Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Agar achhe faisle ka achha nateeja aata hai, to zindagi seedhi aur theek-thaak lagti hai, aur pata rehta hai ki kya karna hai.
Kuch log ise sone se pehle ki kahaniyon aur filmon tak le jaate hain, jahan aakhir mein sachche ki jeet hoti hai aur chalaak pakda jaata hai.
Is khayal ke neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Achhe faisle ka achha nateeja aata hai,” ya “Agar main saavdhaan aur imaandaar hoon, to mujh par aanch nahi aayegi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Faisle ko baar-baar dohrakar galti dhoondhna
- Tay kar lena ki agli baar chup rehna hi safe hai
- Jo sune, use poori baat sunana, is aas mein ki wo haami bhare
- Jo achha samajhkar kiya, us par bewakoof jaisa lagna
- Jugaad lagane walon ko dekhkar bheetar chupchaap kudhna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Figures ke baare mein sach bolna
Office mein aapne sab sahi kiya: figures ki ek galti ke baare mein sach bataya, bhale hi baat atpati thi. Aapka colleague, jisne apni galtiyon par chuppi saadhi, use promotion mil gaya. Aap muskurakar badhaai dete ho. Par scooter par aap handle kasakar pakadte ho aur sochte ho: imaandaari ka kya fayda hua, agar ant aisa hai?
Sahi karna kaam aana chahiye
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Sahi kiya hai, to achha hi hona chahiye.” Ye duniya ki sabse swabhavik insaaf-pasandi jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye kya karta hai: aapka chain un nateejon se baandh deta hai jo aapke haath mein nahi hain. Sahi karna saarthak lagega ya nahi, ab us duniya par tika hai jo achhe faislon ko aksar inaam nahi deti, kam se kam jaldi ya dikhakar toh nahi.
Hamein insaaf wali duniya kyun chahiye
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki chahte hain ki duniya ka koi matlab bane. Shayad aapko sikhaya gaya ki imaandaari ki aakhir mein jeet hoti hai. Shayad aapne umar bhar achha insaan banne ki koshish ki hai, aur chahte hain ki uska koi mol ho. Toh sahi karne ke kaam aane ki ummeed bholi nahi hai. Wo insaaf ki chaah se aati hai. Use daya chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Kya sahi karna saarthak hai?
Har naainsaaf nateeja aapka bharosa thoda hila deta hai. Aap shak karne lagte ho ki sahi karna saarthak hai bhi. Jugaad lagane walon se kadwahat hoti hai. Aap sochte ho ki parwah karna bewakoofi toh nahi. Dheere-dheere apne achhe faisle kamzori jaise lagne lagte hain, aur jo chupchaap garv sahi karne se aata hai, wo thoda kam hone lagta hai.
Kya sahi nateeje ki zaroorat vaajib hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya sahi karne ke kaam aane ki zaroorat ne kabhi aapko apne faislon ke baare mein behtar feel karaya? Ya zyadatar kadwahat hi badhi? Nateeje bahut si cheezon par tike hain jo kisi ek insaan ke faisle se pare hain. Jo bhi ho, naainsaaf nateeja ye nahi naapta ki aapne sahi kiya ya nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadne mein jitna milta hai, usse zyada chukana padta hai.
Sahi karna, apne hi liye
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki sahi karne ki parwah chhoot jaye. Matlab ye ki aapka chain ab is par nahi tikta ki wo kaam aaye. Aap jaante ho ki aap imaandaar the, aur us par chupchaap garv kar sakte ho, chahe aage jo hua. Yahin se thoda sukoon lautta hai: sahi karna apne aap mein ek shant, tikaoo inaam ban jaata hai, aur aap apne hone ki yaad ke saath chain se so sakte ho.
Being punished or threatened for doing right is something else entirely, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSahi kiya hai, to achha hi hona chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleSahi karna saarthak hai, aage jo bhi ho.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Ek sahi faisla yaad kijiye jis par garv hai
- Din 2
Kadwahat aaye to ek dheemi saans lekar use guzar jaane dijiye
- Din 3
Aaj ek chhota achha kaam kijiye, bas yun hi
Is par baat karni hai?
“Sahi karne ke liye aap kiski qadr karte ho, aur unhone kya kiya tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Sach bola, aur ulta pad gaya #
Bhopal ke office mein bill ka ek figure galat nikla, aur aapne sabke saamne maan liya, jabki kisi aur ne dekha bhi nahi tha. Ummeed thi ki koi sir hilayega. Mila lamba meeting, faltu kaam, aur ek colleague ki thandi nazar. Scooter par ghar lautte hue mann mein aaya: “Sahi kiya hai, to achha hi hona chahiye.”
Ye paan ki dukaan par zyada lautayi gayi rezgaari bhi ho sakti hai jis par dukaandaar ne ajeeb nazar se dekha, ek waada jo nibhana mehnga pada, ya kisi ki madad jisne baad mein ilzaam aap par hi daal diya. Faisla achha tha. Nateeja nahi.
