“ab tak toh mujhe isse ubar jaana chahiye” ke neeche kya chal raha hai?

Kuch choten ghatna se badi kisi cheez ko chhooti hain. Kuch logon mein ye khayal bachpan mein “Chhodo, jaane do” ya “Itni purani baat!” sunne se ugaa. “Mujhe ubar jaana chahiye” ke neeche aksar ek dheema niyam hota hai: “Mazboot log chot lekar nahi baithte.”

“ab tak toh mujhe isse ubar jaana chahiye” par log aksar kya karte hain?

Sabse kehna ki sab sahi hai, aur raat ko usi ke baare mein sochna. Wo jagah, wo gaana ya us insaan ka naam taalna. Baat chhedne par jhenp jaana, aur topic badal dena. Mann mein baar-baar dohrana, is umeed mein ki is baar behes jeet jaayenge. Har baar lautne par khud par jhallana.

Agle 3 din kya try kiya ja sakta hai?

Jab purana ehsaas aaye, kahiye “ye ab bhi chubhta hai”. Aaj apne liye koi ek naram cheez kijiye. Ek ehsaas ko ek minute bina daante rehne dijiye.

“ab tak toh mujhe isse ubar jaana chahiye”: kyun nahi…

Andar

Andar kya chal raha hai #

Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.

Kuch choten ghatna se badi kisi cheez ko chhooti hain.
Kuch logon mein ye khayal bachpan mein “Chhodo, jaane do” ya “Itni purani baat!” sunne se ugaa.
“Mujhe ubar jaana chahiye” ke neeche aksar ek dheema niyam hota hai: “Mazboot log chot lekar nahi baithte.”

Reactions

Log aksar kya karte hain #

Sabse kehna ki sab sahi hai, aur raat ko usi ke baare mein sochna
Wo jagah, wo gaana ya us insaan ka naam taalna
Baat chhedne par jhenp jaana, aur topic badal dena
Mann mein baar-baar dohrana, is umeed mein ki is baar behes jeet jaayenge
Har baar lautne par khud par jhallana

Deck

6 cards mein poori kahani #

Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.

Drawer mein ek purani tasveer
Sunday ki dopahar, Nagpur. Almaari ki drawer sambhalte hue ek purani tasveer milti hai, us dosti ki jo do saal pehle buri tarah tooti thi. Seene mein kasaav aata hai. Phir ek doosra khayal, teekha: “Ab tak toh mujhe ubar jaana chahiye.” Tasveer jhat se wapas rakhi jaati hai, khud par kheej ke saath, aur dopahar ghante bhar pehle se bhaari lagti hai. Tasveer ab bhi drawer mein hai, aur sawaal bhi.
Ab tak ubar jaana chahiye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Ab tak toh mujhe ubar jaana chahiye.” Ye aage badhna, samajhdaari jaisa lagta hai. Bahut se log ise bina soche maante hain. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: pehli chot ke upar doosri chot jod deta hai. Ab purani chubhan hai, aur uske bane rehne ki daant bhi, aur ehsaas ke paas jaane ko koi jagah nahi.
Hum mazboot kyun dikhna chahte hain
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki hum mazboot aur nipte hue mehsoos karna chahte hain. Ye bahut insaani chaah hai, aur aam bhi. Shayad aas-paas ke log jaldi sambhalte lage. Shayad kaha gaya ki beeti baaton mein mat uljho. Jo bhi ho, behtar mehsoos karna chaahna galat nahi. Ye chot ko peeche chhodne ki chaah se aati hai, aur ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Phir daba diya gaya ehsaas
Har baar jab niyam bolta hai, ehsaas phir dab jaata hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Dheere-dheere sab judta jaata hai. Aap jagahon aur gaanon se bachte ho. Parwah karne par khud se kheejte ho. Dikhate ho ki sab sahi hai. Chot daantne se kam nahi hoti; bas chup ho jaati hai aur bewaqt lautti hai, jaise Sunday ki ye drawer.
Kya miyaad is keemat ke layak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya is niyam ko pakde rakhne se chot kabhi jaldi gayi? Ya zyadatar us par ek parat aur chadh gayi? Ehsaas kisi samay-saarni par nahi chalte, aur kisi baat se ubarne ki koi aakhri tareekh nahi hoti. Chahein to iske saath ek pal thehriye. Ise bina dosh ke narmi se poochna theek hai. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke layak hai?
Iski koi aakhri tareekh nahi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki chot ko rehna hi hai, ya aapko usi mein atke rehna hai. Matlab ye ki ehsaas ko ab apne hone par daant nahi padti. Aap chubhan ko pehchan sakte ho, uske saath narmi rakh sakte ho, aur tasveer ko aaram se wapas rakh sakte ho. Pehle kuch aur badalna zaroori nahi. Yahin se kuch chain lautta hai: ehsaas apni raftaar se chal sakta hai.
If what still hurts is a loss, or someone who frightened, threatened or hurt you, that is something else, and worth taking seriously; go gently, and a person you trust can hear it.

