Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Aur jab sab apne bachchon ke kisse suna rahe hon, to chup rehna apne aap mein ek jawab lagne lagta hai.
Kuch logon mein ye apne bachpan se aati hai: “Sharma ji ka beta” wali misaalein, ghar mein rishtedaron ke saamne bachchon ki parade, aur ye samajh ki achhe bachche parivaar ki naak ooncha rakhte hain.
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bachche ki kaamyabi meri parvarish ka saboot hai,” ya “Bachcha peeche raha to meri naak neechi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Har family gathering se pehle ek chhota, chamakdaar jawab taiyaar karna
- Ek bachche ki khabar garmjoshi se batana, doosre ki mushkil se
- Kisi cousin ki kaamyabi ka zikr aate hi baat badal dena
- Bachche ko aise faislon ki taraf sarkana jinhein batana aasaan ho
- Jab sunane ko koi achhi khabar na ho to function mein jaana taal dena
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Shaadi mein chachi ka sawaal
Rishtedaar ki shaadi mein ek chachi poochti hain, “Aur bitiya kya kar rahi hai aajkal?” Aap jawab dein, usse pehle koi aur apne bete ki nayi job ka package batane lagta hai. Aap kehte ho ki bitiya “apna raasta dhoondh rahi hai.” Log shishtata se sir hilate hain. Aap muskurate ho, par lautte hue car mein uske liye pyaar aur sharmindagi ka ajeeb mel reh jaata hai.
Sabke saamne sir ooncha rakhna
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere bachchon ko sabke saamne mera sir ooncha rakhna chahiye.” Ye har maa-baap ki aam chaah jaisa lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: bachche par aapka garv is par tik jaata hai ki log kya sochte hain. Parivaar par aapko achha lagega ya nahi, iska faisla shaadiyon ki baatcheet par aa jaata hai, jahan har koi apni kahani chamka raha ho sakta hai.
Bachche hamara aaina kyun lagte hain
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki bachchon ki zindagi hamari hi jhalak lagti hai. Shayad aapke ghar mein parivaar ki izzat ka bahut wazan tha. Shayad aapne unke liye itni mehnat ki ki unki kaamyabi saajha inaam lagti hai. Garv chahna ghamand nahi hai. Isme pyaar hai, aur unki zindagi achhi chale, ye chaah. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har sawaal par chhota hona
Har asahaj sawaal thoda chhota kar deta hai. Aap jamavdon se pehle jawab taiyaar karne lagte ho. Apne bachche ko doosron ke bachchon se taulne lagte ho. Sharmindagi mehsoos hone par apradh-bodh aata hai. Dheere-dheere bachche par garv mein logon ki soch ki chinta ghul jaati hai, aur wo baatein nazar se chhoot jaati hain jo aapko usme pyaari hain aur jinhein koi shaadi ka sawaal pakad nahi sakta.
Kya darshakon ka wazan theek hai?
Imaandaari se poochiye: kya dikhane ki zaroorat ne kabhi aapka garv badhaya? Ya zyada-tar family gatherings ko tanavbhara kiya? Log aksar apne bachchon ki kahani ke bas achhe hisse sunate hain, aur kai dheemi dikhte raaste achhe nikalte hain. Phir bhi shaadi ki baatcheet na aapke bachche ka paimana hai, na aapki parvarish ka. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Jo wo hain, us par garv
Chhodne ka matlab bachche par garv karna chhodna nahi hai. Matlab ye ki aapka garv is par na tike ki uski kahani doosron ko kaisi sunai deti hai. Aap uske insaan hone se pyaar kar sakte ho, uski daya, uska humour, uski mehnat, aur use kaafi maan sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: asli garv ho sakta hai, chahe chachiyan kuch bhi kahein.
