jo bhi ho, ek apwaad aapki keemat ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna uske laayak hai?
Imaandaari nibhana, kuch jaane dena
Chhodne ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki insaaf maayne nahi rakhta. Matlab ye ki har apwaad ab aapke poore din ka ehsaas tay na kare. Aap un niyamon ko nibha sakte ho jin par yaqeen hai, aur kuch apwaadon ko ghar laaye bina guzar jaane de sakte ho. Ye ek saath nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapka insaaf ka ehsaas aapka hi rehta hai, bojh bane bina.
When a rule bends against you for who you are, or anyone threatens or frightens you, that is not a hope to loosen; it is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleNiyam sab par barabar laagu hone chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleImaandaari mera chunav hai; kuch apwaad jaane diye ja sakte hain.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Aaj ek chhota apwaad guzar jaane dijiye
- Din 2
Jab hisaab rakhna shuru ho, ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Din 3
Ek aisa niyam dekhiye jise aap yaqeen se nibhate hain
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapke jaanne walon mein sabse insaaf pasand kaun hai, aur wo niyamon ke saath kaise pesh aate hain?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Board padhne ko kaha gaya, aur koi bagal se nikal gaya #
Bhopal ki society ke gate par guard ne roka: “Board padho, is taraf se entry nahi hai.” Aap lamba chakkar kaatkar gaye. Das minute baad ek badi gaadi usi gate se muskaan ke saath seedhe andar chali gayi. Khayal garm aur saaf hai: “Niyam sab par barabar laagu hone chahiye.”
Ye un offices mein aata hai jahan boss ke chahete ko prakriya se chhoot hai, un imaaraton mein jahan kuch gaadiyan kahin bhi khadi ho jaati hain, un schools mein jahan kuch parivaaron ke liye apwaad hain. Aap niyam nibhate hain. Koi aur jaise usse oopar rehta hai.
Aapne kahan dekha hai ki niyam sab par barabar laagu hua, aur usse us jagah ka mahaul kaisa badal gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Niyam nibhane wala hone ki jalan #
Kuch logon ke chehre par garmi ki lehar aati hai, sahi kaam karke bewakoof dikhne ki wo khaas jalan. Kuch ka pet baith jaata hai, jaise niyamon ki zameen khisak gayi ho.
Body aksar kuch karna chahti hai: bolna, ungli uthana, khud bhi gate se nikal jaana. Phir wo ruk jaati hai, kyunki niyam aap par ab bhi laagu hai. Ye rukna seene mein kasaav jaisa lag sakta hai.
Aakhri baar jab aapne kisi ko wo niyam todte dekha jo aapne nibhaya tha, to aapki body kya karna chahti thi, aur usne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Barabar niyam ek insaaf wali duniya banate hain #
Ye ummeed kisi aham cheez ke paas baithi hai. Niyam sabko ek jaisa bachane ke liye hote hain. Jab wo kuch logon ke liye jhuk jaate hain, to niyam nahi rehte, doosron ke liye deewar ban jaate hain. Unhein barabar chaahna insaaf chaahna hai.
Apwaad ek sandesh jaise bhi lag sakte hain: kuch log baaqiyon se zyada gine jaate hain. Chhote apwaad bhi, parking ki ek jagah ya chhoda hua form, chubh sakte hain, kyunki wo dikhate hain ki kise jaane diya gaya.
Jab niyam sab par ek-se laagu hote hain, to kisi jagah aur use chalane walon par aapka bharosa kaise badalta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Har apwaad par nazar rakhne wali awaaz #
“Haan-haan, unko to jaane hi denge.” “Niyam bas hum jaison ke liye hain.” “Niyam nibhane wala kya bas ek main hi hoon?” Ye awaaz teekhi aur thaki dono ek saath ho sakti hai, aur aksar tab bolti hai jab aapke saamne koi apwaad bana ho.
Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki awaaz kuch qeemti bacha rahi hai: ye yaqeen ki insaaf maayne rakhta hai. Saath hi wo us yaqeen ko dheere-dheere kadwaahat mein badal rahi hai.
