Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Ye aksar unse aata hai jo hamein pehle se jaante hain: bua, purane dost, wo colleague jinhein pehli job yaad hai.
Kuch ne bachpan se suna: “Zyada hawa mein mat udo,” “Pair zameen par rakho,” “Apni chaadar dekhkar pair phailao.”
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Zyada chahne se pehle mujhe apni jagah kamani hogi,” ya “Meri jagah wahin hai jahan se shuru kiya tha.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Saath mein hans dena aur keh dena ki bas aise hi ek bachkana idea tha
- Agla plan tab tak chhipakar rakhna jab tak wo ho na jaaye
- Dugni mehnat karna, taaki sawaal galat sabit ho
- Plan ko itna chhota kar dena ki us par koi kuch na bole
- Hafton tak wo pal dohrana, har baar behtar jawab dete hue
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Bua ki hansi, aapka plan
Rakhi ka din. Bua aayi hain, mithai ka dibba abhi khula hi hai. Chai par aap batate ho ki ghar se baking ka kaam shuru karna hai. Bua hans padti hain: “Bade aaye business karne wale! Khud ko kya samajhte ho, Ambani?” Phuphaji muskura dete hain, cousins bhi. Subah jo plan itna achha lag raha tha, ab bachkana aur bahut bada lagta hai. Aap baat badal dete ho, aur raat tak gin chuke hote ho ki ye kyun nahi chalega.
Ummeed se ooncha mat socho
Pehle saaf baat: wo line theek nahi thi, aur wo is baare mein kuch nahi kehti ki aap kya kar sakte ho. Par isse ek niyam ug sakta hai, jo aapka apna ban jaata hai: “Log jitna sochte hain, usse ooncha nahi sochna.” Zyadatar log is par sir hila denge. Ye zameen se juda hona lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har bada sapna badhne se pehle hi kaat diya jaata hai, aksar aapke hi haathon.
Alag dikhne par udi hansi
Hum aisa niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki kabhi alag dikhne par hansi udi thi. Ye bahut aam-si chaah hai. Shayad aapse kaha gaya, “Zyada hawa mein mat udo.” Shayad aapne dekha ki zyada chahne walon ko kaise neeche khincha gaya. Surakshit rehne ke liye chhota bane rehna bewakoofi nahi. Ye apnon mein jagah banaye rakhne ki chaah se aata hai. Ise dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har baar thoda chhota hota plan
Har aisi line kisi plan ko thoda aur chhota kar deti hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par andar lagta hai. Aap idea chhipakar rakhne lagte ho, doston se bhi. Aazmane se pehle hi khud ko mana lete ho. Zyada chahne par jhenp hoti hai. Jo sapne aazmaye ja sakte the, un par dhool jamne lagti hai, aur doosron ko apne sapnon ke peeche jaate dekh ek chupchaap-si chidh uthti hai.
Kya sapna chhota karna is laayak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya is niyam ko pakadne se kabhi mann zyada shaant raha? Ya zyadatar isne aapke plan daraz mein band rakhe? Kuch bada aazmane ki ichha kisi ko bhi ho sakti hai. Wo line bua ki thi, aap par koi faisla nahi. Ye bina kisi dosh ke, dheere se poochhne laayak hai. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna us keemat ke laayak hai jo ye maangta hai?
Sapnon ko ijaazat hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki har plan sabko batana hai, ya jo kaha gaya use maan lena hai. Matlab ye ki aapke sapnon ko ab kisi ki manzoori nahi chahiye. Aap apne liye, chupchaap, ek chhota kadam utha sakte ho. Ye ek jhatke mein nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Wahin se kuch chain lautta hai: aapke plan aapke rehte hain, aur aap khud dekhte ho ki kya kar sakte ho.