Where a relative's questions turn sharp, threatening or frightening, that is worth taking seriously, and a short answer is allowed.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere bachchon ko sabke saamne mera sir ooncha rakhna chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMujhe garv is par hai ki wo kaun hain, log kuch bhi kahein.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Apne bachche ke swabhav ki teen baatein sochiye jo aapko pyaari hain
- Kadam 2
Jamavde se pehle ek sachchi baat chuniye jis par garv ho
- Kadam 3
Tulna shuru ho to apne bachche ki sabse achhi khoobi yaad kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Function mein bachchon ko lekar kaun sa sawaal ab bhi saath rehta hai, aur kisne poocha tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Sawaal ke intezaar mein ek chaah #
“Mere bachchon ko sabke saamne mera sir ooncha rakhna chahiye.” Ye aksar sawaal aane se theek pehle aati hai: kisi shaadi ya function mein bachchon ke baare mein poocha jaana, family group mein result ki photos ki baadh, kisi saheli ki beti ke promotion ki khabar khaane ki table par.
Ye dikhave jaisi kam hi lagti hai. Lagti hai is ummeed jaisi ki barson ki parvarish dikhe: homework check karna, class chhodne jaana, kitchen ki table par samjhana, sab ek jawab mein nazar aa jaye, jab koi poochhe, “Aur beta aajkal kya kar raha hai?”
Bachchon aur doosron ke baare mein ye baat aakhri baar kab mann mein aayi, aur sawaal poochne wala kaun tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Jawab se pehle ka thehraav #
Kuch logon ko sawaal sunte hi seene mein ek chhota sa thehraav mehsoos hota hai, jawab sochne se pehle hi. Haath mein pakdi plate zara bhaari lagti hai, aur chehre par ek taiyaar muskaan chadh jaati hai.
Kuch ko jawab pehle banta dikhta hai, tay hone se pehle: “Bas, apne raaste par hai,” ya koi halki baat jo baat ko aage sarka de. Soch zara baad mein aati hai, aksar car mein, ghar ke raaste.
Pichhli baar jab kisi ne bachchon ke baare mein poocha, to jawab dene se pehle aapke andar sabse pehle kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Bachche par garv ek garm cheez hai #
Ye ummeed isliye theek lagti hai ki isme sach hai. Bachche par garv karna, uski kaamyabi mein apni mehnat ka phal dekhna, chahna ki uski zindagi achhi chale, ye pyaar ka hi ek roop hai, ghamand nahi.
Aur jab sab apne bachchon ke kisse suna rahe hon, to chup rehna apne aap mein ek jawab lagne lagta hai. Paas baitha koi bina soche tulna kar deta hai, aur taareef seedhe aapki parvarish ki ginti jaisi sunai deti hai.
Agar garv ka matlab kisi function mein ek achha jawab hota, to wo jawab kya hota, aur kiske saamne?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jawab ka rehearsal karne wali awaaz #
“Log kya kahenge?” “Set ho gaya, ye toh bata sakoon.” “Sharma ji ka beta toh kab ka aage nikal gaya.” Ye awaaz aksar tab bolti hai jab shaadi ka invitation aata hai, ya jab raaste bhar jawab ka rehearsal chalta hai.
Awaaz bachche ke baare mein kam bolti hai, aur apni parvarish ke baare mein zyada.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki is rehearsal ke neeche sirf garv nahi, ek sawaal bhi hai: kya maine theek paala?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jab awaaz jawab ka rehearsal karne lagti hai, to wo asal mein kiski nazar mein apni parvarish ko pass hote dekhna chahti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Garveele maa-baap ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon mein ye apne bachpan se aati hai: “Sharma ji ka beta” wali misaalein, ghar mein rishtedaron ke saamne bachchon ki parade, aur ye samajh ki achhe bachche parivaar ki naak ooncha rakhte hain. Kai gharon mein yahi saleeqa tha.
Kuch mein ye ulti taraf se aati hai: aisa bachpan jisme kisi ne kabhi garv se nahi kaha, aur chupchaap ye chaah ki apne bachchon ke liye wo kaha jaye. Kuch log aisi tasveer bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aapke bachpan mein kiski baat par kisi ne sabke saamne garv jataya tha, aur tab aapki jagah kahan thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Har nateeje ko taulne wala niyam #
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bachche ki kaamyabi meri parvarish ka saboot hai,” ya “Bachcha peeche raha to meri naak neechi.” Pehla vaakya sunai deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har nateeje ka kya matlab niklega.
