Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Kuch nirashayein isliye chubhti hain ki wo waade jaisi thin, bhale kisi ne kaha na ho.
Kuch logon mein ye us ghar se aati hai jahan wo pale: ek maa jo har baar apni maa ke saath khadi rahin, ya bhai-behen jo chacha ki awaaz ooncha hote hi ek ho jaate the.
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bachche mere kareeb hain to mere saath khade honge,” ya “Meri burayi hote hue chup rehna doosre ki taraf hona hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Baad mein jhagda dohrana, aur bachche ki chuppi sabse bura hissa ban jaana
- Bachche se wahi baat phir chhedna, is aas mein ki jawab alag mile
- Chupchaap hisaab rakhna ki barson mein kisne kiska paksh liya
- Aisa jatana ki kuch hua hi nahi, jabki wo agli mulaqaat mein daba rehta hai
- Paarivaarik jamavdon se bachna, taaki paksh chunne ki naubat hi na aaye
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
“Mama ki baat bhi galat nahi thi”
Sunday ko bhai ke ghar khaane par aapki bhai se behes ho gayi. Lautte hue aapki badi beti kehti hai, “Sach kahoon toh Mama ki baat bhi itni galat nahi thi.” Aap chup ho jaate ho. Aapko ummeed thi wo kahegi ki aap sahi the. Baaki raasta bahut lamba lagta hai. Ghar par aap behes aur uske shabd dohrate rehte ho, aur apne hi parivaar mein ajeeb sa akelapan lagta hai.
Bachche aapka paksh lein
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Bachchon ko ghar ke jhagde mein mera saath dena chahiye.” Ye swabhavik lagta hai. Parivaar ko saath khada hona chahiye, khaaskar jhagde mein. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: bachchon ko judge bana deta hai. Aapko apna saath mila ya nahi, ab un badon par tik jaata hai jo shayad sabse pyaar karte hain aur bas apni jagah se cheezein dekhte hain.
Unka saath pyaar kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain ki bachchon ka saath milna pyaar jaisa lagta hai. Shayad aapne apne maa-baap ka har paarivaarik jhagde mein saath diya tha. Shayad behes mein akele padne par aap chahte hain ki koi apna baghal mein khada ho. Dono haal mein, unka saath chahna swaarth nahi hai. Ye kam akelapan mehsoos karne ki chaah se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Chubhan jo behes se lambi chale
Har “Unki baat mein dam tha” behes se zyada der chubhta hai. Aap bachchon ko jhagde ki kahaniyon se parakhne lagte ho. Unke tatastha rehne par chot lagti hai. Chupchaap sochte ho ki wo baakiyon se zyada pyaar toh nahi karte. Dheere-dheere paarivaarik behsein aur logon ko kheenchti hain, aur bachchon se nazdeeki un jhagdon mein ulajh jaati hai jo kabhi unke suljhane ke the hi nahi.
Kya unka paksh zaroori hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochiye: kya unhein apni taraf chahne se kabhi behes aasaan hui? Ya zyadatar badi hui? Bade ho chuke bachche aksar parivaar mein sabse pyaar karte hain, aur kisi ek ko chunna nahi chahte. Jo bhi ho, unka nishpaksh hona aapke liye unke pyaar ka paimana nahi hai. Is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna aapko deta kam hai, leta zyada hai.
Wo sabse pyaar kar sakte hain
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki saath ki chaah khatam ho jaye. Matlab ye ki pyaar kiye jaane ka ehsaas ab unke paksh chunne par nahi tika. Aap unhein jhagde se bahar rehne de sakte ho, aur bas jaise wo hain, waise hi unke saath ka maza le sakte ho. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: bachche aapke bachche reh sakte hain, aapki jury nahi, aur aap usme sukoon pa sakte ho.
