Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Mezbaani mein chhoti-chhoti vyaavaharik cheezein bhi lagti hain: sameta hua kamra, pesh karne ko kuch, dopahar ki koi yojana.
Kuch logon mein ye us bachpan ke ghar se ugi jahan mehmaan ki khabar pehle aati thi aur ek saleeqedaar mehmaan-nawazi garv ki baat thi.
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo hamare ghar ki izzat karte to pehle phone karte,” ya “Chhutti ka din chhutti hi rehna chahiye.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Chahakkar swagat karna aur seedhe rasoi mein chale jaana
- Baatein karte hue phurti se saamaan sametna
- Ghar hamesha mehmaan ke liye taiyaar rakhna, kya pata kab aa jayein
- Apni chaah halke-phulke mein keh dena aur ummeed karna ki pahunch jaye
- Saamne muskurana aur baad mein akele mein bhadaas nikalna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Pajama wale Saturday ki ghanti
Saturday ki subah, Patna, Kankarbagh ka flat. Aap abhi pajama mein ho, ghar bikhra hua hai. Ghanti bajti hai: sasural wale, haath mein thaila aur badi muskaan. “Idhar se guzar rahe the!” Aap bhaagkar kapde badalte ho, paanch minute mein rasoi sametkar chai chadha dete ho. Wo chaar ghante baithte hain. Jaane ke baad sofe par baithkar lagta hai ki poora weekend aur shaant din ki yojana, dono saath chale gaye.
Sasural pehle phone kare
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Sasural wale aane se pehle phone zaroor karein.” Ye buniyaadi shishtachar lagta hai. Aapka ghar aapki jagah hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapka chain kisi aur ki aadat se baandh deta hai. Aapka weekend aapka lage ya nahi, ab un rishtedaaron par tika hai jo shayad aise ghar se aate hain jahan aana-jaana bina bataye chalta tha, aur pehle phone karna unhein thanda lagta.
Ghar mein dum kyun bharte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki ghar wo jagah hai jahan hum aaram karte hain aur dum bharte hain. Shayad aapka bachpan aise ghar mein beeta jahan mehmaan hamesha pehle se tay hote the, aur achanak aana tanaav deta hai. Shayad weekend keemati hain, lambe hafte ke baad dheeme hone ka ek hi mauka. Jo bhi ho, khabar chahna berukhi nahi. Ye apni jagah aur aaram ki izzat ki chaah se aata hai, aur ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Ghar har waqt taiyaar rakhna
Har achanak visit ek dopahar se zyada le jaati hai. Aap ghar ko har waqt mehmaan ke liye taiyaar rakhne lagte ho. Ghanti bajte hi chaunk jaate ho. Weekend par poori tarah aaram nahi kar paate. Dheere-dheere apna ghar kam apna lagne lagta hai, aur un logon ki visit se bhi darr lagne lagta hai jinse shayad aap khushi se milte, aur ye baat khud mein apradh-bodh bhi deti hai.
Kya ye khatas sambhalne layak hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya unhein phone karna chahiye, is par ade rehne se kabhi koi visit aasaan hui? Ya zyadatar har ek zyada tani hui lagi? Bahut se parivaaron mein yunhi aa jaana hamesha se chalan hai; unke liye iska kya matlab hai, wo wahi jaanein. Jo bhi ho, unki aadat iska paimana nahi ki wo aapki kitni izzat karte hain. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Basa-basa ghar bhi achha ghar hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki apni jagah ki kadar karna band kar dein. Matlab ye ki aapka chain poori tarah is par na tike ki visit ki khabar kaise di gayi. Pajama mein swagat kiya ja sakta hai, ghar ko basa-basa rehne diya ja sakta hai, aur unke jaane ke baad apne liye thodi shaanti rakhi ja sakti hai. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: ghanti bajti rahe, ghar aapka hi rehta hai.
