Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye chubhta isliye hai ki doosre badon ke mizaaj par maa-baap ka bas kam chalta hai.
Kuch maa-baap paate hain ki ye us bachpan ki gali se shuru hui jo bachchon se bhari thi aur jahan saare uncle-aunty muskurate chehre wale the, bahar khelna aam tha aur kisi ko shikayat nahi thi.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Badon ko bachchon se pyaar se pesh aana chahiye,” ya “Agar wo mere bachchon ki shikayat karte hain, to mujhe parakh rahe hain.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Bachchon ko jaldi bula lena, taaki koi shikayat na kare
- Baar-baar chup karate rehna, tab bhi jab wo zor se nahi hain
- Har baar khidki khulne par maa-baap ke taur par parkha gaya-sa mehsoos karna
- Lift mein padosi se nazar bachana
- Bachchon ko samjhana ki kuch bade chidchide kyun hote hain
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Football aur dhadaam se khuli balcony
Saturday ki dopahar, Ghaziabad ki ek society. Aapke dono bachche park mein football khel rahe hain, hanste aur chillate hue. Doosri manzil ki balcony ka darwaza dhadaam se khulta hai, aur koi chup rehne ko chillata hai. Bachche sir jhukaye upar aate hain, gend baanh mein dabi. Aap unhein gale lagate ho, aur seene mein garam, hifaazat bhara kuch uthta hai.
Padosi bachchon se naram rahein
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Padosiyon ko mere bachchon se narmi se baat karni chahiye.” Bilkul jaayaz lagta hai. Bachche bachche hain, aur khel shorgul wala hota hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapke parivaar ka ghar par chain ek balcony wale insaan ke haath mein de deta hai. Park ka har khel darte-darte dekhne ki cheez ban jaata hai, aur cheekh khatam hone ke baad bhi goonjti rehti hai.
Bachchon ka swagat kyun chahte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki chahte hain bachche jahan rahein wahan unka swagat ho. Shayad aapka bachpan aisi gali mein beeta jahan padosi har bachche ko naam se jaante the aur toffee baantte the. Shayad wahi sahaj ehsaas aap apne bachchon ko dena chahte ho. Bachchon ke liye narmi chaahna zyada nahi hai. Wo unse pyaar se aata hai. Use narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Bachchon ko jaldi bulana
Har tyori ya cheekh thoda tanaav jodti hai. Aap bachchon ko pehle se jaldi bulane lagte ho, bas kahin kuch na ho. Bahar bhejne se pehle us balcony ki taraf nazar daalte ho. Khaana pakate hue cheekh dohrate rehte ho. Jis ghar mein aaram chaha tha, wo nigraani mein lagne lagta hai, aur bachchon ke khel mein ek chhoti fikr aa jaati hai jo pehle nahi thi.
Kya ye tanaav iske layak hai?
Khud se sach-sach puchhiye: kya padosi ke naram hone ke intezaar ne kabhi khel ka waqt aasaan kiya? Ya zyada-tar ghar mein aapko aur tanaav diya? Shor par kisi ki sahanshilta aisi cheezon par tiki ho sakti hai jo kisi ko nahi dikhtin, jaise thaka din ya halki neend. Balcony ki ek cheekh aapke bachchon ka paimana nahi hai. Kya is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna iske layak hai?
Ghar par pyaar, balcony jo bhi kahe
Chhodne ka matlab ye maan lena nahi ki chillana theek hai. Matlab ye ki balcony ka ek insaan tay na kare ki aapka parivaar ghar par kaisa mehsoos kare. Aapke bachchon ko pyaar hai, aur wo ye aapse jaante hain. Aap park mein unki hansi ka maza le sakte ho. Yahin se kuch chain lautta hai: ghar phir ghar lagta hai, aur khel ka waqt phir bas khel ka waqt ban jaata hai.
If an adult nearby frightens or threatens your children, touches them, or tries to get them alone, that is not a hope to loosen; it is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana rulePadosiyon ko mere bachchon se narmi se baat karni chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere bachchon ko ghar par pyaar hai, balcony jo bhi kahe.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Das minute bachchon ko khelte dekhkar maza lijiye
- Din 2
Jab cheekh mann mein dohraye, ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Din 3
Kisi ek padosi ko pehchaniye jo bachchon ko dekhkar muskurata hai
Is par baat karni hai?
