Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye chubhan saalon chal sakti hai, kyunki chhoti umar mein andekha hona ek pakka sabak de jaata hai: ki dikhna hai toh zor se bolo, ya gadbad karo, ya first aao.
Kuch logon ke liye chup rehna bas swabhav tha: sochne wala, dekhne wala mann, jo pehle sunna pasand karta tha.
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Achhe bachche intezaar karte hain ki koi dekh le,” ya “Main itna chup rahoon ki koi bhala insaan khud pehchaan le.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Purani aadat se meeting mein peeche baithna
- Badhiya kaam karna aur ummeed rakhna ki koi dekh le
- Tez bolne walon ki taareef par chubhan mehsoos karna
- Doosre chup logon ko pehchaan lena, aur unka khayal rakhna
- Khud se kehna ki koi farak nahi padta, jabki mann ka ek kona ab bhi intezaar karta hai
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Aapka idea, kisi aur ki taareef
Jaipur ke office ki meeting. Ek tez bolne wale colleague ki taareef ho rahi hai usi idea par jo aapne pehle dheeme se bataya tha. Lift ki taraf jaate hue ek purani yaad ubharti hai: class ki peeche wali bench, aadha utha hua haath, aur naam kabhi nahi pukara gaya. Button dabate hi wahi purani, chhoti si tees laut aati hai, jaise waqt guzra hi na ho.
Teacher ko dikh jaana chahiye tha
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Teacher ko meri chuppi dikh jaani chahiye thi.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Har bachche ko dekha jaana chahiye. Par dekhiye ye aaj kya karta hai: aapko usi peeche wali bench par bithaye rakhta hai, saalon baad bhi, intezaar mein. Jab koi tez awaaz dhyan paati hai, purani class laut aati hai aur aap phir chhota mehsoos karte ho.
Bado ke dekhne ka matlab tha
Hum ise isliye thaamte hain kyunki bado ka dekh lena, matlab rakhne jaisa lagta tha. Bahut log is niyam ka koi roop saath lekar bade hote hain, aur tab ye samajh mein bhi aata tha. Shayad sharm aade aati thi aur mann tha ki koi baat nikalwa de. Shayad kehne ko bahut kuch tha, par raasta nahi. Dekhe jaane ki chaah zyada nahi thi. Us chaah ka haq hai narmi ka, ilzaam ka nahi.
Purana ehsaas phir lautta hai
Ab jab bhi koi aapko andekha karta hai, wahi purana ehsaas laut aata hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Idea rok lete ho, ye maanakar ki koi nahi sunega. Tez logon se apni tulna karte ho. School ke pal sunsaan ghanton mein dohrate ho. Jo chuppi taaqat ho sakti thi, wo kami lagne lagti hai.
Kya purani chot dhona theek hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: school jaisa hona chahiye tha, use thaame rakhne se kya aaj aapki baat suni jaane mein kabhi madad mili? Ya zyadatar purana ehsaas zinda raha? Bhari classes mein aksar sabse tez haath chune jaate hain, aur chup bachche kisi ki buri neeyat ke bina nikal jaate hain. Tab andekha hona aapki awaaz ka paimana nahi hai. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna theek hai?
Apni dheemi awaaz par bharosa
Chhodne ka matlab ye kehna nahi ki usse farak nahi pada. Matlab ye ki purani class aaj ke kamron mein aapka haal tay nahi karti. Aap apne idea khud dekh sakte ho, unhe ahmiyat de sakte ho, aur apne dhang se rakh sakte ho. Ye ek baar mein nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Yahin se thoda sukoon lautta hai: aapki dheemi awaaz bharose ki cheez banti hai, maafi maangne ki nahi.