Ye niyam jaisa nahi lagta. Lagta hai ek maa-baap ki saamanya chinta, aur uske kuch hisson mein sach bhi hai. Isiliye ise dekhna theek rehta hai, apne bachchon ke saath jaise wo aaj hain, apne raaste, apni raftaar aur apni pasand ke saath.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ke parivaar mein ‘sabke saamne sir ooncha’ wala ye niyam kahan ab bhi baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Darshak dhona kya le sakta hai #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai har shaadi se pehle bechaini, doosron ke bachchon ki tarah apne bachche ko naapna, aur bachche ke baare mein bolte hue awaaz mein ek nakli chamak. Kuch dramatic nahi, phir bhi thakane wala.
Ye bachche ke saath rishte ko bhi badal deta hai. Jab bachche ka har result ek jawab ban jaye, to bachcha kabhi wo baatein chhipane lagta hai jo “batane laayak” nahi lagtin, aur ghar ki baatcheet thodi sambhli hui ho jaati hai.
Pichhle saal ki kaun si aam shaam ya kaun sa function sabse zyada isi darshak-bhare sawaal ke rang mein ranga raha, aur uski aapko kya keemat chukani padi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Sawaal ke intezaar mein aur paanch saal #
Ek aam Sunday sochiye, us din ka jab “bachche mera sir ooncha rakhein” ki awaaz tez hai. Ye bas ek tasveer hai, dekhne ke liye, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad har shaadi se pehle jawab ka rehearsal, kisi ki khabar par sir hilakar muskaan, ek function chhod dena kyunki batane ko kuch nahi tha, aur lautte hue car mein poori chuppi.
Isme koi bhavishyavaani nahi, aur tasveer jab chaahein wapas rakhi ja sakti hai.
Usme kya hai: invitation, taiyaar jawab, bachchon ke baare mein kahi baatein, ankahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Sunday ko dekhkar, kuch dikhta hai to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kis par garv, aur kiske saamne? #
Garv ke kai roop ho sakte hain: nateeje par, mehnat par, koi mushkil ghadi nibhane ke tareeke par, ya bas is par ki bachcha kaisa insaan hai. Ek hi bachche ke baare mein function mein kehne laayak aur ghar mein mann mein rakhne laayak garv alag ho sakte hain.
Kuch maa-baap paate hain ki jo baat table par batane se nahi banti, wo akele mein bachche se kahi jaye to uske liye sabse zyada matlab rakhti hai. Isse garv ki chaah galat ya sahi nahi ho jaati, bas uska ek aur raasta dikhta hai.
‘Garv’ shabd mein jo kuch bhara hai, usme se sabse zyada kya matlab rakhta hai: bachche ka nateeja, uski mehnat, ya ye ki wo kaisa insaan hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Bina bataye wo pehle se jo laate hain #
Jo jawab nahi ban paata, uske saath kuch logon ko ye dekhna achha lagta hai ki bachche bina bataye pehle se kya laate hain: shaadi mein dadi ka haath pakadkar chalna, kamre mein ek kone ki chupchaap madad, raat ko ‘pahunch gaya’ wala ek message, kisi chhote ko sikhayi koi baat.
Inmein se kuch bhi baqaya nahi hai, aur ise dekhne se chaah kam nahi hoti: garv ki aas aur bina batayi cheezon ka notice dono saath reh sakte hain. Kuch hafton mein list chhoti hoti hai, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke bachche bina kisi ke dekhe pehle se kya karte hain, jiska aap thoda aur maza lena chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Chain, aur jo jaayaz hai use rakhna #
Is ummeed se chain ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki wo zyada thi, ya ki sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jo jawab aap dena chahte the aur jo aapke paas hai, unke beech ka faasla har jamavde aur har result ka ehsaas tay karna band kar de.