Basic respect and safety are never too much to expect; if anyone in the family is threatened, hurt or frightened, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleBachchon ko ghar ke jhagde mein mera saath dena chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere bachche sabse pyaar kar sakte hain. Ye mere khilaaf nahi.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Ek paarivaarik jhagda bachchon se door rakhiye
- Kadam 2
Bachchon ke saath ek achha pal yaad kijiye
- Kadam 3
Jhagda dohrane lagein to koi achhi baat sochiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kaun sa paarivaarik jhagda ab bhi dohrata hai, aur tab aapke har bachche kahan baithe the?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Jhagde ke baad uthne wali chaah #
“Bachchon ko ghar ke jhagde mein mera saath dena chahiye.” Ye aksar baad mein aati hai: Jaipur mein bade bhaiya ke yahan Sunday ke khaane ke baad lautte hue, ya mehmaanon ke jaane par jab chai ke glass ab bhi table par pade hon aur koi baat bigad chuki ho.
Sunne mein ye sabse seedhi wafadaari lagti hai: jinhein aapne paala-posa, wo zaroorat ke waqt paas khade dikhein. Isiliye khaane ki table par bachche ki chuppi kai baar rishtedaar ki kahi baat se zyada chubh jaati hai.
Ye khayal bachchon ke baare mein aakhri baar kab aaya, aur jhagda ghar ke kis rishtedaar se tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Table ke paar ek nazar #
Kai maa-baap ko ye garm, dhansate hue ehsaas ki tarah lagta hai: kisi rishtedaar ka teekha jumla, phir bade ho chuke bete ya beti ki taraf dekhna, aur unki nazar ka thaali mein gad jaana. Poore kamre mein apne hi log, phir bhi teen-teen ke saamne akele.
Kuch ko ye baad mein mehsoos hota hai, seedhiyon par ya car mein, jab bachcha kehta hai “Sabki baat mein dam tha” ya “Ab chhodiye na”. Chubhan pehle aa jaati hai, aur ye samajhna baad mein ki us pal unki kursi se kya dikh raha tha.
Pichhli baar jab aapne behes ke beech apne kisi bachche ki taraf dekha, to pehle ek second mein kya laga, kuch bhi kahe jaane se pehle?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Saath khade hona parivaar ki jaan lagta hai #
Ye ummeed isliye jaayaz lagti hai ki wafadaari hi parivaar ka matlab lagti hai. Barson tak school mein, teacher ke saamne, rishtedaaron ke beech bachche ka paksh lete rehne ke baad ye chahna swabhavik hai ki wo bhi badle mein paas khade hon.
Kuch nirashayein isliye chubhti hain ki wo waade jaisi thin, bhale kisi ne kaha na ho. Garm mahaul mein bachche ki chuppi us waade ke tootne jaisi lag sakti hai, jabki bachche ne use kabhi waada samjha hi na ho.
Agar us behes mein bachchon ka saath ek chhoti cheez hota, ek bol, ek nazar ya kandhe par haath, to wo kya hoti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo khaane ki table dohrati hai #
“Itna sab karne ke baad bhi ek shabd mere liye nahi.” “Inhein toh hamesha doosron ki baat theek lagti hai.” “Teen-teen ke saamne akele pad gaye.” Ye awaaz aksar lautti car mein bolti hai, ya raat ko unhin chand minuton ko baar-baar ghumati hai.
“Hamesha” aur “kabhi nahi” jaise shabd taazi chot mein aate hain, aur purani baatein bhi saath le aate hain, to ek dopahar barson ke jhagdon ke upar chadh jaati hai. Kai maa-baap dekhte hain ki bachche ki chuppi hi wo hissa hai jo sabse zyada lautta hai.
Jab awaaz us behes ko dohrati hai, to kis pal par rukti hai, aur aap chahte the ki bachcha us waqt kya bole?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Wafadaari ki tasveer kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon mein ye us ghar se aati hai jahan wo pale: ek maa jo har baar apni maa ke saath khadi rahin, ya bhai-behen jo chacha ki awaaz ooncha hote hi ek ho jaate the. Kuch parivaaron mein jhagde mein kaun kiske paas baitha, ye barson yaad rakha jaata hai.
Kuch mein ye ulte se aati hai: purane paarivaarik jhagdon mein khud akele khade rahe, aur chaha ki apne bachche aisa na hone dein. Kuch log aisi tasveer bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein use dekha ja sakta hai.