Being put down again and again, threatened, hurt or frightened by someone close is not okay and is worth taking seriously; keeping plans private can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleLog jitna sochte hain, usse ooncha nahi sochna.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleMere sapnon ko ijaazat hai. Ek chhota kadam uthaya ja sakta hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Kisi plan par chupchaap ek chhota kadam uthaiye
- Kadam 2
Khud se us ek cheez ka naam lijiye jo aazmane ka mann hai
- Kadam 3
Ek sapna sirf apne liye rakhiye, aur uska maza lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Wo sawaal aane se theek pehle aapne kya bataya tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Koi badi baat batate hi chaar shabd #
Apna kaam shuru karne ka plan, stage par lead role ke liye utha haath, nayi gaadi, bahar se Masters, family mein rakhi koi raay. Phir jawab aata hai, kabhi hansi ke saath: “Khud ko kya samajhte ho?” “Bade aaye!” Aur plan achanak sambhalne ke liye bahut bada lagne lagta hai.
Ye sawaal jaisa dikhta hai, par jawab ka intezaar koi nahi karta. Ye plan ke baare mein poochhta hi nahi. Ye poochhta hai ki batane wale ki itna chahne ki aukaat hai bhi ya nahi, aur poora kamra jaise jawab sunne ko aage jhuk jaata hai.
Aakhri baar ye suna, tab aapne theek pehle kya bataya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sawaal se pehle wo plan kitna bada lagta tha, aur uske baad kitna?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sochne se pehle log sikud kyun jaate hain #
Kisi ka chehra garam ho jaata hai, kandhe zara jhuk jaate hain, aur saara josh ek second mein utar jaata hai. Koi hanskar keh deta hai, “Arre, bas aise hi socha tha,” koi chup hokar baat badal deta hai. Isme zaroorat se zyada nazuk hone jaisa kuch nahi.
Jo log hamein bachpan se jaante hain, unke saamne kaata jaana tez aur gehra lagta hai, aksar sochne se pehle. Jawab baad mein soojhte hain, ghar lautte hue, aur saath mein ek chupchaap-si ichha ki agla plan apne tak hi rakhein.
Un pehle secondon mein aapke sharir ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur sawaal poochhe jaane ke baad ke dinon aur hafton mein khud us plan ka kya hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ye plan chhodkar chahne ke haq par ungli uthata hai #
“Is plan mein yahan kami hai” ek plan ki baat hai. “Khud ko kya samajhte ho” plan ko chhodkar seedha insaan par jaata hai, ki use itna ooncha sochne ki ijaazat hai bhi ya nahi. Mann ise idea par raay nahi, apni jagah par faisla sunta hai.
Ye aksar unse aata hai jo hamein pehle se jaante hain: bua, purane dost, wo colleague jinhein pehli job yaad hai. “Kal tak toh cycle par tuition jaate the.” Apne purane roop se naapa jaana kisi ajnabi ke shak se zyada chubhta hai, kyunki wo jaante hain ki shuruaat kahan se hui.
Agar plan par toh baat hi nahi hui, to us pal wo sawaal aapke liye asal mein kis baare mein tha, aur baad mein aapne usse kya matlab nikaala?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Jab sawaal khud se poochha jaane lage #
Baar-baar suno to ye kisi plan ke bataye jaane se pehle hi chalne lagta hai. “Meri kya aukaat?” “Chhota munh, badi baat.” “Hum jaise log ye sab nahi karte.” Sawaal pehle aata hai, aur plan chhota ho jaata hai.
Relative door hon, phir bhi jaanch chalti hai: kisi application se pehle, kisi pitch se pehle, thasathas local mein khade-khade apne kaam ka rate sochte hue. Ye kisi aur ka sawaal nahi, samajhdaari lagne lagta hai, aur isiliye ise maanna itna aasaan hai.
Kisi plan ko batane se theek pehle jab ye poochhta hai ki ye chahne wale aap hote kaun ho, to awaaz kiski hoti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki apni, ya wo jo raaste mein kahin se utha li?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Kuch logon ke liye chhat bachpan mein hi tay ho gayi #
Kuch ne bachpan se suna: “Zyada hawa mein mat udo,” “Pair zameen par rakho,” “Apni chaadar dekhkar pair phailao.” Kuch ne dekha ki ooncha sochne wale kisi relative par khaane ki table par hansi udi, aur chupchaap seekh liya ki zor se zyada chahna khatre ka kaam hai.
