Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Humein lagta hai log humein jitna dekhte hain usse zyada dekhte hain, isliye budbudaya hua namaste poore kamre ke liye faisle jaisa lag sakta hai ki bachche ko kaise pala gaya, aur paalne walon ko bhi.
Kuch logon ke liye ye bachpan se shuru hui: har aane wale mehmaan ke saamne line mein khade hokar “Namaste karo”, maa ki wo nazar jiska matlab tha “Khade ho jao”, aur bado ka kehna “Kitna sanskaari bachcha hai”.
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bachche kaise pesh aate hain, usi se pata chalta hai ki main kaisa maa-baap hoon,” ya “Wo tameez se rahein to ghar ki garmjoshi bani rehti hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Gaadi mein hi bachchon ko samjha dena ki kise kya kehna hai
- Rishtedaar ke sawaal ka jawab bachche se pehle khud de dena
- Kamre mein bachche ki chuppi par hans dena, aur lautte waqt gaadi mein uthana
- Poori dopahar bachchon par nazar rakhna, mehfil ka maza liye bina
- Bachchon ko ghar par hi chhod jaana, taaki poora jhanjhat hi na rahe
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Kone mein phone wala beta
Sunday ko Indore mein behen ke ghar get-together. Aapka beta Badi Bua ko jhatpat “Namaste” bolkar kone mein phone mein gum ho jaata hai. Mama kuch poochhte hain, wo kandhe uchka deta hai. Bua ki nazar aap par jaati hai aur aapka chehra garam ho jaata hai. Aap use bulakar muskurate ho aur sabse maafi maangte ho. Lautte hue gaadi mein poore raaste sharmindagi aur chupchaap kheej rehti hai.
Bachche adab se pesh aayein
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere bachchon ko rishtedaaron se adab se pesh aana chahiye.” Ye bilkul waajib lagta hai. Tameez maayne rakhti hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: achhe maa-baap hone ka aapka ehsaas bhare kamre mein bachche ke bartaav se baandh deta hai. Ab get-together theek lagenge ya nahi, ye us kishor par tika hai jo sharmila, thaka ya bas ooba hua ho sakta hai.
Tameez izzat jaisi kyun lagti hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki tameez izzat jaisi lagti hai, aur izzat maayne rakhti hai. Shayad aapko har bade ko dhang se namaste karna sikhaya gaya tha, aur wo aaj bhi zaroori lagta hai. Shayad fikr hai ki rishtedaar aapki parvarish ke baare mein kya sochenge. Jo bhi ho, adab wale bachche chahna purane khayal ki baat nahi. Ye apne parivaar ke liye izzat aur nazdeeki ki chaah se aata hai. Ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Har uchke kandhe par parakhe jaana
Har uchka kandha aapko parakhe jaane jaisa lagta hai. Aap har get-together se pehle bachchon ko taiyaar karne lagte ho. Poori shaam un par nazar rakhte ho, apna maza chhodkar. Unki taraf se maafi maangte ho, phir gaadi mein poore raaste un par jhunjhlate ho. Dheere-dheere paarivaarik mulaqatein ek aisa pradarshan ban jaati hain jo aap par tika hai, aur jinse milne gaye the unke saath aap aaram se baith nahi paate.
Kya ye fikr shaam ke laayak hai?
Imaandari se poochhiye: kya unhein tameez wala hona zaroori maanne se get-together kabhi aasaan hue? Ya zyadatar aap aur chaukanne ho gaye? Bachche aksar kam milne wale rishtedaaron ke saamne sharmile ya atpate hote hain, aur ye badtameezi nahi hai. Jo bhi ho, kone mein uchke kandhe aapki parvarish ka paimana nahi. Is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna aapko deta kam, leta zyada hai.
Ek naram yaad dilana kaafi hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki achhi tameez sikhana band. Matlab ye ki aapka chain har pal ke theek jaane par nahi tika. Aap ek baar narmi se yaad dila sakte ho, baaki chhodkar un logon ke saath shaam ka maza le sakte ho jinse milne aaye the. Yahin thoda chain lautta hai: aap parivaar ke saath apni tarah ho sakte ho, duty par tainaat kisi ki tarah nahi.