Jo isme jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: bachche achha karein, barson ki dekhbhal ginti jaye. Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo darshakon ka wazan hai, taaki bachche ki khabar seedhe shabdon mein kahi ja sake aur baat khaane ki or mud jaye.
Ghar mein ho ya kisi jamavde mein, buniyaadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, aapke liye bhi, bachchon ke liye bhi. Jahan kisi rishtedaar ke sawaal sachmuch teekhe ho jayein, wo gambheerta se lene laayak hai, aur chhota sa jawab dena theek hai.
Aise family gathering ki sochiye jisme is aas se chain hai: aapke paas kaun hoga, aur wahan kis baat ka maza aayega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agle jamavde ke liye ek zyada sachchi line #
“Mere bachchon ko sabke saamne mera sir ooncha rakhna chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah kuch log aisi line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mujhe apne bachchon ke insaan hone par garv hai, aur jawab chhota ho to bhi chalega.” Use jeetna nahi hai, bas purani line ke baghal mein baithna hai.
Shuru mein ye feeki lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ko pata chalta hai ki apne shabdon ki line waqt ke saath purani wali ke paas thodi jagah bana leti hai; kuch ko nahi, aur dono theek hain. Koi aur line hamesha aazmayi ja sakti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein kaun sa vaakya zyada sachcha hoga, jo garv ki chaah rakhe aur darshakon ka wazan halka kar de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch sawaal function mein hi reh sakte hain #
Jamavde ka har sawaal chamakdaar jawab maange, zaroori nahi. Kuch baatein dekhi ja sakti hain, ek minute mehsoos ki ja sakti hain, aur Kanpur ke kisi function ke ant mein kagaz ki plates ke saath peeche chhodi ja sakti hain, ya baraat ke baad tah hui kursiyon ke saath.
Kuch mehfilein sachmuch sunne wali nahi hotin, aur aapko parakhna nahi hai. Bachchon ke baare mein aapki raay aapki apni rehti hai. Jahan kisi rishtedaar ke sawaal sachmuch teekhe ho jayein, wo gambheerta se lene laayak hai, aur chhota sa jawab dena theek hai.
Aaj shaam ke liye use neeche rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya ki baat nipat gayi. Bas itna ki wo jamavda ghar tak aapke peeche-peeche nahi aana hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar darshak, zara se, shaant hote #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek paayedaan dheemi ho. Garv ki chaah ab bhi hai, par sawaal ek sawaal hai, imtihaan nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bachche ki baat seedhe shabdon mein keh dena aur baat khaane ki or mod dena, jamavde se pehle ek sachchi cheez soch lena jis par garv ho, ya lautte hue car mein koi halki baat karna.
Isme se kuch bhi kisi se kehna nahi hai. Jo ubhre wo aapka hai, dekhne laayak. Aage: is aas se chain ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag mehsoos hoga, chahe thoda hi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Log kuch chhoti cheezein aazmate hain #
- Is khayal ko apna koi naam dijiye, jaise “sabke saamne ka sir”
- Jawab taiyaar karte waqt dekhiye ki kiski awaaz bol rahi hai
- Aaj apne liye jo chaha, chahe kitna chhota, use gaur se dekhiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: ye jawab bachche ke baare mein hai, ya meri naak ke baare mein?
- Ek pal ke liye sawaal ko apne bachche ki jagah se suniye
Chhoti, nijee aur sab optional. Jo ho sake, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Function mein bachchon ko lekar kaun sa sawaal ab bhi saath rehta hai, aur kisne poocha tha?
- Jab bachche chhote the, tab aapko sabse zyada kis baat par garv tha, kisi ke dekhne se pehle?
- Bachchon ke baare mein sabse badhiya jawab sochte hue aap kiski manzoori dekh rahe hote ho?
- Agar sabke saamne garv jatane ki zaroorat thodi dheeli pade, to aapko sabse pehle kya dikhega?
- Aapke bachche bina kisi ke dekhe kya karte hain, jiska aap aur maza lena chahoge?