Kuch parivaaron aur mohallon mein alag dikhne ko saavdhaani se dekha jaata hai, aur iski wajahein har jagah alag hain. Bachcha chupchaap ye nateeja nikaal leta hai ki uski jagah tay hai, aur usse aage haath badhaya to kisi ki nazar padegi aur use kaat diya jaayega.
Zyada chahna pehli baar kab musibat mol lene jaisa lagne laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aur tab aap kamre ya table ke us paar kiska chehra dekh rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Ek chupchaap niyam, jis par shayad aap chal rahe ho #
Neeche ek maanyata baith sakti hai: “Zyada chahne se pehle mujhe apni jagah kamani hogi,” ya “Meri jagah wahin hai jahan se shuru kiya tha.” Kuch iska teekha roop dhote hain: “Ek din sabko dikhana hai, phir dekhna.”
Aisi maanyataayein maanyata jaisi lagti hi nahi. Wo vinamrata lagti hain, ya practical soch, ya zid, aur isiliye inhein bahar nikalkar dhoop mein dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah se ise dekha ja sakta hai: haath badhaya to taana milega, to chupchaap badhao ya badhao hi mat.
Ye kin kamron mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Chhota bane rehne ki saal bhar ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai kabhi na bheji gayi application, bahut kam rakha gaya rate, promotion ke baare mein kabhi na poochha gaya sawaal, aur plan jo tab tak chup rakhe gaye jab tak tippaniyon se surakshit na ho. Kuch ko dikhta hai ki wo har achhi baat ko pehle hi chhota kar dete hain, isse pehle ki koi aur kare.
Ek dheemi keemat bhi hai: kaamyabi jiska maza na liya ja sake. Jab zyada chahna khatra lage, to manzil tak pahunchkar bhi khushi ki jagah jhijhak aati hai, aur kuch log apni hi achhi khabar kandhe uchkakar taal dete hain.
Ye kamzori ki wajah se nahi. Aage badhte hue khud ko roke rakhne mein bahut taaqat lagti hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein is sawaal ki keemat kya rahi: koi plan jo chhota kar diya, koi jeet jo chup rakhi, koi mauka jo jaane diya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, chhota bane rehte hue #
Kisi aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “pehle apni jagah kamani hai” andar zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shayad browser ke kisi tab mein khuli padi ek application, apne kaam ka rate jo type karke phir ghata diya, call par kandhe uchkakar batayi gayi koi achhi khabar. Shayad ek idea jo baad ke liye rakh liya, utne size mein jis par koi kuch na bole.
Yahan kisi cheez ka abhi jawab nahi chahiye, aur tasveer jab chahein neeche rakh sakte hain.
Usmein kya hai: kaam, baatein, plan jo aazmaye hi nahi gaye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Use dekhte hue, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Sawaal ka jawab hai, aur wo aapke paas hai #
Agar shabdon par jaayein, to sawaal theek hai, aur iska jawab sirf ek insaan de sakta hai: jiska plan hai. Kya chahiye, kya seekha, kya aazmane ka mann hai, ye rakhi par baithe kisi aur ko bahar se nahi dikhta.
Zyada chahna doosron ko kam samajhna nahi hai. Kuch log ooncha sochte hain aur phir bhi apni jadon ke paas rehte hain, aur ek nayi job, ek business ya ek raay ka kisi aur ki zindagi par tippani hona zaroori nahi.
Ek aur nazar: agar kisi dost ne aapko yahi plan bataya hota, to aap chahte ki unke aas-paas ke log unse kaun-sa sawaal poochhein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise jaldi pehchanna
Gaur se dekhne par logon ko kya dikhta hai #
Jab log us pal ko dheere-dheere dekhte hain, to kuch ko dikhta hai ki plan par toh baat hui hi nahi. Kisi ne nahi poochha ki chalega kaise, kya lagega, ya ye kyun maayne rakhta hai. Bas chahne ke haq par sawaal utha.