Basic respect and safety at home are never too much to expect; if anyone is ever threatened, hurt or frightened, that is something else, and worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleMere bachchon ko rishtedaaron se adab se pesh aana chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleEk naram yaad dilana kaafi hai. Shaam ka maza lena theek hai.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Agle get-together se pehle ek baar narmi se kahiye, phir aaram kijiye
- Kadam 2
Kisi pasandida rishtedaar se ek baatcheet ka maza lijiye
- Kadam 3
Bachche ki adab wali koi ek chhoti baat notice kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kaun sa paarivaarik get-together ab bhi dimaag mein hai, aur pahunchte hi darwaaze par kya hua tha?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Ek khayal jo dehleez par intezaar karta hai #
“Bachche rishtedaaron se dhang se milein.” Ye khayal aksar doorbell se pehle aa jaata hai: Indore mein Badi Bua ke ghar Sunday ka khaana, gate par chappalon ka dher, aur darwaaza khulte hi mobile mein gadi kishor ki nazar.
Us pal ye niyam jaisa nahi lagta. Lagta hai jaise achhe ghar ki pehchaan: ek namaste, theek-sa jawab, aur bade aayein to nazar utha lene wala bachcha. Itna aam lagta hai ki ummeed jaisa lagta hi nahi.
Bachchon aur rishtedaaron wala ye khayal aakhri baar kab aaya tha, aur tab aap kiske darwaaze par the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Kandhe uchakne se pehle ki garmi #
Kuch maa-baap ko kandhon mein kasaav-sa lagta hai, jab chachi kuch poochhein aur jawab sirf kandhe uchakna ho, ya jab teen ghante gaadi chalakar aaye mama ko bachcha “Hi” farsh ki taraf dekhkar bol de.
Ehsaas soch se pehle aa jaata hai: chehra garam, khisiyayi-si hansi, haath bachche ke kandhe ki taraf aur munh se “Dhang se namaste karo” nikal chuka. Sochna baad mein hota hai, lautte waqt gaadi mein.
Pichhli baar jab aapke bachche ne kisi rishtedaar ko ek shabd mein jawab diya, to kuch bhi kehne se pehle ke pehle secondon mein aapko kya mehsoos hua?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Namaste mein ghar ka swagat hota hai #
Ye ummeed waajib isliye lagti hai ki kai gharon mein tameez hi pyaar jatane ka tareeka hai. Ek achha namaste aane walon ke liye chhota tohfa lagta hai, aur ghar ki mehmaannawazi ko zinda rakhta hai.
Ek aur dhaaga aksar hota hai. Humein lagta hai log humein jitna dekhte hain usse zyada dekhte hain, isliye budbudaya hua namaste poore kamre ke liye faisle jaisa lag sakta hai ki bachche ko kaise pala gaya, aur paalne walon ko bhi.
Jab aapka bachcha kisi rishtedaar ke saamne chup ho jaata hai, to aap kiski raay sochne lagte hain, aur aapko kya lagta hai ki wo kya dekh rahe hain?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Poore kamre ko sunne wali awaaz #
“Log kya kahenge?” “Hum to bado se aise baat nahi karte the.” “Ek dhang ka namaste bhi zyada hai kya?” Ye awaaz get-together ke dauran bolti hai, chhote jawab ke baad ki chuppi mein, aur gaadi ke darwaaze band hote hi aur zor se.
“Chahiye” tab bhaari lagta hai jab usme aur awaazein bhi hon. Kai maa-baap ko lagta hai ki bachche par nazar rakhne wali awaaz unki apni kam aur dadi, bua ya poore kamre ki zyada hai.
Jab ye awaaz paarivaarik get-together mein aapke bachche ko dekhti hai, to kamre ke us paar kiski nazrein sochti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Adab wale bachche ki tasveer kahan se aati hai #
Kuch logon ke liye ye bachpan se shuru hui: har aane wale mehmaan ke saamne line mein khade hokar “Namaste karo”, maa ki wo nazar jiska matlab tha “Khade ho jao”, aur bado ka kehna “Kitna sanskaari bachcha hai”. Kuch gharon mein wo tareef ek chhota inaam hoti thi.
Kuch ke liye ye ulti chubhan se bani: kisi jamavde mein barson pehle suna “Kisne pala hai ise?”, kisi cousin ke baare mein ya khud unke baare mein. Aisi tasveerein chhoti umar mein bhi ban sakti hain aur baad mein bhi, aur dono tarah dekhi ja sakti hain.
