Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Bachche bhi tab zyada tikte hain jab aaspaas ke bade lagbhag ek jaise ishare dete hain.
Kuch logon ke liye ye apne bachpan se shuru hui, jab kisi rishtedaar ne sabke saamne maa-baap ki baat kaat di aur wo chup ho gaye.
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo hamari izzat karte, to hamare niyam bilkul waise hi maante”, ya “Do tarah ke niyam bachche ko hamesha uljhate hain”.
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Niyam hanste-hanste baar-baar dohrana
- Baat jaane dena aur ghar aakar sab samet lena
- Bachchon ke aaspaas mandrana, dakhal dene ko taiyaar
- Mulaqaat chhoti rakhna taaki routine bachi rahe
- Kam bolna aur baad mein kisi dost se baat karna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Dopahar tak teen laddoo
Ludhiana, Model Town mein dada-dadi ke ghar Saturday. Ghar par mithai Saturday ki treat hai aur sona aath baje. Par dopahar ke khane tak aapke bachche ne teen laddoo aur ek toffee kha li hai, aur dada kehte hain, “Aaj chhutti hai, sone do baad mein!” Bachcha aapko dekhta hai, phir unhein, aur khushi se daud jaata hai. Aap muskurate ho, par bheetar roz ke niyam dhoop mein pighalti chocolate ki tarah ghulte mehsoos hote hain.
Parvarish ke niyamon ki izzat ho
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Sasural wale hamare bachche paalne ke tareeke ki izzat karein.” Ye ekdum jaayaz lagta hai. Niyam maa-baap banate hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: maa-baap ke roop mein aapka sukoon is par tik jaata hai ki doosre bade bachchon ke aaspaas kaise pesh aate hain. Aap apne ghar ke mukhiya mehsoos karein ya nahi, ye un dada-dadi par nirbhar ho jaata hai jo laad ko apna khaas kaam maante hain.
Bachchon ke niyam gambhir kyun lagte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki bachche paalna gambhir kaam hai, aur niyam parwah jaise lagte hain. Shayad aapne sochkar tay kiya hai ki kaise karna hai, aur chahte ho ki uski izzat ho. Shayad aapki parvarish alag hui aur aap kuch naya bana rahe ho. Jo bhi ho, apne tareeke ki izzat chahna raub jamana nahi hai. Wo bachchon ke liye sabse achha chahne se aata hai. Wo daya ki haqdaar hai, dosh ki nahi.
Thoda kamzor kiya hua mehsoos hona
Har toota niyam aapko thoda kamzor kiya hua mehsoos karata hai. Aap weekend ki mulaqaaton se ghabrane lagte ho. Dadi jab bhi thaila kholti hain, aap tan jaate ho. Chupchaap cheezein sudharte ho, phir khud ko bura lagta hai. Dheere-dheere bachchon ki khushi wali mulaqaatein rassakashi jaisi lagne lagti hain, aur apne parivaar ka maza lene ki jagah aap nigaraani mein bitate ho.
Kya har niyam ki chaukidaari sahi hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya unse apne niyam manwane ki zaroorat ne kabhi weekend aasaan kiya hai? Ya zyadatar aapko aur bechain kiya hai? Dada-dadi niyam kyun dheele karte hain, ye unhi ke jaanne ki baat hai, aadat ho sakti hai, maza, ya kuch aur. Jo bhi ho, mithai wala weekend aapki parvarish ka paimana nahi hai. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna, mulaqaat-dar-mulaqaat, aapko deta kam, leta zyada hai.
Mulaqaat khaas, roz ke niyam roz ke
Chhodne ka matlab ghar ke niyam chhodna nahi, aur bachche ki suraksha ke niyam toh kabhi nahi. Matlab ye ki aapka sukoon har mithai ke niyam ke poori tarah nibhaye jaane par nirbhar na rahe. Ek khaas din khaas reh sakta hai, aur roz ke niyam roz ki zindagi ke liye rakhe ja sakte hain. Yahin thodi shaanti lautti hai: aap apne bachchon ko pyaar paate dekh sakte ho, chocolate samet.