If a teacher or anyone at school hurt you, touched you in a way that was wrong, shamed you or frightened you, that is not a hope to set down; it is worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleTeacher ko meri chuppi dikh jaani chahiye thi.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere ideas mere liye ginte hain. Dheemi awaaz par bharosa theek hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Aaj ka ek achha idea gaur se dekhiye
- Din 2
Ek chhoti baat apne dheeme dhang se keh dijiye
- Din 3
Andekha lage toh apne saath narm rahiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Bachpan mein kisne aapko dekha, aur unhone kya dekha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Peeche wali bench, tab bhi aur ab bhi #
Jaipur, Malviya Nagar ka office, Monday ki meeting. Bina soche aap peeche ki chair par baith jaate ho, theek waise jaise school mein peeche wali bench par baithna hota tha. Koi raay maangta hai aur tez awaazein pehle bol padti hain. Tabhi purani baat sarak aati hai: “Teacher ko meri chuppi dikh jaani chahiye thi.”
Kuch logon ke liye iski jad wo dhyan hai jiske liye ladna na pade. Jo bachche homework poora karte hain, shikayat ka mauka nahi dete aur intezaar karte hain ki koi poochh le, wo aksar seekhte hain ki achha hona aur dikhna, do alag baatein hain.
School ke saalon ka koi ek teacher yaad kijiye jisne aapko ek baar bhi sach mein dekha ho.
Unhone kya dekha tha, aur us waqt kaisa laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Chair mein zara sa sikud jaana #
Kuch log dekhte hain ki kamre mein shor badhte hi wo chair mein zara sikud jaate hain, waise hi jaise class mein sikudte the. Kuch ko tab gala bhaari lagta hai jab wahi kaam kisi aur ki taareef mein gina jaata hai, jo unhone bhi kiya tha.
Body classroom ko dimaag se pehle yaad kar leti hai: nazrein neeche, haath sthir, ek saans ruki hui ki kahin naam na aa jaye. Bado wale khayal thodi der baad aate hain.
Jab kamra tez aur bheed bhara ho jaye, toh kuch bhi tay karne se pehle aapki body sabse pehle kya karti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Chup bachchon ko bhi dekha jaana chahiye #
Dekhe jaane ki chaah samajh mein aati hai. Har bachche ko ek aisa bada milna chahiye jo use dekhe, sirf unhe nahi jo chillate hain ya pareshani khadi karte hain. Chup rehne wale bachchon ki andar ki duniya bhi utni hi bhari hoti hai.
Ye chubhan saalon chal sakti hai, kyunki chhoti umar mein andekha hona ek pakka sabak de jaata hai: ki dikhna hai toh zor se bolo, ya gadbad karo, ya first aao. “Jo rota hai, doodh usi ko milta hai.” Kai chup log ye sabak aaj bhi office saath le jaate hain.
Tab ke aapke mann mein kya-kya tha, koi idea, koi fikr, koi ummeed, jo us waqt kisi ne nahi poochhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Peeche wali bench ki awaaz #
“Rehne do, kaun sunega.” “Bekaar mein baat badhane se kya faayda.” “Bolne wale ki mitti bikti hai.” Kuch logon ko ye awaaz ab bhi sunai deti hai, meeting mein, rishtedaaron ke saath khane par, har us kamre mein jahan baaton ka batwara ho raha ho.
Ye awaaz kisi wajah se seekhi gayi thi. Usne kisi kam umar ko sharmindagi se bachaya, ya raaste mein aane se. Ho sakta hai ab har kamre mein uski zaroorat na ho.
Aaj jab peeche wali bench ki ye awaaz bolti hai, toh wo aapko kis cheez se bachana chahti hai, aur kya uski zaroorat hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Chuppi kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon ke liye chup rehna bas swabhav tha: sochne wala, dekhne wala mann, jo pehle sunna pasand karta tha. Saath bachchon ki class mein aise mann ke liye jagah kam hi bachti hai. Teacher pehle aage wali bench ke naam jaante hain.
Kuch ke liye chuppi kisi aur wajah se thi: naya school, nayi bhasha, kaam mein uljha ghar, ya koi fikr jo zubaan tak nahi aati thi. Chup bachche ke paas kabhi-kabhi kuch bhaari hota hai, aur use bhi dekhe jaane ki zaroorat thi.