Apne bachpan ki kaun si daawat ne sabse pehle sikhaya ki rishtedaaron ke saamne bachche ko kaise rehna chahiye, aur tab kaun dekh raha tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Wo niyam jo mulaqat ko pariksha banata hai #
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Bachche kaise pesh aate hain, usi se pata chalta hai ki main kaisa maa-baap hoon,” ya “Wo tameez se rahein to ghar ki garmjoshi bani rehti hai.” Pehla sentence sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har namaste aur har chhota jawab kaise padha jaye.
Ye niyam aksar seedhi achhi tameez jaisa dikhta hai. Isme ghar ki aur bachche ki jagah ki parwah lagti hai, aur aksar sachmuch ki parwah hoti bhi hai. Isiliye ise aaj ke bachchon ke saath rakhkar dekhna theek hai.
Kuch log aise niyam ko chhoti umar se jodte hain, kuch nahi. Dono tarah ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Bachchon ki tameez wala niyam kin paarivaarik get-togethers mein ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kinmein nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Har get-together ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ki cousin ke birthday ke khaane mein apni behen se baat karne ki jagah bachche ko dekhte rehna, jaate waqt hidayatein dena, lautte waqt har namaste par baat karna. Kuch natakeey nahi, phir bhi ek dopahar ke liye bahut kuch dhona.
Kuch aur bhi badal sakta hai. Jab har mulaqat tameez ki pariksha ban jaati hai, to kuch maa-baap dekhte hain ki bachche bhi get-togethers se pehle akadne lagte hain, aur jis garmjoshi ko bachana tha, wo mez par mushkil se milti hai.
Pichhle ek saal mein kaun sa paarivaarik get-together bachchon ki tameez dekhte rehne ke rang mein sabse zyada ranga raha, aur dekhte-dekhte aapse kya chhoot gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Darwaaze ko takte paanch aur saal #
Ek aam Sunday sochiye, us din jab “Mere bachche rishtedaaron se adab se pesh aayein” zor se bol raha ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ki cheez nahi.
Shayad red light par hidayatein, har baar chachi ke sawaal par mez ke neeche kohni, kandhe uchakne ko dhakti hansi, apni cousin behen se baat adhoori chhodkar bachche par nazar, aur lautte hue poore din ka dobara chalna.
Ye bas ek tasveer hai, aur ise kisi bhi waqt band kiya ja sakta hai.
Usme kya hai: jaane ka raasta, namaste, sawaal, ankahi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us dopahar mein kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Sunday mein aapko kuch alag dikhta hai, to kya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Adab, kis shakl mein? #
Garmjoshi har bachche mein alag dikh sakti hai. Koi sabse zor se namaste karta hai, koi kam bolta hai par paani le aata hai, koi sabse bujurg ke paas baithkar sunta hai. Kuch chup bachche poore waqt dhyaan se sab dekh rahe hote hain.
Jo humein bheetar se saaf dikhta hai, wo doosron ko aksar nahi dikhta, aur ye dono taraf sach hai. Bachche ki jhijhak kamre ke doosre kone se badtameezi lag sakti hai, aur maa-baap ki fikr thake hue bachche ko sakhti.
Rishtedaaron ke saamne bachchon se aap jo-jo chahte hain, usme sabse zaroori hissa kaun sa hai, aur kaun sa aapki sochi tasveer se zyada chup dikh sakta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Bachche parivaar ko pehle hi kya dete hain #
Kabhi-kabhi ye dekhna achha lagta hai ki aapke bachche bade parivaar ko pehle hi kya dete hain, chahe chhota ya betartib: cousin ke nanhe ko aangan mein ghumana, dadaji ko phone ka game dikhana, bina kahe thaaliyan utha lena.
Ye kisi ka bakaya nahi, aur ise dekhne se ummeed chhoti nahi hoti; dono saath baith sakti hain. Shukrguzaari hamesha shabdon mein nahi aati, aksar log ek-doosre ke liye jo karte hain usme rehti hai, isliye bachche ki garmjoshi namaste se zyada kaam mein dikh sakti hai.
Kuch din kuch yaad nahi aata, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapka bachcha paarivaarik get-together mein pehle se kya laata hai, jise aap thoda aur dekhna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Sulah, aur garmjoshi bachaye rakhna #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki ye bahut zyada thi, ya ki ye sahi thi. Matlab ye ki jis namaste ki aapne ummeed ki thi aur jo mila, uske beech ka faasla har get-together aur uske baad lautti har gaadi ko chalana chhod de.