Aapke apne bachpan ka kaun sa paarivaarik jhagda tha jisne pehli baar dikhaya ki table par wafadaari kaisi dikhti hai, aur aapki jagah kahan thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Wo niyam jo har chuppi ko padhta hai #
Andar ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bachche mere kareeb hain to mere saath khade honge,” ya “Meri burayi hote hue chup rehna doosre ki taraf hona hai.” Pehla vaakya wo hai jo log sunte hain; neeche ka niyam tay karta hai ki table ki har chuppi ka kya matlab nikala jaye.
Ghar ke andar ye niyam jaisa dikhta hi nahi. Ye parivaar ki buniyaadi shakl jaisa lagta hai, aur kuch palon mein ye kaafi had tak jaayaz bhi hai. Isiliye ise dekhna theek hai, aapke bade ho chuke bachchon aur un jhagdon ke baghal mein jinke paas wo aaj khade hain.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein use dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ke paarivaarik jeevan mein bachchon ka saath dena kahan ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ek chup dopahar kya-kya dhoti hai #
Iska matlab haftom se dari hui mulaqaat ho sakta hai, ya khaane ki table par niwale ki jagah chehre padhte rehna, ya bade bachche ke saath phone par aisi baatcheet jiski har baat ke neeche purana jhagda daba ho. Kuch bhi shor wala nahi; sab kuch uthaya hua.
Bachche ke saath bhi kuch khisak sakta hai. Jab saath dene ka matlab aapke kareeb hona ban jaye, to bachche ka har tatastha shabd aapke khilaaf chunaav jaisa sunai de sakta hai, aur us bachche se rishta us jhagde ka bojh dhone lagta hai jo kisi aur se shuru hua tha.
Pichhle ek saal mein bachche ke saath kaun sa aam lamha us paarivaarik jhagde ke rang mein sabse zyada ranga raha, aur us lamhe mein aur kya ho sakta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Us dopahar ko dohrane ke paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Tuesday ki kalpana kijiye, us din ki jab “bachche mera saath dein” zor se sunai de. Ye bas dekhne ki ek tasveer hai, sudharne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad chai ubalte waqt wo dopahar phir chal rahi hai jab kisi ne aapka saath nahi diya, bade bachche se phone chhota aur sambhla hua, parivaar ke group chat mein padhna ki kisne kya likha, ek mulaqaat tay karke chupchaap aage khisaka dena.
Isme kisi jawab ki zaroorat nahi, aur tasveer ko kabhi bhi rakha ja sakta hai.
Usme kya hai: phone, message, purana jhagda, ankahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din mein kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhkar kya dikhta hai, agar kuch dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Saath dena, kis shakl mein? #
Kisi ka paksh lena ek se zyada shakalon mein ho sakta hai. Jo bachcha table par chup rehta hai aur agli subah phone karta hai, jo sabse banakar rakhta hai, jo kehta hai “Mujhe aap sab se pyaar hai”: kamre ke us paar se har ek paksh lena ya thukrana dikh sakta hai.
Us table par har kisi ke mann mein wafadaari ki alag tasveer ho sakti hai, aur bade ho chuke bachche apnon ke beech khud ko phansa paa sakte hain. Isse aapki chaah galat nahi hoti, sahi bhi nahi. Bas kamre mein kai tasveeron mein se ek reh jaati hai.
Table par chup chehre ke peeche paksh chunne ke alawa aur kya ho sakta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Bachche table se kya saath le jaate hain #
Kabhi-kabhi ye dekhna garmaahat deta hai ki aapke bachchon se pehle hi kya milta hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota ya betarteeb: mehmaanon ke jaane par bina kahe layi gayi chai, agle din ka koi message, kisi aur hi baat par saath ki hansi.
Ye koi farz ya karz nahi hai, aur isse chot mit nahi jaati: jaayaz chaah aur garm notice saath-saath reh sakte hain. Jhagdon se door roz ke dinon mein bina maange jo chhoti baatein hoti hain, shayad wahi dekhne laayak hain.