Kuch ko wo log yaad aate hain jinhone unke plan mein sachchi dilchaspi li: ek teacher, ek manager, ek dost jisne detail poochhi. Jab ek teekha sawaal zyada zor se baje, to ye awaazein yaad mein dheemi pad jaati hain.
Kisne, ek baar bhi, aapke plan ka taane ki jagah dilchaspi se swagat kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Wo kaisa laga, aur uske baad aapne khud ko kya karte paaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Isse sulah
Sawaal ko galat sabit karne ki zaroorat nahi #
Sulah ka matlab chhota bane rehne par raazi hona nahi, na ye dikhana ki sawaal chubha nahi. Matlab bas itna ki uska is par kam chale ki aap apne plan kitne bade hone dein, aur baad mein unke baare mein kaisa mehsoos karein.
Kuch logon ko halka lagta hai jab wo sawaal ko galat sabit karne ki koshish chhodte hain.
Jo zindagi zyadatar “sabko dikhana hai” ke liye ji jaaye, wo kaisi dikhegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya kisi aur ko jawab dene ke liye bana plan phir bhi apna lagega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaisa lagega agar aap jo chahte ho, bas isliye chahein kyunki aap chahte ho, chahe agli rakhi par koi use pasand kare ya na kare?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Paas rakhne ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
Agar “meri kya aukaat” saalon se andar baj raha hai, to usse seedhe ladne ki zaroorat nahi. Kuch log iske bajaye ek line taiyar rakhte hain: “Zyada chahne ki ijaazat mujhe bhi hai, aur ye dhoondhne ki bhi ki kya jachta hai.”
Zaroori nahi ki ye abhi se sach lage. Bas purane vaakya se zyada sahi hona kaafi hai, aur kuch logon ko lagta hai ki dheere se aur baar-baar kehne par ye purane vaakya ki thodi jagah le leta hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo aapki chaahat ke baare mein sahi ho, bina kisi ko kuch sabit kiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch cheezein bas neeche rakhi ja sakti hain #
Har taane ko palatwaar, kaamyabi ki kahani ya use galat sabit karne ka plan nahi chahiye. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, ek pal mehsoos kiya ja sakta hai, aur neeche rakha ja sakta hai, jaise lambe din ke baad bhaari bag farsh par rakh dete hain.
Ye haar maanna nahi hai. Ye chunna hai ki aapki taaqat kahan lage, aur kuch log kehte hain isse un plan ke liye zyada jagah bachti hai jinki unhein sach mein parwah hai, na ki unke liye jo kisi sawaal ka jawab dene ko bane.
Shaam bhar ke liye sawaal ko neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo theek tha, ya baat suljh gayi. Bas itna ki wo aaj baaki har cheez mein saath na chale.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar niyam thoda bhi dheela ho #
Sirf ek tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki niyam ek darja dheema ho gaya hai. Zyada chahna ab bhi tolne wala faisla hai, par wo ek sawaal lagta hai, chhat nahi.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: diary mein asli size mein likha ek plan, ek achhi khabar jiska poori shaam maza liya, ya kisi dilchaspi lene wale dost se chai par kisi idea ki baat.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai, aur gaur karne laayak hai, chahe kitna bhi chhota lage. Agar ise theek se dekhna chahein, to baatcheet bas ek tap door hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Jab sawaal dobara baje, chupchaap naam dijiye: “Lo, phir wahi aukaat wali jaanch”
- Ek pal ke liye plan ko uske poore size mein sochiye, bina kaate-chhaante
- Gaur kijiye ki us pal mein kya zyada zor se laga: shabd, ya kehne ka lehja
- Kisi ek insaan ko yaad kijiye jisne aapke kisi plan mein sachchi dilchaspi li
- Aaj ki ek chhoti-si cheez par dhyaan dijiye jo aapne chahi, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
Chhote, personal aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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