Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Do parivaaron mein barabari naye ghar ko santulit mehsoos karane ka bhi ek tareeka hai.
Kuch logon mein ye us ghar se bani jahan rishtedaaron ki har taraf ka zikr ek-si garmjoshi se hota tha, aur ye khayal ki sab sabke hain, roz ke tour-tareeke ka hissa tha.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar unhein meri izzat hoti, to dono taraf ek-sa bartaav karte,” ya “Nyay ka matlab theek barabar.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Din sambhalkar baantna aur palde par nazar rakhna
- Apne ghar ki khabar zara khilkar sunana
- Koi baat jaane dena, phir ghar phone karke kuch na kehna
- Baat aasaan rakhne ko dono parivaaron ke din alag rakhna
- Chup rehna aur baad mein gaadi mein mehsoos karna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Wo shaam ko aa jaayein”
Phir tyohaar ki yojana. Sasural wale, hamesha ki tarah, maan lete hain ki mukhya din sab unhi ke ghar rahenge. Aap apne maata-pita ka zikr karte ho to koi kehta hai, “Wo shaam ko ek ghante aa jaayein.” Sab aage badh jaate hain. Aap sochte ho ki Maa phone ke paas chupchaap intezaar mein baithi hongi, aur chhaati mein ek khinchaav uthta hai jo poore hafte nahi jaata.
Dono parivaar barabar gine jaayein
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Sasural ko mere ghar walon ki bhi utni hi izzat karni chahiye.” Ye poori tarah jaayaz lagta hai. Dono parivaar maayne rakhte hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapka chain ek aise santulan se baandh deta hai jis par aapka poora bas nahi. Tyohaar nishpaksh lagte hain ya nahi, ye un aadaton par tik jaata hai jo unke parivaar mein peedhiyon se chali aayi hon, aapke aane se bahut pehle ki.
Apna parivaar itna kyun maayne rakhta
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki hamara apna parivaar hamara hissa hai. Shayad aapke maata-pita ne aapko bahut kuch diya, aur aap chahte ho ki unka bhi maan ho. Shayad aap dekhte ho ki khaas dinon mein ve aapko kitna yaad karte hain. Jo bhi ho, do parivaaron ke beech barabari chahna khudgarzi nahi hai. Ye unse pyaar se aati hai jinhone aapko paala, aur chaahat hai ki ve shaamil mehsoos karein. Ye dosh nahi, narmi ki haqdaar hai.
Tyohaar ke mausam se darr
Har asantulit yojana aapko beech mein kheenchti hai. Aap tyohaar ke mausam se darne lagte ho. Apne maata-pita ke aage apradh-bodh hota hai, aur sasural ke aage kheej. Aap ginte ho ki kitne din kis ghar mein guzre. Dheere-dheere jo khaas din khushi laane chahiye, ve rassakashi jaise lagne lagte hain, aur aap do gharon ke beech tane rehte ho, kisi mein poori tarah nahi.
Kya rassakashi itni zaroori hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya “aisa hona chahiye” ko pakde rehne se kabhi yojanayein zyada nishpaksh huin? Ya zyadatar har tyohaar bhaari hi hua? Kai parivaar purane dharre par hi chalte hain, bina ruke ye dekhe ki baaki sabko kaisa lagta hai. Jo bhi ho, unki aadatein aapke parivaar ki ahmiyat ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Apne dhang se apnon ka maan
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aapka parivaar kam maayne rakhta hai. Matlab ye ki aapka chain ab poori tarah is par nahi tika ki santulan theek barabar ho. Apne maata-pita ka maan aap apne tareekon se kar sakte ho: khaas phone, kisi aur din ki mulaqaat, bas aapki apni koi chhoti reet. Yahin se chain lautta hai: calendar jo bhi kahe, dono parivaaron ki jagah aapke dil mein reh sakti hai.