Kuch din kuch yaad nahi aata, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Kisi aam hafte mein, kisi behes se door, aapke bachche pehle se kya dete hain jise aap thoda aur dekhna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Sulah, aur jo jaayaz hai use rakhna #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki wo zyada thi, ya ki wo sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jis saath ki aapne aas ki aur jo table par hua, unke beech ka faasla bachchon se har mulaqaat aur har phone ko chalana band kar de.
Isme jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: apne bachchon ko paas mehsoos karna, apne parivaar mein suna jaana. Jo dheela ho sakta hai wo pakad hai, taaki ek chup dopahar bas ek dopahar rahe, is baat ka faisla nahi ki aap unke liye kya ho.
Buniyaadi izzat aur suraksha kisi bhi behes mein “zyada ummeed” nahi hai, aapke liye aur us table par baithe har kisi ke liye, bachchon samet. Parivaar mein kuch baatein achhi wajahon se, suraksha samet, chup rakhi jaati hain, aur iski ijaazat hai.
Sochiye, is chaah se sulah kiye hue ek paarivaarik khaane ki tasveer: aapki jagah kahan hoti, aur kis cheez ka maza le rahe hote?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Ghar lautte waqt ka ek sachcha vaakya #
“Bachchon ko ghar ke jhagde mein mera saath dena chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah kuch log aisa vaakya taiyaar rakhte hain: “Mera mann tha ki wo us raat paas khade hon, aur ab bhi har ek ke kareeb rehne ka mann hai.” Use jeetna nahi hai, bas purane ke baghal mein baithna hai.
Jhagde ki raat ye feeka lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki apna vaakya waqt ke saath purane ke baghal mein thodi jagah bana leta hai; kuch ko nahi lagta, aur dono theek hain.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo chot ke baare mein imaandaar ho aur phir bhi har bachche ke kareeb rakhe?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch jhagde almari mein wapas rakhe ja sakte hain #
Har paarivaarik behes ko agli mulaqaat se pehle suljhana ya dohrana zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, thodi der mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur rakh diya ja sakta hai, jaise Jaipur mein mehmaanon wale kaanch ke glass wapas almari mein saja diye jaayein.
Parivaar mein kuch baatein achhi wajahon se, suraksha samet, chup rakhi jaati hain, aur iski ijaazat hai. Jo chot aap apne tak rakhein wo phir bhi asli chot hai, aur jaanne laayak hai.
Aaj shaam ise rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya sulajh gaya. Bas itna ki har baar phone bajne par wo jhagda aapke aur bachchon ke beech baitha rahe, ye zaroori nahi.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar saath ki zaroorat ek paayedaan dheeli ho #
Bas ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ummeed ek paayedaan shaant hai. Mehsoos karne ki chaah ab bhi hai, par ek chup dopahar bas ek chup dopahar hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: us dopahar ko us ek pal ke saath yaad karna jab kisi ne aapki taraf dekha tha, bade bachche ke saath bas uske hafte ki baat karta phone, ya mulaqaat ko khaane aur chehron ke liye saraahna.
Isme se kuch kisi ko kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi uthe, aapka hai, aur dekhne laayak hai. Aage: is chaah se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, zara sa bhi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Purane jhagde ko apna koi chhota naam dijiye, aur gaur kijiye ki kab aata hai
- Jab jhagda dohraya jaye, gaur kijiye ki wo baar-baar kis pal par lautta hai
- Aaj apne liye jo ek chhoti cheez chahi thi, use gaur se dekhiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochiye: us pal paksh se neeche mujhe asal mein kya chahiye tha?
- Bas ek pal ke liye us table ko apne bachche ki kursi se dekhiye
Chhoti, nijee aur sab optional. Jo ho sake, wahi aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kaun sa paarivaarik jhagda ab bhi dohrata hai, aur tab aapke har bachche kahan baithe the?
- Us pal aapko apne bachche se sabse zyada kya sunna tha, shabd-dar-shabd?
- Jab aap chhote the, parivaar ke jhagdon mein aapke paas kaun khada hota tha, aur kaisa lagta tha?
- Agar bachchon ke paksh lene ki zaroorat thodi dheeli ho, to aap sabse pehle kya dekhoge?
- Kisi jhagde se door, apne kisi bachche ke saath ka kaun sa chhota pal aap aur jeena chahoge?