Palat

Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #

Purana ruleAb tak toh mujhe ubar jaana chahiye.

Try karne ke liye naya ruleKoi aakhri tareekh nahi. Jo bacha hai, usse narmi rakh sakte hain.

Teen chhote din

3 din try kijiye #

Din 1
Jab purana ehsaas aaye, kahiye “ye ab bhi chubhta hai”
Din 2
Aaj apne liye koi ek naram cheez kijiye
Din 3
Ek ehsaas ko ek minute bina daante rehne dijiye

Is par baat karni hai?

“Kaun si purani baat ke baare mein aap sabse zyada sochte ho ki ubar jaana chahiye?”

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Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai

Aur gehraai mein #

Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.

Yeh kaisa lagta hai

Kya kaha gaya

Ek aah ke saath kahi gayi baat #

“Ab tak toh mujhe isse ubar jaana chahiye.” Kisi purane dost ke baare mein jisne jawab dena band kar diya, saalon pehle kisi family dawat mein kahi gayi ek baat ke baare mein, kisi yojana ke baare mein jo bigad gayi, ya us mauke ke baare mein jo kisi aur ko mil gaya.

Ye aksar halki aah, ya jhenp bhari hansi ke saath kahi jaati hai. Chot ke baare mein nahi, balki is baare mein ki wo ab bhi hai.

Ye card rozmarra ki choton ke baare mein hai. Agar aapki chot kisi ki maut hai, koi bimaari, kisi ka aapko chot pahunchana ya daraana, ya job ya ghar ka chhoot jaana, to ise abhi kinare rakhiye; wo is card se kahin bhaari hain, aur un par koi samay-seema nahi laga sakta.

Aap ye kis purani baat ke baare mein kehte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aur kisse kehte ho: khud se, ya kisi aise se jiske baare mein lagta hai ki wo ginti rakh raha hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Pehle kuch pal

Chubhan, aur phir doosri chubhan #

Family ke WhatsApp group mein ek naam dikhta hai. Chai ki tapri par koi gaana bajta hai. Koi purane office ka zikr kar deta hai. Pet mein halka sa khichaav, chehre par garmi, nazar jhat se kahin aur. Ek pal ko purani baat laut aati hai.

Phir aati hai doosri chubhan, aksar pehli se tez: “Ye ab bhi mujhe kyun lagta hai?” Pehla ehsaas jo hua uske baare mein hai. Doosra is baare mein ki main un logon mein hoon jo ab bhi mehsoos karte hain.

Aapke liye kaun si zyada chubhti hai, purani chot, ya uske baad ki daant?Is par baat kijiye ›

Agar chun sakte, to pehle kise neeche rakhte?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kyun lagta hai

Ehsaas calendar nahi padhte #

Bahut se log mann mein ek ankahi si ginti rakhte hain ki chot kitne din reh sakti hai. Kisi rukhi baat ke liye ek hafta. Jhagde ke liye ek mahina. Dikkat ye hai ki ehsaason ko in miyaadon ki khabar nahi hoti.

Kuch choten ghatna se badi kisi cheez ko chhooti hain. Kisi dost ka chup ho jaana akele chhoot jaane ko chhoo sakta hai. Dawat mein kahi gayi ek baat gambhirta se na liye jaane ko. Jab koi chhoti ghatna badi cheez ko chhooti hai, to wo bahut der reh sakti hai.

Agar purani baat ab bhi chubhti hai, to wo kaun si badi cheez ko chhoo rahi hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Kya ye us din ki baat hai, ya us din ne jo kehta sa laga, uski?Is par baat kijiye ›

Andar ki awaaz

Ghadi haath mein liye wo awaaz #

“Do saal ho gaye, ab bas karo.” “Koi aur hota to kab ka aage badh gaya hota.” “Ye toh badi bachkani baat hai.” Awaaz aapse thaki hui lagti hai, jaise din bhar ki thakan ke baad koi besabra rishtedaar bole.