Aakhri baar kab sahi karne ka achha nateeja nikla, aur us pal mein kya itna achha laga tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Uljha hua, dhansta-sa ehsaas #
Kuch logon ko chakkar-sa aata hai, jaise seedhi ki ek paidi khisak gayi ho. Kuch ko aankhon ke peeche naainsaafi ki tez chubhan hoti hai aur jabda kas jaata hai. Sharir ulajh jaata hai: ye toh doosri taraf jaana tha.
Bahut jaldi doosra ehsaas aa sakta hai: shak. Ye shak kabhi-kabhi bure nateeje se zyada chubhta hai.
Kya sach mein sahi tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Chup rehna hi theek tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pichhli baar jab achhe faisle ka bura nateeja nikla, to sabse pehle kya feel hua, aur shak kitni jaldi aaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Achhe faisle safe lagne chahiye #
Ye ummeed bhali jagah se aati hai. Sahi karne mein aksar kuch lagta hai: waqt, aaram, logon ki nazar mein jagah. Ye chahna swabhavik hai ki keemat lautey, ya kam se kam baat aur na bigde.
Ismein ek bharosa bhi hai. Agar achhe faisle ka achha nateeja aata hai, to zindagi seedhi aur theek-thaak lagti hai, aur pata rehta hai ki kya karna hai. Jab ye kadi tootti hai, to pairon tale zameen kam pakki lagti hai.
Pichhli baar sahi karne mein aapko kya dena pada, aur phir bhi aapne wo kyun kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Shak karne wali awaaz #
“Imaandaari ka zamaana nahi raha.” “Chup rehna hi theek tha.” “Agli baar kisi ke phatte mein taang nahi adaani.” Ye awaaz samajhdaar lagti hai, jaise koi sabak seekh liya ho, par aksar wo bas jali hui hoti hai.
Aksar ye awaaz dheere-dheere insaan ko unhi faislon se door karti hai jin par use garv tha. Ye bure nateeje ko saboot maan leti hai ki faisla galat tha, jabki ye ek baat nahi hai.
Jab ye shak wali awaaz bolti hai, to aapke kaun-se achhe faisle se aapko door karna chahti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Sahi karne ke waade ki jad kahan hai #
Kuch log ise sone se pehle ki kahaniyon aur filmon tak le jaate hain, jahan aakhir mein sachche ki jeet hoti hai aur chalaak pakda jaata hai. Kuch ke liye ye Papa ka wo vaakya tha: “Beta, tum bas sahi karo, baaki apne aap theek hota hai.”
Ye seekh aksar pyaar se di jaati hai, taaki bachche achhe faisle karein. Ye jeene ka achha tareeka sikhati hai. Par ye kabhi pakka waada nahi thi ki nateeja kaisa aayega, chahe waade jaisi hi kyun na lagein.
Kis kahani ya kis insaan ne pehli baar sikhaya ki sahi karne se achha hota hai, aur usse duniya ke baare mein kya samajh aaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Sahi karne ke baare mein wo niyam #
Is khayal ke neeche ek niyam baith sakta hai: “Achhe faisle ka achha nateeja aata hai,” ya “Agar main saavdhaan aur imaandaar hoon, to mujh par aanch nahi aayegi.” Ye tasalli dene wala niyam hai. Iska matlab ye bhi hai ki har bura nateeja is baat ka ishaara lag sakta hai ki faisla galat tha.
Kuch log ise bachpan ki kahaniyon se jodte hain; kuch us waqt se jab sahi karna sachmuch kaam aaya tha. Jahan se bhi aaya ho, apne usool chhode bina ise parkha ja sakta hai.
Ye niyam kahan aapko achhi raah dikhata hai, aur kahan bure nateeje ko aapke swabhav par faisla bana deta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Nateeje se faisle taulne ki keemat #
Ek keemat hai shak. Jo faisle achhe the, wo nateeje ki wajah se nasamjhi lagne lagte hain. Waqt ke saath kuch log apni sahi-galat ki samajh par bharosa karna chhod dete hain.
Doosri keemat hai ek sikudi hui zindagi: galat hote dekh chup rehna, zyada mile paise na lautana, baat na maanna, kyunki pichhli baar chubha tha. Bahut sambhalkar jeena ek chhoti zindagi bhi ho sakta hai.
Aapka kaun-sa faisla, jis par kabhi garv tha, ab shak mein hai, aur usmein garv ki kya baat thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Har faisle ke baad ka hisaab #
Ek aam hafta lijiye jab “sahi kiya hai, to achha hi hona chahiye” tez sunayi deta hai. Office ke faisle, sachche jawab, chhote-mote ehsaan. Yahan sulajhane ko kuch nahi, bas dekhne ko kuch hai.
Shayad sahi karna aur phir nateeje ko scorecard ki tarah jaanchna: kisne dekha, kisne shukriya kaha, kya gaya. Shayad koi faisla chhoot gaya kyunki pichhli baar chubha tha.