Being hurt, threatened or frightened, watched, pressured to change who you are, kept from your family or friends, or having money, phone or papers kept from you is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSasural ko mere ghar walon ki utni hi izzat karni chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleApne parivaar ka maan apne dhang se kiya ja sakta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Is mausam apne parivaar ke saath ek khaas pal tay kijiye
- Kadam 2
Apne maata-pita ki ek baat sochiye jo aapko pasand hai
- Kadam 3
Apni taraf ke liye ek chhoti reet shuru kijiye jo bas aapki ho
Is par baat karni hai?
“Dono parivaar kab ek kamre mein achhe se ghule-mile? Kya hua tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Do calendaron ka sawaal #
“Sasural ko mere ghar walon ki bhi utni hi izzat karni chahiye.” Ye aksar kisi calendar ke paas aati hai: bantate hue tyohaar ke din, apne ghar se aaya phone jise wapas karna hai, ya “Aapki taraf ke log” wali baat jo halke se kahi gayi aur bani reh gayi.
Ye kisi ke khilaf shikayat nahi hai. Ye bas chaah hai ki jinhone aapko paala, unki charcha aur unke hisaab se yojana bhi utni hi sahajta se ho jitni us parivaar ki jisse aap jude hain.
Pichhli baar jab ye chaah jaagi, calendar mein kya tha, aur kiska phone wapas karna baaki tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jab aapki taraf ka zikr aata hai #
Kuch logon ko “Aapki taraf ke log” sunte hi halka-sa tanaav mehsoos hota hai, aur agle lehje par kaan chala jaata hai. Ye sochne se pehle hota hai: body dekh rahi hoti hai ki vaakya kaise khatam hoga.
Kuch ko tab chubhta hai jab yojanayein ek parivaar ki taareekhon ke hisaab se banti hain aur doosre ko bachi hui jagahein milti hain, saath mein ek vinamra sir hilana, jabki mann ka ek hissa ghar par phone ki raah dekhte logon ke paas chala jaata hai.
Pichhli baar unke ghar mein aapke parivaar ki baat nikli, to kya kehna hai ye tay karne se pehle aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Apnon se pyaar chhoti baat nahi #
Ye chaahna swabhavik hai. Kuch log apna pehla parivaar har jagah saath liye chalte hain, aur unka zikr garmjoshi se ho, ye chaahna apne aap ko gambhirta se liye jaane ki chaah ka bhi ek roop hai.
Do parivaaron mein barabari naye ghar ko santulit mehsoos karane ka bhi ek tareeka hai. Jab ek taraf mukhya aayojan ban jaye aur doosri taraf upar se jodi hui baat, to chhoti cheezein bhi, jaise mulaqaaton ka kram, sandesh de jaati hain.
Koi aisa mauka sochiye jab dono parivaar ek kamre mein the aur sab achha raha: tab kya ho raha tha, aur mahaul kisne aasaan kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Do khane banane wali awaaz #
“Apni taraf ke liye toh ye kabhi na kehte.” “Hamare ghar ko aadha hi hissa mila.” “Hamare yahan jaana hamesha faltu kyun lagta hai?” Ye awaaz calendar ke upar bolti hai, ya tyohaar bant jaane ke kuch din baad.
Ye awaaz purani jagahon se bhi udhaar leti hai: kiska ghar pehle aata hai iski koi kahani, ya ye fikar ki apne ghar wale khud ko chhoota hua mehsoos kar rahe honge.
Jab awaaz kehti hai ki aapke parivaar ki utni hi izzat honi chahiye, to sabse pehle kiska chehra saamne aata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Barabari ki tasveer kahan se bani #
Kuch logon mein ye us ghar se bani jahan rishtedaaron ki har taraf ka zikr ek-si garmjoshi se hota tha, aur ye khayal ki sab sabke hain, roz ke tour-tareeke ka hissa tha.
Kuch mein ye us waqt se aayi jab kisi aur kamre mein unke apne parivaar ki baat kam achhe dhang se hui thi, aur baad mein usi se barabari ki ummeed bani. Purani choten us paimane ko aakaar de sakti hain jo hum naye ghar mein lekar jaate hain.