“Bachpan mein kaun sa bada aapke saath pyaar se pesh aata tha, aur wo kya karta tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Phir se jaldi ghar bulana #
Saade paanch baje, society ki parking mein bachche cricket khel rahe hain, khushi se chillate hue. Teesri manzil ki balcony khulti hai, koi neeche se chillata hai: “Board nahi dikhta? Yahan khelna mana hai!” Aap bachchon ko jaldi bula lete ho, aur sochte ho: “Padosiyon ko mere bachchon se narmi se baat karni chahiye.”
Kuch maa-baap ke liye zyada-tar yahi baat hoti hai ki bachche jahan rehte hain wahan apne ghar jaisa mehsoos karein. Bachchon ko daudne, chillane aur bachcha bane rehne ki jagah chahiye. Jab har khel par tyori chadhti hai, to lag sakta hai ki bachchon ka apne hi ghar mein swagat nahi.
Apne bachpan ke kisi bade ko sochiye, koi padosi ya rishtedaar, jo aaspaas ke bachchon se garmjoshi se milta tha.
Wo kya karta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Balcony ke saamne garam gaal #
Kuch maa-baap ke gaal garam ho jaate hain jab koi padosi unke bachchon ko daantta hai. Kuch ko pehle tez hifaazat wali kaundh aati hai, phir dhansta-sa ehsaas, ki shaanti bani rahe.
Sharir dimaag se pehle harkat kar deta hai: bachchon ki taraf jhatpat ek kadam, upar ki taraf munh par tikayi muskaan, ek teekha “chalo, andar chalo.” Lambe khayal aksar raat ke khaane par aate hain.
Pichhli baar jab kisi padosi ne aapke bachchon se rukhe dhang se baat ki, to kisi bhi khayal se pehle aapke sharir ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Bachchon ko bachcha banne ki jagah chahiye #
Padosiyon se bachchon ke liye narmi chaahna ek samajhdaar jagah se aata hai. Bachchon ka bharosa tab badhta hai jab aaspaas ke bade muskurate hain, namaste kehte hain aur unhein khelne dete hain. Padosi ka ek pyaar bhara bol bachche ka din roshan kar sakta hai.
Ye chubhta isliye hai ki doosre badon ke mizaaj par maa-baap ka bas kam chalta hai. Aap bachchon ko tameez sikha sakte ho, par upar wale ko un par muskurane par majboor nahi kar sakte. “Padosi pehla rishtedaar hota hai” kehne wali baat tab aur chubhti hai.
Padosi ka ek pyaar bhara pal aapke bachchon ke liye kya maayne rakhega, unhi ke shabdon mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Balcony ki taraf wali awaaz #
“Inhein bachchon se chidh hai.” “Kaisa insaan bachchon par chillata hai?” “Shayad sochte hain hum achhe maa-baap nahi.” Ye awaaz daant ke pal mein bolti hai, aur baad mein phir, jab bachche nahane gaye hote hain.
Kuch maa-baap dekhte hain ki ye awaaz kuch hifaazat hai aur kuch chot. Hifaazat wala hissa bachchon ke liye hai. Chot wala hissa maa-baap ke roop mein parkhe jaane ke ehsaas ka hai, aur wo bhi thodi narmi ka haqdaar hai.
Jab padosi ke daantne ke baad ye awaaz bolti hai, to wo sabse zyada kise bachana chahti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Ye ummeed kahan se aa sakti hai #
Kuch maa-baap paate hain ki ye us bachpan ki gali se shuru hui jo bachchon se bhari thi aur jahan saare uncle-aunty muskurate chehre wale the, bahar khelna aam tha aur kisi ko shikayat nahi thi. Wo yaad aaj ki tyoriyon ko bahut thanda bana sakti hai.
Kisi aur ke liye ye maa-baap ke roop mein parkhe jaane ke ehsaas se aati hai, parivaar se, ajnabiyon se, society ke group se. Bachchon ke halle ki padosi ki shikayat ek aur awaaz jaisi lag sakti hai jo keh rahi ho ki parvarish mein hi gadbad hai.
