Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye isliye bhi chubhta hai ki apni hi cheez wapas maangna atpata lag sakta hai.
Kuch logon mein iska sira us ghar tak jaata hai jahan padosi cheeni, auzaar aur folding kursiyan har waqt lete-dete the, aur sab kuch shukriya ke saath lautta tha, kabhi katori mein kuch pakwaan ke saath.
Aksar neeche ek niyam baitha hota hai: “Jo maango, wo lautao,” ya “Parwaah hoti toh yaad rakhte.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Darwaza khatkhatakar maangne se behtar bina cheez ke reh jaana
- Nayi kharid lena aur chupchaap kheejha rehna
- Baaton mein ishaare chhodna aur ummeed karna ki wo samajh jayein
- Us padosi ko dena band kar dena, aur zara kanjoosi jaisa lagna
- Mann mein un sab cheezon ki fehrist rakhna jo baghal wale le gaye
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Mahine bhar pehle maangi gayi drill
Saturday ki subah, Patna ke flat mein. Aap drill machine dhoondhne store mein jaate ho aur yaad aata hai: baghal walon ne ek mahine pehle maangi thi. Usse pehle seedhi. Aap deewar ke khaali khoonte ko dekhte rehte ho, aur kheej aur jhenp ka khatta mishran mehsoos karte ho, kyunki apni cheez wapas maangna bhi ajeeb tarah se asahaj lagta hai.
Maangi cheezein lautani chahiye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Padosiyon ko maangi hui cheezein lautani chahiye.” Ye bilkul jaayaz lagta hai. Maanga hua yaani maanga hua. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har khaali khoonta ek chhoti gaanth ban jaata hai. Aap mann mein fehrist rakhne lagte ho, aur dena dostana kaam ki jagah ek chhota jokhim ban jaata hai, jise har baar taulna padta hai.
Len-den padosi jaisa kyun lagta hai
Hum ye niyam isliye pakadte hain ki len-den se hi padosi padosi lagte hain. Shayad aap khud cheezein aksar usi din lauta dete ho. Shayad aapka bachpan aise mahaul mein beeta jahan maangi hui cheez shukriya aur ek katori mithai ke saath lautti thi. Apni cheez wapas chaahna kanjoosi nahi. Ye insaaf ki chaah hai, aur ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Wo gaanth jo badhti jaati hai
Har na lauti cheez gaanth badhati hai. Aap padosi se katrane lagte ho, ya rukhe ho jaate ho. Kisi ko bhi kuch dene se pehle hichkte ho. Maangne ki ghatna mann mein dohrate ho. Jo dostana gali aapne chahi thi, wo thandi lagne lagti hai, aur aas-paas walon ke liye jo sahaj udarta aap kabhi mehsoos karte the, uska kuch hissa kho jaata hai.
Kya drill ke liye gaanth theek hai?
Imaandaari se khud se puchhiye: kya mann mein fehrist rakhne se drill kabhi lauti? Ya zyada-tar mann khatta hua? Log maangi cheezein tarah-tarah ki wajahon se bhool jaate hain. Pakka koi nahi keh sakta. Khaali khoonta na aapke padosi ka paimana hai, na aapka. Is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna kya sahi hai?
Sirf wahi dena jisme khushi ho
Chhodne ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye maayne nahi rakhta. Matlab ye ki khaali khoonta gali ke baare mein aapke ehsaas ko khatta nahi karta. Aap halke aur naram dhang se wapas maang sakte ho, sirf wahi de sakte ho jisme sahaj ho, ya chhoti cheezein bina shor ke jaane de sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: aapki dariyadili aapki rehti hai, apni sharton par.
Threats, harassment, things taken or damaged on purpose, being followed or watched, or being singled out for who you are, are something else. They are worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleUnhein maangi hui cheezein lautani chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleJo dene mein khushi ho, wahi doon, aur baaki jaane doon.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Tay kijiye ki kaun si cheezein deni hain aur kaun si ghar par rahengi
- Din 2
Jab gaanth laute, to ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Din 3
Padosi ki ki hui ek bhali baat par gaur kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Aapke ab tak ke sabse achhe padosi kaun rahe hain, aur unhone kya kiya?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Seedhi ki talaash #
Patna, Boring Road ka flat. Galiyare ka bulb ud gaya hai. Aap store ki almirah mein seedhi dhoondhte ho, aur jahan use hona tha wahan khaali jagah hai. Phir yaad aata hai: baghal wale Chhath se pehle maangkar le gaye the. Ab November hai. Aap sochte ho: “Padosiyon ko maangi hui cheezein lautani chahiye.”
Kuch logon ke liye baat ki jad baghal mein rehne walon ke beech bharosa hai. Cheez dena yaani kehna: “Mujhe aap par apni cheezein saunpne ka bharosa hai.” Jab wo lautkar na aaye, to wo chhota bharosa chupchaap toota hua lag sakta hai.
Koi aisa pal yaad kijiye jab kisi ne aapki di hui cheez lautayi, shayad pehle se bhi behtar karke.