Threats to take the children or turn them against you, or being hurt, watched, kept from people or frightened, are something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSasural wale hamare bachche paalne ke tareeke ki izzat karein.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMulaqaat khaas ho sakti hai. Roz ke niyam roz ke rehte hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Ek mithai ya sone ka niyam jhukne dein, suraksha wala nahi
- Kadam 2
Koi ek tareeka sochiye jisse dada-dadi bachchon ko pyaar dikhate hain
- Kadam 3
Agle din dheere se apni roz ki routine par laut aaiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Bachchon ke dada-dadi ke saath bitaye kisi pal ke baare mein bataiye jo unhein achha laga. Wo kya tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Biscuit ke dibbe ke saath aata khayal #
“Sasural wale hamare bachche paalne ke tareeke ki izzat karein.” Ye kisi bahut maamooli pal mein ubharta hai: khane se das minute pehle khula biscuit ka dibba, agle kamre mein chalta cartoon, ya sone ka waqt jo chupchaap aadha ghanta khisak gaya.
Ye aksar dada-dadi ki taraf hota hi nahi. Ye us ghar ke tareeke ki baat hai jo kai thaki hui shaamon mein gadha gaya, aur chaah ki use pehla draft nahi, asli plan maana jaye.
Pichhli baar ye khayal aaya, usse theek pehle kaun si chhoti baat hui thi, aur bachche kahan the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Unke shabdon aur aapke shabdon ke beech ka pal #
Kuch log bachchon par kisi tippani ke baad bheetar ek chhoti khamoshi mehsoos karte hain, jaise kamra ruk gaya ho, aur jhat se chhaantni shuru: kya bolein, kya jaane dein, aur kya gaadi tak taala ja sakta hai.
Kuch ko chehra shishtata nibhata dikhta hai jabki seene mein kasaav rehta hai, aur jawab soch se halka nikalta hai. Aksar asli jawab baad mein banta hai, nahate waqt ya ghar lautte raaste mein.
Pichhli baar jab aapke bachchon par koi tippani aayi, jawab dene se theek pehle aapki body mein kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Maa-baap ka tareeka parwah se banta hai #
Ye chaah swabhavik hai. Khane, neend, screen aur tameez ke gharelu niyam aam taur par dheere-dheere jude hote hain, aur unmein bahut soch hoti hai. Unhein gambhirta se liya jaye, ye ummeed bahut swabhavik hai.
Bachche bhi tab zyada tikte hain jab aaspaas ke bade lagbhag ek jaise ishare dete hain. Jab dada-dadi kuch alag karte hain, maa-baap ko aksar uski lehar ghar lautkar mehsoos hoti hai, aur wo dhyaan dene layak asli baat hai.
Apne ghar ka koi aisa niyam yaad kijiye jise sahi banane mein aapne bahut mehnat ki: usmein aapke liye kya aham tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo mulaqaat ka hisaab leti hai #
“Humne toh ye nahi kaha tha.” “Bachchon ko uljha rahe hain.” “Har mulaqaat hafte bhar ka kiya-dhara kyun bigaad deti hai?” Ye awaaz aksar tab bolti hai jab bachchon ko kuch thamaya ja raha ho, ya car ka darwaza band hone ke baad ki khamoshi mein.
Aisi awaaz purani jagahon ke shabd utha leti hai: teacher ka note, aadhi raat ko padha koi parenting article, ya apne aap se kiya waada ki alag karna hai. Kuch log dekhte hain ki wo referee jaisi sunayi deti hai.
Jab awaaz kehti hai ki sasural wale aapke tareeke ki izzat karein, to wo kiska paimana thaame hai, aapka ya kisi aur ka?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Maa-baap ki baat chalne ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon ke liye ye apne bachpan se shuru hui, jab kisi rishtedaar ne sabke saamne maa-baap ki baat kaat di aur wo chup ho gaye. Saalon baad maa-baap bankar chaah hoti hai ki apni baat khadi rahe.
Kuch ke liye is faisle se ki jaise apni parvarish hui, waise nahi karenge, jo jaldi liya gaya aur mazbooti se pakda gaya. Purani peedhi ki koi tippani tab us poore chunav par sawaal ki tarah lag sakti hai.
Sabse pehle kis bade ko aapne chhote bachchon ke saath pyara bartaav karte dekha, aur unhone kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Kaun tay karta hai, iska niyam #
Bheetar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar wo hamari izzat karte, to hamare niyam bilkul waise hi maante”, ya “Do tarah ke niyam bachche ko hamesha uljhate hain”. Pehli pankti sunne mein seedhi hai; uske neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki har tippani kaise li jayegi.