Isme jo waajib hai wo reh sakta hai: bachche un logon se narmi se pesh aayein jo unhein chahte hain, aur ghar ki mehmaannawazi bani rahe. Jo dheeli ho sakti hai wo pakad hai, taaki chhota-sa namaste chhota-sa namaste rahe, aur dopahar aapki apni rahe.
Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “bahut zyada ummeed” nahi hoti. Kisi bachche ko kisi ko gale lagana ya choomna zaroori nahi; namaste ya haath hila dena kaafi hai. Agar bachcha kisi ek khaas insaan se door rehta hai, to baat daba dene ki jagah use notice karna theek hai.
Sochiye, is ummeed se sulah wala paarivaarik khaana: aap kisse baat kar rahe honge, aur dopahar ki kaun si cheez aapko achhi lag rahi hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Dehleez ke liye ek zyada sachchi line #
“Mere bachchon ko rishtedaaron se adab se pesh aana chahiye” se behes karne ki jagah, kuch log ek line taiyaar rakhte hain: “Ummeed hai wo parivaar se narmi se pesh aayein, aur unki narmi unhi jaisi sunayi de.” Ye jeetne ke liye nahi hai, bas purani line ke bagal mein khadi hoti hai.
Shuru mein ye feeki lag sakti hai. Kuch logon ko apni line bheed bhare darwaaze par dheere-dheere aasaan lagne lagti hai; kuch ko kabhi poori baithti nahi, aur koi aur line hamesha aazmayi ja sakti hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein ek zyada sachchi line kya hogi, jo garmjoshi ki ummeed rakhe aur bachche ko apne tareeke se dikhane ki jagah de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch get-together bas get-together reh sakte hain #
Har atpate namaste par aaj raat baat karna zaroori nahi. Kuch ko bas dekh liya jaye, pal bhar mehsoos kiya jaye aur rakh diya jaye, jaise Indore mein darwaaze par chhoota mithai ka dabba, ya lambe safar ke baad katori mein rakhi gaadi ki chaabiyan.
Aisi ummeed jab tak chahein niji reh sakti hai, aur phir bhi aapki hai. Agar bachcha kisi ek khaas insaan se door rehta hai, to use notice karna theek hai, baat daba dena nahi.
Aaj shaam is khayal ko rakh dene ka matlab ye nahi ki kuch galat hua hi nahi, ya ki baat tay ho gayi. Bas itna ki ek chhota-sa namaste baaki hafte tak aapke peechhe nahi chalna chahiye.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar nazar zara dheeli pade #
Sochiye, bas tasveer ki tarah, ummeed ek paayadaan dheemi hai. Garmjoshi ki chaah ab bhi hai, par get-together mein chup bachcha bas chup bachcha hai.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: jab aap sabzi ka dongga aage badhayein, bachche ko apne chhote andaaz mein jawab dene dena, kisi kam milne wale cousin se lambi baat, ya lautte hue khaane aur qisson ki baat.
Isme se kuch kisi se kehna zaroori nahi. Jo bhi saamne aaye, wo aapka hai aur notice karne laayak hai. Aage: is ummeed se sulah ka matlab kya ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya halka-sa alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Doorbell baje to dekhiye ki aap kis baat ke liye taiyaar ho rahe hain
- Chhota jawab aaye to dekhiye ki pehle kiski raay sunayi deti hai
- Get-together se apni koi ek chhoti-si chaahat notice kijiye
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: mujhe ummeed thi ki namaste kya dikhayega?
- Khud ko unki umar mein sochiye, bado se bhare kamre mein sawaalon ke beech
Chhote aur sab apni marzi se. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kaun sa paarivaarik get-together ab bhi dimaag mein hai, aur pahunchte hi darwaaze par kya hua tha?
- Koi rishtedaar aapke bachchon ki tameez ko parakh raha ho, to aap kiska chehra sochte hain?
- Aapke apne parivaar mein tameez wala bachcha kaisa dikhta tha, aur kiski tareef hoti thi?
- Bachchon ki tameez wali ummeed thodi dheeli ho, to sabse pehle aap kya notice karenge?
- Aapke bachche get-togethers mein pehle se kaun si garm cheez laate hain, jiska aap aur maza lena chahenge?