Being hurt, threatened or frightened, watched, pressured to change who you are, kept from your family or friends, or having money, phone or papers kept from you is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSasural wale aane se pehle phone zaroor karein.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMera ghar basa-basa ho sakta hai. Phir bhi wo mera hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Apne ghar ki ek cheez sochiye jo bikhraav ke bawajood pasand hai
- Kadam 2
Lambi visit ke baad apne liye ek ghante ki shaanti rakhiye
- Kadam 3
Weekend ka ek chhota hissa sirf apne liye rakhiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Sasural ki kisi aisi visit ke baare mein bataiye jo aapko achhi lagi. Kya cheez kaargar rahi?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Shaant Saturday ki subah ki ghanti #
“Sasural wale aane se pehle phone zaroor karein.” Ye aksar awaaz ke saath aati hai: darwaze ki ghanti, chhutti ki subah dastak, ya neeche rukti car, jabki table par aadhi pi chai thandi ho rahi ho.
Ye shayad hi kabhi logon ke baare mein hoti hai. Ye ek aise ghar ki baat hai jiske chhutti ke din ki apni raftaar hai, aur chaah ki uski raftaar poochi jaye, taaki ghar bhi taiyaar ho aur usme rehne wala bhi.
Pichhli bina batayi ghanti sochiye: tab tak subah kaisi chal rahi thi, aur aap kis kaam ke beech mein the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ghanti aur darwaze ke beech ka pal #
Kuch log darwaze tak jaate hue kamre par jhatpat nazar daud lete hain: cushion, sink ke bartan, sofe ka haal, apne kapde. Aankhein ghar ko waise dekhti hain jaise koi aur dekhega.
Kuch ke pet mein halka-sa dhakka lagta hai, phir ek chahakti awaaz aur garmjoshi wala “Aaiye, aaiye!” jo mehsoos hone se kahin aasaan sunayi deta hai. Muskaan sachchi hoti hai, aur uske neeche ki dhukdhuki bhi.
Pichhli baar jab koi bina bataye aaya, ghanti sunne aur darwaza kholne ke beech aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ghar ko taiyaar hone ka waqt chahiye #
Khabar ki chaah samajh mein aati hai. Ghar wo jagah hai jahan log satarkta utarte hain, aur pehle ek phone use dheere-dheere, apni sharton par wapas pehenne deta hai, ek jhatke mein nahi.
Mezbaani mein chhoti-chhoti vyaavaharik cheezein bhi lagti hain: sameta hua kamra, pesh karne ko kuch, dopahar ki koi yojana. Pehle se pata ho to ye ho paati hain; bina bataye swagat nekniyati ke bawajood hadbadaya lag sakta hai.
Koi aisi visit sochiye jiski pehle khabar thi aur aapko achhi lagi: usse pehle ke waqt ne aapko kya diya, aur kaun aa raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Darwaze ke chhed wali awaaz #
“Aaj nahi.” “Phone toh kar sakte the.” “Meri chhutti ka din chhutti kyun nahi rehta?” Ye awaaz aksar tab bolti hai jab darwaza band hi ho, ya jab ketli un logon ke liye chadh rahi ho jinki ummeed hi nahi thi.
Aisi awaaz mein purane shabd ho sakte hain: kisi maa-baap ka kehna ki ghar hamesha taiyaar rehna chahiye, ya kisi dada-dadi ka kabhi band na hone wala darwaza. Kuch log dekhte hain ki awaaz do hisson mein hai: achha mezbaan hona chahna, aur akela chhod diye jaane ki chaah.
Jab awaaz kehti hai ki unhein phone karna chahiye tha, to uska kaun sa hissa ghar ke baare mein hai aur kaun sa us din ke baare mein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Pehle se khabar ki tasveer kahan se shuru hui #
Kuch logon mein ye us bachpan ke ghar se ugi jahan mehmaan ki khabar pehle aati thi aur ek saleeqedaar mehmaan-nawazi garv ki baat thi. Bina bataye aaya mehmaan tab kisi ankahi cheez ke tootne jaisa lagta tha.