Jab apwaadon wali awaaz bole, to pehli pankti kaun si aati hai, aur wo kya bachane ki koshish kar rahi hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Barabar niyamon ka khayal kahan se aaya #
Kuch logon ke liye ye aise maa-baap se aaya jo sakht par insaaf pasand the: har bachche ke liye sone ka ek hi waqt, ek hi galti ki ek hi saza. Kuch ke liye aise school se, jahan head boy ko bhi waise hi detention milta tha jaise kisi aur ko.
Kuch logon ne pehle ulta seekha: niyam jo chahete cousin ya ameer padosi ke liye mud jaate the. Ye jeevan bhar ke liye apwaadon par teekhi nazar chhod sakta hai.
Aapko sabse pehle kisne dikhaya ki insaaf wale niyam kaise hote hain, ya beinsaaf wale kaise lagte hain, aur tab kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Niyamon ke baare mein ek niyam #
Is khayal ke neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Agar main nibhaoon, to sabko nibhana chahiye,” ya “Apwaad unka apmaan hai jo niyam maante hain.” Ye insaaf wali duniya ke liye sahi niyam hai. Par ye har apwaad ko chhoti nijee chot bhi bana deta hai.
Kuch log ise sakht ghar se jodte hain; kuch aisi jagah se jahan niyam doosron ke liye mudte the aur unke liye kabhi nahi. Iski jad se zyada ye maayne rakhta hai: ise gaur se dekha ja sakta hai.
Barabar-niyamon wala ye niyam kahan aapko insaaf ke liye khade hone mein madad karta hai, aur kahan har apwaad ko zakhm bana deta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Apwaadon par nazar rakhne ki keemat #
Iski keemat ho sakti hai chain: ek din jo ye dekhne mein gaya ki kisne line todi, kisne galat park kiya, kise chhoot mili. Bharose ki keemat bhi: ye lagna ki har jagah set hai, tab bhi jab zyadatar nahi hai.
Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki isse unka apna niyam nibhane ka garv bhi jaata hai. Niyam nibhana shareefat ki jagah bewakoofi lagne lagta hai.
Agar is baat par zara kam dhyaan jaye ki kaun niyam todta hai, to aapke din kaise lagenge, aur wo dhyaan kahan jayega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Roz ka lamba chakkar #
Ek aam hafta dekhiye jab “Niyam sab par barabar laagu hon” zor se bol raha ho. Gate, parking, office ki prakriya, school ka office. Bas ek tasveer, hal karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad ye hai ki niyam nibhaya aur doosre paas se nikal gaye, phir wahi lamba chakkar, har baar garmi chadhti hui, apwaadon ki list badhti hui.
Ye bas ek hafta hai, bhavishyavaani nahi, aur jab chahein kinare rakha ja sakta hai.
Us hafte mein aur kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Abhi use dekhkar aapko wahan kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kuch apwaadon ki wajah dikhti nahi #
Kuch apwaad seedhi sifarish ya rutba hote hain. Kuch ki wajahein aapko dikhti nahi: koi pass, koi aapaatkaal, koi zaroorat jo aapki jagah se nahi dikhti. Bahar se dono ek-se dikh sakte hain. Jab niyam aap par isliye mudta hai ki aap kaun hain, to wo chhipi wajah nahi hoti; use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Isse asli pakshpaat theek nahi ho jaata, aur barabar niyamon ki aapki chaah achhi hi rehti hai. Bas itna ki kuch apwaad us pal jitne nijee ya beinsaaf lagte hain, usse kam ho sakte hain.
Koi waqt sochiye jab aapko apwaad mila ho: wajah kya thi, aur doosron ko wo kaisa dikha hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jahan niyam sach mein tikte hain #
Shayad kuch jagahein hain: wo office jahan lift ke liye kram se line lagti hai, wo teacher jo sabke number ek-se kaatti hai, wo guard jisne badi gaadi ko bhi roka, wo bus jo kisi ke liye nahi rukti.