Bachpan mein kisne aapki chuppi ko samjha, aur unhone aisa kya kiya ki aapko laga aap dikh rahe ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Dikh jaane ka ek ankaha niyam #
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Achhe bachche intezaar karte hain ki koi dekh le,” ya “Main itna chup rahoon ki koi bhala insaan khud pehchaan le.” Ye narm aur ummeed bhara niyam hai. Bhari classes mein aksar iski laaj nahi rakhi gayi, aur ismein bachche ka koi qasoor nahi tha.
Ye niyam aapka hissa bana reh sakta hai. Uske saath ek aur sach bhi baith sakta hai: jin teachers se aap chhoot gaye, wo busy the, sahi nahi the. Andekha hona kamre ke baare mein tha, is baare mein nahi ki aap dekhe jaane layak the ya nahi.
Intezaar karne ka wo purana niyam aaj aapke dino ko kahan-kahan chalata hai, aur kahan aap use aaram dena chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Andekha hona kya le ja sakta hai #
Iska matlab zindagi mein thoda peeche baithe rehna ho sakta hai: apna naam aage na karna, koi poochhe tab ka intezaar karna, mauke tez awaaz walon ke haath jaane dena. Ye chhote faisle hain, aur saalon mein ye ek raasta bana dete hain.
Iska matlab ek dheema shak bhi ho sakta hai ki koi mujhe dekhe, iske layak bhi hoon ya nahi. Ye shak bhari hui classes ne boya tha, aapke baare mein kisi sach ne nahi, par mehsoos asli hota hai.
School ke baad kab kisi ne aapko sach mein waisa dekha jaise aap ho, aur us pal mein alag kya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Saalon baad bhi peeche wali chair #
Bas ek tasveer saamne rakhiye. Kuch saal baad kisi aur meeting mein aapki chair peeche hi hai, waise hi jaise class mein thi. Tez awaazein phir pehle bol rahi hain.
Shayad ek achha idea jo mann mein hi reh gaya, ek halki si saans, ghar lautte waqt ka wo sochna ki kya bol sakte the.
Ye dekhne ka ek tareeka hai, bhavishyavaani nahi, aur jab chahein ise band kiya ja sakta hai.
Andar kya chal raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein aur kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kuch agar aankh mein aata hai, toh wo kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Chup hona, khaali hona nahi hai #
Zyadatar teacher un bachchon par dhyan dete hain jinhe zyada chahiye: jo zor se joojhte hain ya shararat karte hain. Chup aur sthir bachche theek-thaak lagne ki wajah se nikal jaate hain. Theek dikhna aur theek hona, do alag baatein hain.
Isse wo baat sahi nahi ho jaati, aur dekhe jaane ki chaah jaayaz hai. Ho sakta hai jo chooka, wo teacher ka aapko jaanne ka mauka tha, is baat ka saboot nahi ki jaanne ko kuch tha hi nahi.
Agar koi samajhdaar teacher das minute aapke paas baith jaate, toh unhe kya pata chalta?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Aapki chuppi pehle se kya deti hai #
Us purane khaalipan ke bawajood kuch cheezein paas ho sakti hain: sunne ka hunar, wo baatein pakad lene ki nazar jo auron se chhoot jaati hain, aise dost jinhe aapke sochne ka dhang pasand hai, kamre mein chup logon ko pehchaan lene ki aadat.
Andekha kiya jaana ab bhi theek nahi tha, aur chahna ki koi dekhta, ab bhi jaayaz hai. Ye baatein bhi bas sach hain, aur us insaan ki hain jo aaj aap ho.
Aapka apna chup rehne ka dhang aas-paas ke logon ko kya deta hai, jise aap ab notice karna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Chup bhi, aur aapki nazar mein bhi #
Sulah ka matlab ye nahi ki farak nahi pada. Bas itna ki purani peeche wali bench aaj tay na kare ki aap kahan baithein. Agar tab aap isliye chup the ki ghar ya school mein koi cheez daraati ya chot pahunchati thi, toh wo is ummeed se kahin bhaari hai, aur jis par bharosa ho, wo use sun sakta hai.