Aapke jeevan mein kaun aapke parivaar ki baat garmjoshi se karta hai, aam taur par kya kehta hai, aur use sunkar kaisa lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Barabar wazan wala niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Agar unhein meri izzat hoti, to dono taraf ek-sa bartaav karte,” ya “Nyay ka matlab theek barabar.” Pehli line zor se sunayi deti hai; neeche ka niyam har yojana ko naap mein badal deta hai.
Aisa niyam shayad hi kabhi soch-samajhkar chuna jaata hai. Ye un logon ki parwah se banta hai jinse hum aaye hain, aur usmein asli samajhdaari hai. Isiliye ise is parivaar ki asal yojana ke saath rakhkar dekhna kaam ka hai, jiska apna itihaas aur apni dooriyan hain.
Kuch log aise niyam ko kisi khaas tyohaar se jodte hain, kuch nahi.
“Theek barabar” kahan achha baithta hai, aur kahan koi aur bantwara bhi nyaysangat lag sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Baras bhar santulan rakhne ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai dimaag mein spreadsheet liye tyohaar ki yojana banana, mulaqaaton ke beech thunse phone, aur “aapki taraf” ya “aapke log” jaise lehje par tani hui ek sunne ki indriya, jo shayad wahan ho bhi aur na bhi.
Waqt ke saath nishpakshta ki chaah is par chaukasi mein badal sakti hai ki pehle kise namaste hui aur kiski khabar poochhi gayi. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki santulan ki rakhwaali dono parivaaron ka halkapan chheenne lagti hai.
Is saal ka kaun sa jamghat santulit rakhne mein sabse zyada sambhal maangta tha, aur us santulan ne usse kya chheen liya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Do hisson mein banta tyohaar ka hafta #
Tyohaar ke hafte ka ek aam din sochiye, us din jab “Mere parivaar ki utni hi izzat” zor se baj raha ho. Aapse bas dekhna maanga ja raha hai.
Shayad tyohaar ke din baante hue lagna ki aapke parivaar ko chhota hissa mila, do thaaliyon ke beech lamba safar, aur mann mein ek note ki mithai ke baad ghar phone karna hai.
Ye ek din hai jo ruka hua hai, bhavishyavaani nahi, aur jab chahein ise rakha ja sakta hai.
Usmein kya hai: ghar ka phone, safar, namaste, aur kaun sa hissa kiska hai ye ehsaas?Is par baat kijiye ›
Din aapko kahan do taraf kheenchta lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein aapko kya sabse alag dikhta hai, agar kuch?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Barabar ya sahaj? #
Barabar waqt izzat jatane ka sirf ek tareeka hai. Kuch parivaar us pal ki garmjoshi par zor dete hain, kuch taareekhon ke theek hone par. Do log ek hi bantwaare se guzarkar use bilkul alag padh sakte hain.
Isse aapki chaah zyada nahi ho jaati, na bantwara anyaaypoorn. Bas nishpakshta ke ek se zyada paimane hain, aur ve mel na khayein ye ho sakta hai. Kuch logon ko ye poochhna madad karta hai ki unke liye kaun sa paimana sabse aham hai: waqt, lehja ya swagat.
“Mere parivaar ki utni hi izzat” mein jo-jo hai, usmein aapke liye sabse zyada kya maayne rakhta hai: waqt, garmjoshi, ya aapke parivaar ke baare mein baat karne ka dhang?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo pehle se maujood hai #
Aapke parivaar ki kadar ki chaah ke saath-saath kuch chhoti baatein shayad pehle se mil rahi hon: tyohaar par aapke rishtedaaron ko bheja gaya namaste, aapke maata-pita ka haal poochhta koi sawaal, kisi ghar wale ke liye rakhi gayi thaali, jo shayad aa hi jaye.
Aadar ka ek chhota nishaan chaah ko khatam nahi karta. Wo usi hafte aata hai jis hafte chaah hoti hai, aur use usi ke roop mein dekhna bhi kaam ka hai.
Pichhli baar sasural walon ne aapke parivaar ka zikr pyaar se kab kiya tha: kya kaha, aur kaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Do parivaar, ek calendar, dono ke liye jagah #
Nishpakshta chahna zyada maangna nahi hai, aur aapka parivaar kam maayne nahi rakhta; barabar bantwaare aur asal bantwaare ka faasla har tyohaar ka faisla karna band kar sakta hai. Apne logon ka garmjoshi se zikr aur swagat chahna waajib hai. Buniyaadi izzat aur hifazat kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hai.