Ye theek usi pal bolti hai jab ehsaas aata hai, isliye ehsaas ko kabhi apna ek pal nahi milta. Use pehchana bhi nahi jaata ki uske hone ki daant pehle hi shuru ho chuki hoti hai.

Kya hoga agar ye awaaz ehsaas ko ek baar baat poori karne de?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ehsaas kya kehna chahta hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›

Yeh kahan se aata hai

Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai

Ye miyaad kahan se aati hai #

Kuch logon mein ye khayal bachpan mein “Chhodo, jaane do” ya “Itni purani baat!” sunne se ugaa. Kuch gharon mein jaldi saamanya ho jaana mazboot aur saath rehne mein aasaan hone ki nishani thi.

Kuch ye un logon ko dekhkar uthate hain jo ek din mein sambhal jaate lagte hain: wo dost jo sab kuch hanskar taal deta hai, wo rishtedaar jo beeti baat kabhi chhedta hi nahi. Bahar se wo log sahi tareeke jaise dikhte hain.

Aapko kisne sikhaya ki chot kitni der rehni chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›

Unhone kabhi zor se kaha, ya aapne dekh-dekhkar samajh liya?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iske neeche ki maanyata

Neeche chhipa niyam #

“Mujhe ubar jaana chahiye” ke neeche aksar ek dheema niyam hota hai: “Mazboot log chot lekar nahi baithte.” Ya: “Agar ab bhi dukhta hai to mujhse kuch galat ho raha hai.” Ye niyam sakht aur samajhdaar lagte hain, isiliye inhein kam hi parkha jaata hai.

Niyam ne shayad kabhi madad ki. Bhare-poore ghar mein ya kathin saal mein jaldi aage badhna kaam chalata tha. Lambe ehsaason ke liye kisi ke paas waqt nahi tha. Saamanya ho jaana kaam ka tha, aur uski taareef bhi hui hogi.

Kya ye ab bhi sach hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ehsaas ko dhakelne se wo chala jaata hai, ya bas aise bewaqt lautta hai, jaise raat ke do baje ya meeting ke beech?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iski kya keemat hai

Wo ghadi chupchaap kya chheenti hai #

Iska matlab ho sakta hai kisi se, achhe dost se bhi, kabhi na kehna ki “wo ab bhi chubhta hai.” Iska matlab ho sakta hai us gali se na guzarna jahan purana office tha, ya kisi group ko mute kar dena taaki koi naam saamne na aaye. Har hafte ke chhote-chhote chakkar.

Aur ek doosri keemat hai. Har baar jab chot lautti hai, saath thodi sharm laati hai. Ek saal mein wo sharm chot se bhaari ho sakti hai. Purani baat ko dekhna mushkil ho jaata hai kyunki dekhna hi ek exam jaisa lagne lagta hai.

Pichhle saal is “chahiye” ki keemat kya rahi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Koi baatcheet jo nahi hui, koi jagah jahan nahi gaye, koi raat jo apne se behes mein kati?Is par baat kijiye ›

Agar yeh aisa hi rahe

Kuch saal baad, ek aam Tuesday #

Kuch saal baad ka ek aam Tuesday sochiye, us din ka jab “Mujhe ubar jaana chahiye” ab bhi zor se baj raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, bhavishyavaani nahi, aur ismein theek karne ko kuch nahi.

Shayad wahi purana naam phir saamne aata hai aur wahi jhatpat daant peeche chali aati hai. Shayad koi gali ab bhi taali jaati hai, ya koi kissa ab bhi nahi sunaya jaata. Shayad tab tak chot chhoti hai, par daant utni hi badi. Bas wo din, jaisa guzarta hai.

Yahan abhi kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi.

Us din ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Uska kaun sa hissa alag dikhe, ye aap chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka

Ubre nahi, iska matlab atke nahi #

“Ubar jaana” aisi rekha jaisa lagta hai jise ek baar paar kiya aur baat khatam. Bahut se log paate hain ki choten aise kaam nahi kartin. Wo chhoti, dheemi aur kam baar aane wali ho jaati hain, par koi yaad ab bhi uska thoda hissa lauta sakti hai. Ye peeche jaana nahi hai.

Jo chot kabhi-kabhi laut aati hai, uska seedha matlab ho sakta hai ki wo maayne rakhti thi. Jo dosti chup ho gayi, wo sachmuch ki dosti thi. Jo job chhooti, wo aapki zindagi ka asli hissa thi. Asli cheezon ke baare mein kuch mehsoos karna nakaami nahi.