Kaisa laga tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Almirah ki khaali jagah #
Kuch logon ko khaali jagah dekhkar jhat se chidh ka jhonka aata hai. Kuch ko dil mein halka-sa dhansna, “hamein toh bas kaam nikalne ka zariya samjha” wala ehsaas, naam dene se pehle hi.
Sharir dimaag se pehle harkat karta hai: ek aah, zaroorat se zyada zor se band hua palla, padosi ki deewar ki taraf ek nazar. Lambe khayal seedhi ke bina kaam nipatate hue aate hain.
Pichhli baar jab aapki di hui koi cheez wapas nahi aayi thi, to sabse pehle aapko apne andar kya dikha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Dena ek tarah ka bharosa hai #
Cheezein wapas chaahne ke peechhe achhi wajahein hain. Dena chhoti-si meharbani aur bharosa hai. Lautane se wo bharosa nibhta hai, aur padosi ek-doosre ke kaam aate rehte hain.
Ye isliye bhi chubhta hai ki apni hi cheez wapas maangna atpata lag sakta hai. Bahut se log darwaza khatkhatakar maangne se behtar bina rehna chunte hain. To cheez khoyi rehti hai, aur jhunjhlahat badhti hai.
Jab koi aapki di cheez jaldi aur sahi haalat mein lautata hai, to aapke liye uska kya matlab hota hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Almirah ke paas ki awaaz #
“Wahi purani baat.” “Jab zaroorat hoti hai tabhi aate hain.” “Hamesha hamin kyun dete hain?” Ye awaaz tab sunayi de sakti hai jab aapko wo cheez chahiye, ya jab padosi kuch aur maangne aa jaayein.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki awaaz aadhi seedhi ke baare mein hai aur aadhi istemaal kiye jaane ke ehsaas ke baare mein. Seedhi chhoti cheez hai. Halke mein liye jaane ka ehsaas bada hai, aur use gaur karna chahiye.
Jab awaaz maangi hui cheez ki baat karti hai, to neeche se use asal mein sabse zyada kis baat se dikkat hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Len-den ki aadat kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon mein iska sira us ghar tak jaata hai jahan padosi cheeni, auzaar aur folding kursiyan har waqt lete-dete the, aur sab kuch shukriya ke saath lautta tha, kabhi katori mein kuch pakwaan ke saath. Katori khaali nahi lautate the. Wahi aasaan len-den achhi gali ki tasveer ban gaya.
Kabhi ye kisi maa-baap se aata hai jo kehte the “cheez lautao toh pehle se behtar karke.” Us niyam se jeene wale ko unhein samajhna mushkil lag sakta hai jo aisa nahi karte.
Aapki zindagi mein kaun sabse achha tha maangne aur lautane mein, aur usne aisa kya kiya jisse achha lagta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Udhaar lene ka niyam #
Aksar neeche ek niyam baitha hota hai: “Jo maango, wo lautao,” ya “Parwaah hoti toh yaad rakhte.” Pehla jaayaz niyam hai. Doosra kisi aur ke store ki seedhi se bahut kuch maan leta hai.
Bahut log bas bhool jaate hain. Seedhi unke store mein chali jaati hai, dibbon ke peechhe chhip jaati hai, aur maangi hui nahi lagti. Ye laparwahi hai, par aksar aapke khilaaf kiya gaya chunaav nahi.
Maangne-lautane ka aapka niyam aapke padosiyon par kahan baithta hai, aur kahan bhoolne ko aapke baare mein faisla bana deta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Na lauti cheezein kya le ja sakti hain #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai apni cheezon ke bina kaam chalana, unhein do baar kharidna, ya kisi padosi ke liye dheemi thandak jo pehle achha lagta tha. Ek-ek karke ye gali ka mahaul badal sakti hain.
Ye dariyadili ko bhi mushkil bana sakta hai. Agar dene ka nateeja hamesha khona ho, to madad karne ki sahaj ichchha sikud sakti hai, aur aapka koi bhala hissa band hone lagta hai.
Pichhle saal aapne kaun si cheez di jo sahi-salamat laut aayi, aur wo pal kaisa tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Zyada khaali jagahon wali almirah #
Ise dekhne ka ek tareeka samjhiye, bhavishyavaani nahi. Ek-do saal baad aap almirah mein kuch dhoondhte ho aur ek aur khaali jagah milti hai, aur yaad aata hai kisne manga tha.
Shayad koi kaam mushkil tareeke se, seedhiyon par ek akdi namaste, aur agli baar kya dena hai iska ek mann-hi-mann note.
Is tasveer mein suljhane ko kuch nahi, aur ise kabhi bhi daraaz mein wapas rakha ja sakta hai.
Us din ka baaki hissa kaisa hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein aur kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhte hue aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Bhool jaana aur le lena ek baat nahi #
Maangi hui cheezein aksar kuch hafton mein lene wale ke ghar mein ghul-mil jaati hain. Bahut se log ye jaankar sharminda honge ki unhone koi cheez kitne din rakhi. Bhoolna laparwahi hai, par chori kam hi hoti hai.