Agar school mein kisi teacher ya kisi ne aapko chot pahunchayi, galat tareeke se chhua, sharminda kiya, ya aap jaise hain us wajah se alag karke nishana banaya (ladka-ladki hona, jaati, dharm, rang, koi kami ya aap kahan se aaye ho), toh ye chhod dene wali ummeed nahi hai; ise seriously lena zaroori hai.
Agar school ki yaadein aaj ke dino ko bahut mushkil kar rahi hain, toh wo is card se zyada ki haqdaar hain, aur jis par aapka bharosa ho, wo sun sakta hai.
School mein buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, na aapke liye, na class ke kisi bhi bachche ke liye.
Agli meeting is ummeed ko zara narmi se thaamkar dekhiye: aap kahan baithna chunoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Shor wale kamron ke liye ek sentence #
“Teacher ko meri chuppi dikh jaani chahiye thi” ke saath kuch log ye bhi rakhte hain: “Tab mujhe dekhe jaane ka haq tha, aur aaj meri nazar us chup bachche par hai.” Pehli baat sach bani rehti hai. Doosri usmein se kuch deti hai jo tab nahi mila.
Ye kabhi komal lagta hai, kabhi thoda atpata. Kuch log ise aur seedha kar lete hain, jaise “Chup hona, gaayab hona nahi hai.” Kuch ko waqt ke saath apne shabd mil jaate hain.
Aapka apna sachcha sentence kya hoga, jo us chup bachche ka bhi maan rakhe aur aaj ke aapka bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Purani class wahin reh sakti hai #
Andekha kiye jaane ki har yaad aaj khangaalni zaroori nahi. Use ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, narmi se mila ja sakta hai, aur wahin chhoda ja sakta hai jahan wo hui thi.
Dekhe jaane ki chaah bani reh sakti hai. School ya ghar mein chot pahunchna, daraaya jaana, galat tareeke se chhua jaana, sharminda kiya jaana, ya pehchaan ki wajah se nishana banaya jaana kuch aur hai, aur kitna bhi samay beet gaya ho, use seriously lena zaroori hai; jis par bharosa ho, wo use sun sakta hai.
Use wahin chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha. Matlab ye ki aaj ke liye kuch jagah bachi hai.
Aap wahan kya rakhna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar peeche wali bench ki pakad dheeli ho #
Usi meeting mein lautiye, ummeed ab bhi aapki hai, bas thodi narm. Aap ab bhi peeche baithte ho. Par ek pal chunte ho jab apni dheemi awaaz mein bolna hai, kyunki aap chahte ho.
Kisi ke liye ye ek sentence bolne ke baad ki chhoti garmaahat ho sakti hai. Kisi ke liye bas itna ki peeche baithna aadat se nahi, apni pasand se hai.
Ye private rehta hai; kisi aur ko sunane ki zaroorat nahi. Aage: is ummeed se sulah kaisi dikh sakti hai, aur aapke paas pehle se kya hai.
Kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli nishaani kaisi dikhegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmaate hain #
- Peeche baithne ki aadat jab chalu ho, use dhyan dijiye aur mann mein “namaste” keh dijiye
- Ek aise insaan ko yaad kijiye jisne aapko dekha, aur usne kya dekha tha
- Us classroom mein baithe chhote aap ko saamne rakhiye, aur unhe saaf dekhiye
- Ek baat gaur kijiye jo aapki chuppi aapko dikha deti hai aur tez bolne walon ko nahi
- Mann mein tay kijiye ki is hafte kis ek pal mein aap kuch bolenge
Shaant, private, aur apni marzi se. Jo narm lage wahi chuniye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Bachpan mein kisne aapko dekha, aur unhone kya dekha?
- Chup rehne wale dino mein aapko kya karna sabse achha lagta tha?
- Aapki chuppi aapko aisa kya dikha deti hai jo auron ko shayad na dikhe?
- Agar peeche baithne ki purani aadat thodi dheeli pade, toh aap kya aazmaoge?
- Aaj aapki zindagi mein kaun aapko sach mein dekhta hai, aur aap kaise jaante ho?