Agar koi dost kahe ki saalon purani kisi baat par ab bhi thoda dukhta hai, to kya aap ise nakaami kahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aap kya sochenge?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ise jaldi pehchanna

Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #

Gaur se dekhne par kai log paate hain ki chot pehle hi badal chuki hai. Pehle roz aati thi; ab mahine mein ek baar. Pehle poori shaam chalti thi; ab das minute. “Chahiye” wala niyam ye sab chhod deta hai.

Kuch ko ye bhi dikhta hai ki chot doosri cheezon mein mili hui hai: achhe hisson ki yaad, ye chaah ki alag dhang se khatam hota, koi chhota sawaal jiska jawab nahi mila. Ye ek ehsaas nahi hai, isliye ek baar mein nahi jaata.

Ye purani baat shuru se ab tak thodi bhi kaise badli hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Iska kaun sa hissa ab bhi yahan hai, aur kaun sa ja chuka hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Isse sulah

Bina miyaad ke jagah #

Yahan sulah ka matlab ehsaas ko gaayab kar dena nahi. Matlab use nakaami ka nishaan nahi, ek saamanya mehmaan rehne dena. Wo aa sakta hai, kuch der ruk sakta hai, aur phir ja sakta hai.

Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki jab wo khud ko daantna chhod dete hain, to purani chot kam jagah gherti hai. Isliye nahi ki wo theek ho gayi, balki isliye ki ab uske upar koi ladai nahi. Bas ehsaas, ehsaas aur daant nahi.

Kya badlega agar is chot ko bina kisi sharm ke kabhi-kabhi lautne diya jaaye?Is par baat kijiye ›

Bhaaripan mein kitna chot ka hai, aur kitna “chahiye” ka?Is par baat kijiye ›

Ek zyada sachcha vaakya

Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #

“Ab tak toh mujhe isse ubar jaana chahiye” ki jagah kuch log aazmate hain: “Ye maayne rakhti thi, isliye kabhi-kabhi laut aati hai.” Ye koi waada nahi karta, koi nayi miyaad nahi baandhta. Bas wahi batata hai jo asal mein ho raha hai.

Shuru mein ise kehna ajeeb lag sakta hai, lagbhag haar maan lene jaisa. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki chupchaap kuch baar kehne par isse ek tarah ka aaram milta hai. Kuch ko doosri line zyada jamti hai, aur wo bhi theek hai.

Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo daante nahi aur ye bhi dikhawa na kare ki sab chala gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›

Kya rehne dein

Kuch din ye zyada zor se lautti hai #

Thake din mein, ya kisi purani tareekh ke aas-paas, chot mahinon baad se bhi zyada zor se laut sakti hai. Isse kuch saabit nahi hota. Purane ehsaas neend, tanaav aur chhoti yaadon ke saath aate-jaate hain, mausam ki tarah.

Use pehchankar naam de dena madad kar sakta hai: “Aaj wahi purani baat aayi hai.” Aaj raat use suljhana zaroori nahi. Ye tay karna zaroori nahi ki iska kya matlab hai. Wo wahan rahe, aur shaam chalti rahe.

Ise shaam ke liye neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki jo hua wo theek tha, ya baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo poori shaam par nahi chhayegi.

Shaam mein aur kya aa sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Agar yeh dheela pade

Aur agar “chahiye” thoda bhi dheela ho #

Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki “chahiye” ek darja dheema hai. Purani chot ab bhi kabhi-kabhi aati hai, par bheetar koi us par chilla nahi raha.

Kai log pehle chhoti cheezein sochte hain: purana gaana sunna aur bajne dena, ek baar purani gali se guzarna, bina aah ke khud se kehna “ye ab bhi chubhti hai”.

Inmein se kuch bhi kisi ko dikhana zaroori nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne layak hai. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.

Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›

Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›

Try karne ki chhoti cheezein

Try karne ke liye kuch

Kuch chhoti cheezein jo logon ko kaam ki lagti hain #

Jab purana ehsaas aaye, mann mein uska naam lijiye: “Lo, wahi purani chubhan”
Doosri chubhan, yaani daant, par dhyaan dijiye aur usmein shaamil hue bina use guzarne dijiye
Chupchaap khud se poochiye ki usmein se aapko ab bhi kya yaad aata hai
Dekhiye ki shuruaat ke muqable ab wo kitni chhoti hai
Mann mein ek baar kahiye: “Zaahir hai ye ab bhi thoda chubhti hai”

Chhote aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.

Ek sawaal chuniye

Baat kijiye #

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