Aapke bachpan mein kisne gali ya building ko bachchon ke liye apnapan bhara banaya, aur unhone kya kiya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Bachchon aur badon ke baare mein niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Badon ko bachchon se pyaar se pesh aana chahiye,” ya “Agar wo mere bachchon ki shikayat karte hain, to mujhe parakh rahe hain.” Pehla jaayaz niyam hai. Doosra ek chhalaang hai jo har tyori ko nijee bana sakti hai.
Kuch padosi thake hote hain, beemar, raat ki shift wale, ya bachchon ke shor ke aadi hi nahi. Unki kheej aksar shor aur apne din ki hoti hai, aapke bachchon ki insaan ke taur par nahi, ya aapke maa-baap hone ki nahi.
Bachchon ke liye narmi ka aapka niyam aapki building mein kahan baithta hai, aur kahan har shikayat ko aapki parvarish par faisla bana deta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Rukhe padosi kya le jaate hain #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai bachche jaldi bula liye gaye, khel beech mein ruke, ya shor ki ek halki-si lagataar fikr. Koi akeli baat badi nahi, par mahino mein ye ghar ko aaramdeh ki jagah tani hui jagah bana sakti hai.
Ye bachchon ke rehne ki jagah ko dekhne ka nazariya bhi gadh sakti hai. Agar bahar ka matlab hamesha daant khana ho, to unhein apna swagat na hone jaisa lag sakta hai, aur aapko bhi.
Pichhle mahine mein kab aapke bachchon ne ghar ke paas sachmuch maze se khela, aur use achha kis cheez ne banaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Saal-dar-saal jaldi bulana #
Bas ek tasveer aazmaiye. Kuch saal baad, bachche bahar khel rahe hain, ek balcony khulti hai, aur aap phir unhein jaldi bula lete ho taaki koi shikayat na kare.
Shayad roothha hua bachcha, tana hua khaana, kahan khelein iski khamosh fikr, seedhiyon par akdi chuppi.
Aane wale saalon ke baare mein koi kuch nahi keh sakta; ye bas ek tasveer hai, jise jab chahein rakh sakte hain.
Us shaam ka baaki hissa kaisa hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us shaam mein aur kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isme kya dhyaan kheenchta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Chidchida padosi aksar thaka hua hota hai #
Bachchon ke shor ki shikayat karne wale bahut se log bachchon ke khilaaf nahi hote. Wo raat ki shift mein ho sakte hain, kisi ki teemardaari mein, dard mein, ya aisi fikr ke saath jo kisi ko nahi dikhti. Balcony ki cheekh aksar unke din ki hoti hai.
Isse wo naram nahi ban jaati, aur bachchon ke liye narmi chaahna jaayaz hai. Ho sakta hai tyori aapke bachchon ya parvarish se zyada unki apni zindagi ki ho.
Agar aap padosi ko raat ki shift se lautte sochein, to balcony ki cheekh tab kaisi lagegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Wo apnapan jo bachchon ke paas pehle se hai #
Tyoriyon ke bawajood shayad kuch apnapan paas ho: koi padosi jo balcony se haath hilakar kehta hai “bachche hain, khelne do”, guard bhaiya jo bachchon ke saath catch khelte hain, dost jinke saath wo khelte hain, ek ghar jahan unhein pyaar hai aur zor se hansne ki azaadi.
Agar tyoriyan ab bhi nyaaypoorn nahi lagtin to theek hai; narmi ki ummeed jaayaz bani rehti hai. Wo bhi sach hain, aur aapke bachchon ki duniya ka hissa hain.
Ghar ke paas kaun aapke bachchon ko pehle se apnapan mehsoos karaata hai, aur usmein aap kya gaur karna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Bachche jo bachche bane reh sakein #
Sulah ka matlab ye nahi ki tyoriyan theek hain. Bas balcony ki ek cheekh tay na kare ki ghar par kaisa lage. Bachche ki hifaazat kabhi dheeli nahi hoti: agar koi bada aapke bachchon ko daraata hai, dhamkata hai, chhoota hai, ya unhein akele le jaane ya raaz rakhwane ki koshish karta hai, to use gambhirta se lijiye.