Kuch mein ye bhaag-daud wale lambe daur se aayi, jab khaali chhutti ka din keemati ban gaya. Baad mein kisi bhi khaali din par achanak aayi baat visit se badi lagne lagti hai.
Aapke ghar ki kaun si visit aapko sabse achhi yaad hai, kaun aaya tha, aur use itna aasaan kya bana raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Khule darwaze ka niyam #
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo hamare ghar ki izzat karte to pehle phone karte,” ya “Chhutti ka din chhutti hi rehna chahiye.” Pehli line log zor se kehte hain; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har visit kaise tauli jayegi.
Aisa niyam shayad hi soch-samajhkar chuna jaata hai. Ye shaanti aur saleeqe ki kadar se banta hai, aur isme sachmuch samajhdaari hai. Kuch parivaaron mein par bina bataye aa jaana hi apnapan jatane ka tareeka hai, isiliye do tasveerein aksar ek-doosre ko chhukar nikal jaati hain.
Kuch log aise niyam ko kisi khaas ghar se jodte hain, kuch nahi.
“Pehle phone” aapki zindagi mein kahan achha baithta hai, aur kahan bina yojana ki visit ka swagat aasaan lag sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ek mahine mein taiyaar baithe rehne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai aadhe-taiyaar Saturday: ghar bas itna sameta hua, mehmaanon ke liye bhari rasoi. Inmein se kuch dikhta nahi, par din mein ek halki-si dhaar rehti hai jo sachmuch khaali din mein nahi hoti.
Hafton mein phone ki ummeed khaali din ko aadha-khaali rakhne mein badal sakti hai. Kuch log dekhte hain ki un dinon ghar poori tarah apna nahi lagta.
Pichhle mahine mein kitne ghante ka aaram chupchaap us visit ke intezaar mein gaya jo shayad aayi hi nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Bas kya pata ke liye taiyaar Saturday #
Kisi aam Saturday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “Aane se pehle phone” zor se baj raha ho. Yahan kuch bhi yojana nahi.
Shayad poore Saturday ghar mehmaan ke liye taiyaar rakhna, kya pata, chhutti ka din thoda duty jaisa beetna, aur wo sofa jo kabhi poori tarah istemaal nahi hota.
Ye ek thehri hui tasveer hai, kisi baat ka waada nahi, aur jab chahein band ki ja sakti hai.
Usmein kya hai: subah, khidki ki taraf nazar, sametna, car ki aahat par kaan?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Saturday ko body mein kaisa lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Saturday mein aapko kya alag dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
“Bas yunhi aa gaye” ke do matlab #
Aane walon ke liye pehle phone karna akad jaisa lag sakta hai, jaise parivaar se milne ko appointment lena pade. Kuch ke liye “Idhar se guzar rahe the” hi garmjoshi ka tareeka hai, aur achanak aana tohfa.
Isse na aapki ummeed galat hoti hai, na unki. Ye parivaar ki do tasveerein hain jo abhi saath rakhkar nahi dekhi gayin. Kabhi car se bheja ek message kisi bhi niyam se zyada kaam kar jaata hai.
“Pehle phone” ke hisson mein sabse zyada kya maayne rakhta hai: khabar, sametne ka waqt, ya poochha jaana?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo pehle se maujood hai #
Jis khabar ki aap ummeed karte the uske bagal mein visit kuch lekar bhi aa sakti hai: gaon ki lauki aur aam ka thaila, koi rishtedaar jo jaane se pehle bartan ponch de, koi dada ya dadi jo bina kahe bachchon ke saath farsh par baith jayein.
Ek achhi visit phone ki chaah ko radd nahi karti, aur ye bhi nahi kehti ki aap waqt par khush hon. Chaah aur apnapan ek hi dopahar saajha karte hain, aur doosre ko apne aap mein dekhna kaam ka ho sakta hai.