Aisa niyam shayad hi koi sochkar chunta hai. Ye pyaar aur sab sahi karne ki chaah se banta hai, aur usmein sachmuch samajhdaari hai. Isiliye ise us haqeeqat ke paas rakhkar dekhna kaam ka ho sakta hai ki aam mulaqaat mein bachche asal mein kaise dikhte hain.
Kuch log aise niyam ko chhote bachche ke saath beete kisi mushkil daur se jodte hain; kuch nahi.
“Ek hi niyam” kahan ab bhi aapke bachchon ki zaroorat se mel khata hai, aur kahan kasa hua lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Routine ki chaukidaari ki keemat, ek mausam mein #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai bachchon ki baat aadhe mann se sunte hue beetti mulaqaatein, mann aage ki taraf bhaagta hua ki kya sudharna padega, aur baad ki shaam ye hisaab lagate hue ki kisne kya kaha aur batana hai ya nahi.
Mahino mein, izzat ki chaah chupke se nigaraani mein badal sakti hai: biscuit ginna, waqt note karna, lehja parakhna. Kuch maa-baap dekhte hain ki nigaraani ne mulaqaat ke baare mein unke ehsaas ko rang diya hai, chahe wo kitni bhi garmjoshi bhari rahi ho.
Pichhli kuch mulaqaaton mein kaun sa pal aapka sabse zyada dhyaan kha gaya, aur uski chaukidaari mein aapne kya chhod diya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek Sunday aur sone ka niyam #
Ek aam Sunday sochiye, aise din ka jab “Hamare paalne ke tareeke ki izzat karein” ki awaaz tez hai. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, isse zyada kuch nahi.
Shayad sone ka niyam phir samjhana jab use andekha kiya ja raha hai, wahi shabd kai baar dohrayi ek shaant awaaz, aur ghar lautte lambe raaste mein usi par sochte rehna.
Ye ek drishya hai, agle paanch saalon ka faisla nahi, aur ise jab chahein peeche chhoda ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: pahunchna, pehli mithai, wo niyam jo aap batate ho, wo niyam jis par muskura diya jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us tasveer mein bachche kya kar rahe hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Sunday mein kya alag se dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ek hi bachchon ki parwah ke do tareeke #
Dada-dadi apni bhoomika alag dekh sakte hain. Kuch ke liye mulaqaat wo jagah hai jahan roz ke niyam zara aaram karte hain, aur kuch meetha dena pyaar dikhane ka tareeka hai. Parwah ki alag tasveer chunauti nahi hai.
Isse aapki ummeed galat nahi ho jaati, na unki. Ye mulaqaat kis kaam ki hai, iske do nazariye hain. Kuch parivaar paate hain ki bachche “hamare ghar, unke ghar” ke niyam badon ki soch se zyada aasani se sambhal lete hain; kuch mein thodi aur mehnat lagti hai.
“Hamare paalne ke tareeke ki izzat karein” ke andar kya aapke liye sabse zyada maayne rakhta hai: niyam, lehja, ya pehle poochha jaana?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo pehle se maujood hai #
Maa-baap ke roop mein izzat ki chaah ke saath kuch cheezein pehle se mili ho sakti hain: sote waqt sunayi kahani, koi khel jisse bachche khilkhilate hain, koi dada-dadi jo sauwen sawaal par bhi jawab dete chale jaate hain.
Inhein dekhna ummeed ko khatam nahi karta, aur routine ki parwah chhodne ki wajah bhi nahi. Ek jhuka hua niyam aur sachchi garmjoshi ka ek pal, dono ek hi dopahar mein sach ho sakte hain, aur doosra dekhne layak ho sakta hai.
Apne bachchon ko unke dada-dadi ke saath sochiye: unhone saath milkar kya kiya jisse bachche khil uthe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Mulaqaat mein maa-baap ki jagah, bani hui #
Maa-baap ke roop mein izzat ki chaah zyada nahi hai, aur routine maayne rakhti hain; aapke aur unke tareeke ka faasla poori dopahar ka faisla karna band kar sakta hai. Parivaar ka tareeka asli maana jaye, ye chaahna jaayaz hai. Buniyaadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ki ummeed” nahi.