Aapko apne parivaar ko phone karne ya unse milne se roka jaana, ya aapke parivaar ka apmaan, unhein dhamki, ya unse paise ya tohfe maangna kisi bantwaare ka hissa nahi hai; wo kuch aur hai.
Agar sasural ka ghar kabhi chot pahunchaye ya dhamkaye, nigaraani ya peechha kare, phone, kaagaz ya passport chheen le, andar roke ya parivaar, doston, kaam ya padhai se door rakhe, ya darr de, to wo kuch aur hai, use gambhirta se lein.
Aapse ya aapke parivaar se paise, tohfe ya gehne ki maang, paisa chhupakar rakhna, aur bachche ke liye dabaav, in sab par bhi yahi baat laagu hai. In sab mein saath chalna aur saavdhan rehna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Aise tyohaar ko sochiye jahan ye chaah halke se tiki ho: din kaise bantte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Tyohaar ke hafte ke liye ek vaakya #
“Sasural ko mere ghar walon ki bhi utni hi izzat karni chahiye” se uljhne ki jagah, kuch log aisi line paas rakhte hain: “Dono parivaar mere liye maayne rakhte hain, aur din ek se zyada tareekon se bant sakte hain.” Ise jeetna nahi hai, bas paas rehna hai.
Nayi line theek-theek barabari ki chaah ke aage naram lag sakti hai. Kuch ko istemaal se baithne lagti hai; kuch ko koi aur vaakya zyada jamta hai. Dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo aapke parivaar ki jagah thaame bhi rahe aur us calendar ke liye jagah bhi chhode jo poora barabar nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Calendar thoda ruk sakta hai #
Har yojana ko isi hafte santulit karna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek baar palatkar rakha ja sakta hai, jaise almari par rakha tyohaar ka card. Aapke parivaar ki jagah dono haal mein bani rehti hai.
Agar kisi ghar mein chot ya dhamki, phone ya kaagaz chheen liye jaana, parivaar, doston, kaam ya padhai se door rakha jaana, paise ya tohfon ki maang, bachche ke liye dabaav, ya darr hai, to wo asamaan bantwaare se alag baat hai, use gambhirta se lein; wahan saath chalna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Kisi baat ko aaj shaam ke liye rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki wo baat sulajh gayi. Bas itna ki shaam phir aapki ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Dono calendar, halke haath se #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye apeksha ek darja shaant hai. Nishpakshta ki chaah ab bhi hai, par bantwara bantwara hai, is baat ka faisla nahi ki kiska parivaar gina jayega.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain, jaise din baante hue apne parivaar ke hisse ko apne dhang se aham bana dena, ya apne ghar ka koi ek pakwaan bas apne liye bana lena.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai. Aage dekhenge ki isse sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur kya pehle se maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya zara alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti baatein jo log aazmate hain #
- Tyohaar se pehle apne parivaar ki taraf se ek cheez tay kijiye jo aap saath le jaana chahenge
- Gaur kijiye ki apne parivaar ka hissa kis tarah aapka apna lag sakta hai
- Dono taraf ke kisi ek rishtedaar ko sochiye jo aapke logon ki baat pyaar se karta hai
- Har parivaar mein kya achha lagta hai, alag-alag dekhiye
- Khud se chupchaap poochhiye: mere liye kis tarah ki nishpakshta sabse zaroori hai?
Sab nijee, sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Dono parivaar kab ek kamre mein achhe se ghule-mile? Kya hua tha?
- Apne parivaar ke jutne ke dhang mein aapko sabse zyada kya achha lagta hai?
- Dono taraf mein se kaun aapke logon ki baat pyaar se karta hai?
- Agar calendar palde jaisa kam lage, to aap sabse pehle kya dekhenge?
- Sasural walon ki aapke parivaar ke prati kaun si chhoti meharbaani aapko yaad reh gayi?