Isse ye theek nahi ho jaata, aur apni cheezein wapas chaahna jaayaz hai. Matlab ye ho sakta hai ki gaayab seedhi unke bhare store ke baare mein zyada kehti hai, aapke baare mein unki raay ke baare mein kam.
Agar padosi bas seedhi bhool gaye hon, to aapki almirah ki khaali jagah aapko kaisi lagegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Aapka dena pehle se kya dikhata hai #
Gaayab seedhi se pare ek pal dekhein, to kuch cheezein pehle se hain: padosi jinhone cheezein lautayin, koi meharbani jo doosre roop mein lauti, aapki khud ki dariyadili ki aadat jo deti hai.
Ye seedhi wapas nahi laatin, aur uska lautna chaahna ab bhi jaayaz hai. Ye bhi sach hain, aur dikhati hain ki aap kaise padosi banna chunte ho.
Aapka dena aur madad karna aapko pehle se kya deta hai, jise aap aur mehsoos karna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Dariyadil bhi, aur apni cheez par saaf bhi #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye maayne nahi rakhti. Jo badalta hai wo ye ki khaali almirah poori gali ke baare mein aapke ehsaas ko khatta nahi karti. Aapki cheezein aapki hain, aur unhein wapas chaahna jaayaz hai.
Dhamkiyan, pareshaan karna, jaan-bujhkar cheezon ka le jaaya ya bigaada jaana, peechha kiya jaana ya nazar rakhi jaana, ya aap jo ho uski wajah se alag nishaana banaya jaana (dharm, jaati, rang, aap kahan se ho, koi viklangta) kuch aur hai. Unhein gambhirta se lena chahiye, aur saavdhaan rehna surakshit ho sakta hai.
Cheezein saunpne ke liye dabaav, sharmindagi ya darr mein daala jaana bhi udhaar ka sawaal nahi. Us par bhi dhyaan chahiye.
Jahan aap rehte ho wahan buniyaadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, na aapke liye, na aapke padosiyon ke liye.
Agli baar jab seedhi chahiye ho, is baat ke saath thoda chain se: aapka din kaisa chalega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Khaali almirah ke liye ek vaakya #
“Padosiyon ko maangi hui cheezein lautani chahiye” ke baghal mein kuch log rakhte hain: “Mujhe dena achha lagta hai, aur kya doon aur kab wapas chahiye, ye mere haath mein hai.” Pehla vaakya jaayaz rehta hai. Doosra aapki dariyadili aapki hi rakhta hai.
Shuru mein ye akda hua lag sakta hai. Kuch log ise chhota karke “dayalu, par paydaan nahi” kar lete hain. Kuch apne madad karne ke tareeke ke hisaab se koi line dhoondh lete hain.
Aapka apna sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo aapki bhalmansahat aur apni cheez par aapka haq, dono rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Seedhi intezaar kar sakti hai #
Har maangi hui cheez ke baare mein aaj raat sochna zaroori nahi. Use dekha ja sakta hai, mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur fridge par lage parche ki tarah kisi aur din ke liye chhoda ja sakta hai.
Cheezein lautne ki chaah reh sakti hai. Dhamkiyan, pareshaan karna, jaan-bujhkar bigaadna, nazar rakhi jaana, cheezein dene ka dabaav, ya aap jo ho uski wajah se alag nishaana banaya jaana kuch aur hai, aur unhein dhyaan chahiye.
Ise intezaar karne dene ka matlab ye nahi ki sahi tha. Matlab ye ki aaj raat kisi aur cheez ke baare mein ho sakti hai.
Aap kiske baare mein chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar khaali jagah thoda kam chubhe #
Usi din par lautiye, ummeed ab bhi hai par dheeli. Aap dekhte ho seedhi kahan gayi, aur chupchaap, apne liye tay karte ho ki aage kya doonga aur kya nahi.
Kisi ke liye ye udhaar ki kursi par chadhkar hanste hue bulb badalna hai. Kabhi padosi ke darwaze se halke mann se guzarna.
Ye aapki baat hai, kisi aur ko sunane ki nahi. Aage: sulah kaisi dikh sakti hai, aur pehle se kya hai.
Kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapka pehla sanket kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Dhyaan dijiye kab awaaz bhoolne ko “mera istemaal kiya gaya” mein badal deti hai
- Kisi aise padosi ko yaad kijiye jisne koi cheez achhe se lautayi
- Sochiye ki seedhi unke store mein dibbon ke peechhe padi hai
- Mann mein tay kijiye ki agli baar aap kya dene ko khushi se taiyaar ho
- Mann mein kisi padosi ke liye ki gayi ek bhali baat ka naam lijiye
Sab nijee, sab apni marzi ka. Ek kaafi hai.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Aapke ab tak ke sabse achhe padosi kaun rahe hain, aur unhone kya kiya?
- Kisi padosi ne aapke liye kabhi koi bhali baat kya ki?
- Aas-paas ke logon ki madad karne mein aapko kya achha lagta hai?
- Agar maangi hui cheezein kam chubhein, to aapki gali ke baare mein aapko kaisa lagega?
- Aapki apni dariyadili aapko pehle se kya deti hai, jisse aap khush ho?