Bachche ki suraksha se judi koi baat kabhi dheeli nahi padti, aur jo bachcha kisi ke saath bechain lage, wo dhyaan dene layak hai. Maarna, sharminda karna ya darana kisi bhi bachche ke liye tareeke ka farq nahi. Allergy, car-seat, dawaiyan aur bachchon ko kiske saath akela chhodna, ye jhukne wale niyam nahi.
Agar sasural ke ghar mein chot pahunchana ya dhamkana, nazar rakhna ya peechha karna, phone, kaagaz ya passport chheen lena, andar band rakhna ya apne parivaar, doston, kaam ya padhai se door rakhna, ya darr ho, to wo kuch aur hai, aur use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai.
Bachchon ko chheen lene ki dhamki, ya unhein aapke khilaf karne ki koshish bhi kuch aur hai, aur gambhirta se lene layak hai. Aapse ya aapke parivaar se paise, tohfe ya gehne maangna, paisa roka jaana, aur bachche ke liye dabaav bhi yahi hain. In sab mein saath chalna aur saavdhan rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Mulaqaat ke beech ke liye ek pankti #
“Sasural wale hamare bachche paalne ke tareeke ki izzat karein” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log paas mein aisi pankti rakhte hain: “Hamara tareeka hamare liye maayne rakhta hai, aur ek mulaqaat thodi alag ho sakti hai.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas maujood rehna hai.
Itne pakke niyam ke saamne nayi pankti naram lag sakti hai. Kuch log paate hain ki istemaal se wo mazboot hoti hai; kuch ko wo kabhi fit nahi baithti aur wo koi aur likhte hain. Dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sach ke zyada kareeb vaakya kya hoga, jo aapke tareeke ko aapka hi rakhe aur thodi alag mulaqaaton ke liye jagah chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Har tippani ka jawab zaroori nahi #
Kuch tippaniyan suni ja sakti hain, ek baar note ki ja sakti hain, aur jahan giri wahin chhodi ja sakti hain, darwaze ke paas pade joote ki tarah. Ghar ka tareeka ghar ka hi tareeka rehta hai.
Agar mulaqaat ke saath chot ya dhamki, phone ya kaagaz chheenna, parivaar, doston, kaam ya padhai se door rakhna, paison ki maang, bachche ke liye dabaav, ya darr aaye, to wo asehmati se alag hai, gambhirta se lene layak hai; wahan saath chalna surakshit ho sakta hai. Bachche ki suraksha kabhi dheeli nahi padti.
Kisi tippani ko shaam bhar pade rehne dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek thi, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki shaam phir apni ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Thodi alag si ek mulaqaat #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ummeed ek darja halki hai. Izzat ki chaah ab bhi hai, par mulaqaat bas mulaqaat hai, aapki poori parvarish par faisla nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise sone ka niyam ek baar samjhakar aaj ki raat ko apvaad rehne dena, ya agle kamre se aati kahani ki awaaz ka maza lena.
Yahan kisi cheez ko kisi se kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi ubhre, wo aapka apna hai. Aage dekhte hain ki isse sulah karne ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara-sa hi sahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mulaqaat se pehle wo ek routine pehchanna jo aapke liye sabse aham hai
- Dekhna ki bachchon ke saath unki kaun si aadatein aapko sachmuch achhi lagti hain
- Ek niyam chunna jo ek dopahar ke liye jhuk sakta hai, bas mann mein
- Wo waqt yaad karna jab bachchon ne do tarah ke niyam aaram se sambhal liye
- Chupchaap khud se poochhna: mujhe biscuit chubha ya poochha na jaana?
Sab nijee, sab vaikalpik. Jo ho sakta lage, wahi chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Bachchon ke dada-dadi ke saath bitaye kisi pal ke baare mein bataiye jo unhein achha laga. Wo kya tha?
- Ghar ki kaun si routine aapke liye sabse aham hai, aur wo aapke parivaar ko kya deti hai?
- Aam mulaqaat mein sasural ki taraf se kaisi izzat sachchi lagegi?
- Jis mulaqaat mein biscuit kam aham hota, us dopahar mein kya alag hota?
- Sasural ki di hui kaun si cheez ka maza lena sabse aasaan raha hai?