Pichhli achanak visit ke baare mein sochiye: kisi ne kya lakar diya ya kya kiya jisse aapko achha laga, bhale taiyaari na rahi ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Ek Saturday jise shaant rehne ki ijazat hai #
Khabar chahna zyada nahi hai, aur sasural walon ka maqsad dakhal dena ho zaroori nahi; jo badal sakta hai wo ye ki ghanti weekend ka kitna faisla kare. Apne ghar aur din ko asli maanne ki chaah jaayaz hai. Buniyaadi izzat aur salamati kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, na aapke liye, na unke liye.
Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo hai taiyaar baithe rehna. Bachche ki suraksha kabhi dheeli nahi padti, aur kisi mehmaan se bachche ki bechaini ko chikna nahi, notice karna chahiye. Aapke mana karne ke baad andar aa jaana surprise visit nahi hai; kaun andar aaye, ye tay karna aapka haq hai.
Agar sasural ke ghar ya visit mein kabhi chot pahunchana ya dhamkana ho, nigaraani ya peechha kiya jaye, phone, kaagzaat ya passport le liye jayein, ghar mein roka jaye ya apne parivaar, doston, kaam ya padhai se door rakha jaye, ya darr lage, to wo kuch aur hai, aur use gambhirta se lena chahiye.
Aapse ya aapke parivaar se paise, tohfe ya gehnon ki maang, aapse paise chhupakar rakhna, aur bachche ke liye dabaav bhi yahi baat hai. In sab mein saath chalna aur saavdhan rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Darwaze ki ghanti ke liye ek vaakya #
“Sasural wale aane se pehle phone zaroor karein” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log taiyaar rakhte hain: “Pehle khabar mile to achha lage, aur jo visit achhi nikle uska maza bhi le sakte hain.” Use jeetna zaroori nahi, bas paas rehna kaafi hai.
Itni pakki chaah ke aage nayi line zyada garm lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ko istemaal se wo baith jaati hai; kuch apne shabdon ka koi aur mel dhoondh lete hain. Dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo khabar ki chaah ko thaame rakhe aur us swagat ko bhi jo aap dena chahte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Har Saturday ko theek karna zaroori nahi #
Isme se kuch dekha ja sakta hai, ek baar palta ja sakta hai, aur abhi ke liye rakha ja sakta hai, khoonti par tangi spare chaabi ki tarah. Khabar ki chaah aapki bani rehti hai.
Agar visit mein kabhi chot ya dhamki ho, phone ya kaagzaat le liye jayein, parivaar, doston, kaam ya padhai se door rakha jaye, paise ya tohfon ki maang, bachche ke liye dabaav ho, ya darr lage, to wo achanak aane se alag baat hai, use gambhirta se lein; wahan saath chalna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Ek shaam ke liye khayal ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki shaam phir aapki ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Apni raftaar wala Saturday #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja halki hai. Phone ki chaah ab bhi hai, par ghanti ghanti hai, ye faisla nahi ki ghar kiska hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise Saturday ko ghar ko basa-basa aur kaafi taiyaar rehne dena, ya us sofe par akhbaar lekar baithna.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai. Aage hum dekhenge ki isse sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur kya pehle se maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Wo ek baat bataiye jisse achanak aayi visit sabse bhaari lagti hai
- Gaur kijiye ki kaun sa kamra aap jaisa hai waisa dikhane mein achha lagega
- Koi aisi visit sochiye jiske aakhir mein aapko khushi hui
- Ek chhoti cheez chuniye jo aap kisi bhi din aaram se pesh kar sakein
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: mujhe khabar chahiye, ya poochhe jaane ka ehsaas?
Sab nijee, sab apni marzi se. Jo ho sake, wo chun lijiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Sasural ki kisi aisi visit ke baare mein bataiye jo aapko achhi lagi. Kya cheez kaargar rahi?
- Khaali din ka kaun sa hissa aap sabse zyada bachakar rakhna chahenge, aur kyun?
- Unki taraf se kaisi khabar aapko achhi lagegi?
- Jis Saturday taiyaar baithe rehna dheela pada ho, usmein aap sabse pehle kya notice karenge?
- Sasural wale aate hue jo laate hain, usme se kya aapko aasani se achha laga hai?