Inhein dekhne se apwaad theek nahi honge. Ye bhi usi tasveer ka hissa hain, chup aur nyaypriya, aur aasaani se chhoot jaate hain kyunki insaaf kam hi shor karta hai.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun si jagah ya insaan niyam insaaf se laagu karta hai, aur unke baare mein aap kya gaur karna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Insaaf qayam, bina har gate ki pehredaari ke #
Baat ye tay karne ki nahi ki beinsaafi theek hai. Niyam sab par laagu hon, ye chaahna achha hai. Matlab ye ki har apwaad ab aapke din ka faisla na kare.
Insaaf, izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi. Jo niyam aap par isliye zyada kadai se laagu hon ki aap kaun hain (ling, jaati, dharm, rang, umar, viklangta ya jagah), wo dheeli ki jaane wali ummeed nahi; use gambhirta se lein. Satark rehna surakshit raasta ho sakta hai.
Agle apwaad ki tasveer sochiye, is ummeed ko halke se thaame hue: koi niyam ke paas se nikal jaata hai, aur aap apne raaste ka kya karna chunte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Lambe chakkar ke liye ek pankti #
“Niyam sab par barabar laagu hone chahiye” ke bagal mein kuch log ye pankti rakhte hain: “Mere yaqeen ke niyam mere liye maayne rakhte hain; doosron ke apwaadon ko poora din dena zaroori nahi.” Ye pehli pankti ki jagah nahi leti. Uske bagal mein khadi rehti hai.
Jab badi gaadi nikal rahi ho, tab ye zyada shaant lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ko apni zyada teekhi pankti pasand aati hai.
Aapki apni kaun si pankti yahan baithegi, jo insaaf ke liye aapka lagaav bachaye aur aapka din aapka rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Apwaad gate par hi reh sakta hai #
Har apwaad par faisla sunana zaroori nahi. Use maana ja sakta hai aur gate par chhoda ja sakta hai, jaise lautte waqt visitor pass wapas de diya jaye.
Barabar niyamon ki chaah aapke saath reh sakti hai. Aap kaun hain isliye aapke saath zyada kadai ho, wo alag baat hai, aur use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Use gate par chhod dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya mamla band ho gaya. Bas itna ki din ka baaki hissa jiya ja sakta hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar doosron ke apwaad kam bhaari hote #
Ek pal ke liye wahi gate sochiye, ummeed zara neeche baithi hui. Aap niyam nibhate hain, aur doosron ko doosron ki tarah rehne dete hain.
Wo bahut chhota ho sakta hai: lambe chakkar mein ek shaant chaal, ek podcast jo aap sach mein sun payein, us beinsaafi ke liye bachi taakat jo sach mein maayne rakhti hai.
Ye tasveer jab tak chahein apne paas rakhiye. Is ummeed se sulah wala card palatiye, phir wo jo pehle se maujood hai.
Farq pehle kahan mehsoos hota hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Inmein se kaun sa aapko sabse pehle dikhta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Aazmane ko chhoti nijee baatein #
- Apwaad dikhe to us ehsaas ko ek shabd dijiye
- Is hafte ek jagah dekhiye jahan niyam insaaf se laagu hua
- Ek aisa niyam sochiye jise aap isliye nibhate hain ki usmein yaqeen hai
- Chupchaap poochhiye: ye sifarish hai, ya koi aisi wajah jo mujhe nahi dikh rahi?
- Dekhiye apwaad ki chubhan aapke saath kitni der rehti hai
Jo aasaan lage, wahi chuniye. Inmein se koi kaam nahi hai.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapke jaanne walon mein sabse insaaf pasand kaun hai, aur wo niyamon ke saath kaise pesh aate hain?
- Kaun sa niyam aap isliye nibhate hain ki usmein sach mein yaqeen hai?
- Kab kisi ne niyam insaaf se nibhaya, apne khilaaf bhi?
- Agar apwaad aapko zara kam khatkein, to aapke din kaise lagenge?
- Aapki zindagi mein kahan cheezein pehle se insaaf aur barabari wali lagti hain?