Jo bachcha kisi bade ke saath bechain mehsoos kare, uski baat dhyaan se sunne layak hai. Agar aapke bachchon ko alag karke nishaana banaya jaye ya bura bartaav ho, is wajah se ki wo kaun hain (dharm, jaati, rang, wo kahan se hain, ya koi viklangta), to use bhi gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Agar koi padosi aapko dhamkata ya pareshaan karta hai, aapka saamaan bigaadta hai, ya aapke parivaar ka peechha ya nigraani karta hai, to wo kuch aur baat hai, aur use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai; saavdhaan rehna surakshit chunaav ho sakta hai.
Jahan aap rehte ho, wahan buniyaadi izzat aur hifaazat “zyada ummeed” kabhi nahi hain, aapke bachchon ke liye bhi aur aapke padosiyon ke liye bhi.
Is ummeed ke saath ek sukoon bhari shaam sochiye: bachche kaun sa khel khel rahe hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Balcony ke liye ek pankti #
“Padosiyon ko mere bachchon se narmi se baat karni chahiye” ke paas kuch maa-baap rakhte hain: “Meri chaahat hai ki mere bachchon ka swagat ho, aur ghar par unhein pyaar aur jagah milti hai.” Pehli line jaayaz bani rehti hai. Doosri bachchon ki surakshit jagah saaf rakhti hai.
Shuru mein ye seedhi lag sakti hai. Kuch maa-baap ise chhota karke “shor bhi, pyaar bhi, sab sahi” kar lete hain. Kuch apne parivaar ke hisaab se shabd dhoondh lete hain.
Aapka apna sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo aapki ummeed aur apne bachchon par aapka garv saath rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Cheekh balcony par hi reh sakti hai #
Balcony se har daant ko shaam tak dhona zaroori nahi. Use dekha ja sakta hai, mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur upar hi chhoda ja sakta hai jahan se aayi thi.
Narmi ki chaah reh sakti hai. Bachche ki hifaazat kabhi dheeli nahi hoti: jo bada aapke bachchon ko daraata, dhamkata ya chhoota hai, ya unhein akele le jaane ya raaz rakhwane ki koshish karta hai, wo gambhirta se lene layak hai, aur jo bachcha kisi bade ke saath bechain ho, uski baat sunne layak hai.
Cheekh ko balcony par chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo naram thi. Matlab ye ki shaam aapke bachchon ki ho sakti hai.
Unke saath aap kya karna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar balcony thodi kam maayne rakhe #
Usi shaam mein lautiye, ummeed ko zara dheela thaame. Balcony khulti hai, awaaz neeche aati hai, aur aap bachchon ko hamesha ke waqt tak khelne dete ho, board ki yaad unhein halke se dila dete ho.
Kisi ke liye wo hansi ki awaaz hai jo thodi der aur chalti hai. Kisi aur ke liye sone ke waqt andar ki kam tani chaal.
Ise nijee rehne dijiye, apne haath ke likhe note ki tarah. Phir: is ummeed se sulah kya ho sakti hai, aur aapke paas pehle se kya hai.
Kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapka apna pehla sanket kaisa dikhega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo maa-baap aazmate hain #
- Kisi ek padosi par gaur kijiye jo aapke bachchon se garmjoshi se milta hai
- Bachpan ke us bade ko yaad kijiye jo aapke saath pyaar se pesh aata tha
- Dekhiye kab awaaz shikayat ko “bure maa-baap” mein badal deti hai
- Us chidchide padosi ko ek bahut lambe din ke baad sochiye
- Chupchaap ek cheez chuniye jo aapko apne bachchon ke halle mein pasand hai
Nijee, chhote aur apni marzi ke. Ek hi kaafi hai.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Bachpan mein kaun sa bada aapke saath pyaar se pesh aata tha, aur wo kya karta tha?
- Aapke bachchon ko kaun se khel sabse zyada pasand hain?
- Aapke ghar ke paas kaun pehle se aapke bachchon se garmjoshi se milta hai?
- Agar padosi ki tyoriyan aapko thodi kam khalti, to shaamein kaisi lagtin?
- Aapke bachchon ke liye ghar mein pehle se kya apnapan bhara hai?