Ye koi andaaza nahi; ek aam hafta hai, jise jab chahein neeche rakha ja sakta hai.
Us hafte mein aur kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya alag se dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Achha faisla aur achha nateeja do alag baatein hain #
Kuch log apne faisle is par taulte hain ki nateeja kya aaya. Par achhe faisle ka nateeja bura bhi ho sakta hai, kyunki zindagi mein bahut se purze hain jinhein koi faisla nahi chalata. Bura nateeja peeche jaakar faisle ko galat nahi bana deta.
Isse bura nateeja aasaan nahi ho jaata, aur ye bhi nahi ki aap uske haqdaar the. Bas itna ki faisle aur nateeje ko alag-alag dekha ja sakta hai.
Agar sirf faisle ko dekhein, nateeje ko nahi, to use lene wale ke baare mein kya lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Sahi karne ne pehle hi kya diya hai #
Jab baat nahi bani, tab bhi sahi karne ne kuch chhoda hoga: bina kisi raaz ke chain ki neend, ek insaan jo ab bharosa karta hai, aaine mein nazar mila paane ka saada ehsaas.
Inhein dekhne se bura nateeja theek nahi ho jaata. Ye bas saath mein maujood hain, shant aur tikaoo, aur us pal mein aksar galat hui shor wali baat ke neeche dab jaate hain.
Sahi karne ne aapko aisa kya diya jiska nateeje se koi lena-dena nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Faisle jo nateeje se pare achhe rehte hain #
Iska matlab insaaf ya sahi karne ki ummeed chhod dena nahi hai. Iska matlab hai ki ek bura nateeja tay nahi karta ki achha faisla achha tha ya nahi.
Izzat aur safety chahna kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi, kisi aur ke liye bhi. Galat baat uthane par saza milna, dhamki milna ya kinare kiya jaana sirf bura nateeja nahi hai; use gambhirta se lena chahiye, aur saavdhaani safe chunaav ho sakti hai. Jo bhi bura hua, uska matlab ye nahi ki aapne use kamaya.
Agli chhoti baat sochiye, ummeed is baar thodi narmi se thaami hui: aap wo karte ho jo sahi lagta hai, aur koi nateeja aane se pehle aap uske baare mein kaisa feel karna chahte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Ghar lautte waqt ki ek line #
“Sahi kiya hai, to achha hi hona chahiye” ke bagal mein kuch log ye line rakhte hain: “Mere liye sahi karna apne jaisa hone ki baat hai, nateeja kharidne ki nahi.” Dono mein kisi ko jeetna zaroori nahi.
Bure din mein ye oonchi baat lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ko apni boli ke kareeb koi seedhi line zyada jamti hai.
Aapki apni kaun-si line yahan baithegi, jo usool bachaye rakhe aur hisaab ki bahi chhod de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Nateeja aaj raat aaram kar sakta hai #
Har bure nateeje ko aaj raat nipatana zaroori nahi. Use jo hai waisa dekhkar band file ki tarah almaari mein rakha ja sakta hai, zaroorat pade to wahin hai, mez par khula nahi.
Achhe faislon ke kaam aane ki chaah saath reh sakti hai. Sahi karne par saza ya dhamki milna bilkul alag baat hai, aur use gambhirta se lena chahiye.
Aaj raat ise rakh dene se nateeja sahi nahi ho jaata, aur kuch tay bhi nahi hota. Bas shaam apni ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar hisaab ki bahi daraaz mein chali jaati #
Bas pal bhar ko maan lijiye ki ummeed thodi neeche baith gayi. Aap ab bhi sahi karte hain, kyunki waise jeena chahte hain. Phir nateeja jo ho, so ho.
Yahan chhoti cheezein ginti jaati hain: thodi gehri neend, kam dohrana, faisle par zyada garv.
Ye nijee hai, aur ismein se kuch bhi zor se kehna zaroori nahi. Iske baad: yahan sukoon kaisa dikh sakta hai, aur aapki zindagi mein pehle se kya hai.
Sabse pehle kya khisakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aap kaun-si chunenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch shant cheezein aazmane ko #
- Ek achha faisla sochiye, aur use nateeje se alag karke dekhiye
- Jab nateeja chubhe, us ehsaas ko ek shabd dijiye
- Aaj ki ek chhoti sahi baat pehchaniye, bas yun hi
- Dekhiye ki shak faisle par hai ya nateeje par
- Kisi aise insaan ko yaad kijiye jiski sahi karne ke liye qadr hai, tab bhi jab use mehnga pada
Chahein to ek chun lijiye. Karein ya na karein; dono theek hain.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Sahi karne ke liye aap kiski qadr karte ho, aur unhone kya kiya tha?
- Aapke apne kaun-se faislon par chupchaap garv hai, chahe aage jo hua?
- Sahi karna kab aise kaam aaya jiski ummeed nahi thi?
- Agar nateeje kam maayne rakhte, to sahi karna kaisa lagta?
- Aapke usool roz aapko pehle se kya dete hain, jise aap dekhna chahenge?