Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Chubhan ka ek hissa ye hai ki baat nijee lag sakti hai.
Kuch logon ke liye ye ek bhare-poore, shor wale, pyaar bhare ghar se aati hai jahan rasoi ki khushboo, gaane aur darwaze par chappalon ka dher bas zindagi ka hissa the.
Aksar neeche ek niyam baitha hota hai: “Jiyo aur jeene do,” ya “Chhoti baaton par shikayat karna theek nahi.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Apne hi ghar mein dabe paanv chalna, taaki unhein koi wajah na mile
- Har baar ghanti par chaunk jaana
- Bilkul aam baaton ke liye bhi maafi maangna
- Jo bhi sune usse shikayat karne wale ki shikayat karna
- Kuch pakwaan banana, gaane sunna ya mehmaanon ko bulana band kar dena
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Khisakayi kursi ki shikayat
Sunday ki shaam Jaipur ke ek flat mein. Ghanti bajti hai. Neeche wali padosan phir se, is baar raat nau baje khisakayi gayi kursi ke baare mein. Pichhle hafte chhaunk ki gandh thi, usse pehle hall mein khadi aapki cycle. Aap maafi maangkar darwaza band karte ho, aur galiyare mein khade reh jaate ho, dil dhadakta hua aur chehra garam.
Har baat par shikayat nahi karni chahiye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Padosiyon ko har chhoti baat par shikayat nahi karni chahiye.” Ye jaayaz lagta hai. Paas-paas rehne mein dono taraf se thoda len-den chalta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapka ghar aisi jagah ban jaata hai jahan aap hamesha pakde jaane wale ho. Har kadam, har kadhai, har mehmaan chinta ki cheez ban jaata hai.
Ghar aaramdeh kyun hona chahiye
Hum ye niyam isliye pakadte hain kyunki ghar aaramdeh hona chahiye, jahan paanv phailaye ja sakein. Shayad aap pehle se doosron ka lihaaz rakhne ki poori koshish karte ho, jitna kisi ko pata bhi nahi chalta. Shayad aapka bachpan aise mahaul mein beeta jahan padosi chhoti baatein hanskar taal dete the. Thodi dheel ki chaah laparwahi nahi. Ye apne ghar mein khulkar rehne ki chaah hai, aur ise narmi chahiye, dosh nahi.
Apne hi farsh par dabe paanv
Har shikayat aapko thoda aur satark bana deti hai. Aap apne hi farsh par dabe paanv chalte ho. Ghanti bajte hi chaunk jaate ho. Pakate hue unke shabd dohrate ho. Doston ko bulana hi band kar dete ho. Dheere-dheere ghar katghare jaisa lagne lagta hai, aur wo aasaan, aaramdeh ehsaas kho jaata hai jo aapne yahan aate waqt chaha tha.
Kya dabe paanv chalna theek hai?
Imaandaari se khud se puchhiye: kya shikayaton ke rukne ka intezaar karne se ghar kabhi aasaan laga? Ya zyada-tar apne hi kamron mein tanaav badha? Kuch log awaaz aur gandh se bahut jaldi pareshaan hote hain, aur kuch apni fikrein dhote hain. Pakka koi nahi keh sakta. Shikayat ye nahi batati ki aap kaise rehte ho. Is niyam ko itna kaskar pakadna kya sahi hai?
Lihaaz bhi, azaadi bhi
Chhodne ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki shikayatein jaayaz hain. Matlab ye ki ghanti tay nahi karti ki ghar mein aap kaisa mehsoos karein. Aap samajhdaari bhar lihaaz rakh sakte ho, aur phir bas apni zindagi jee sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: flat phir aapka ban jaata hai, aur darwaze ki dastak bas dastak rehti hai, aapke baare mein faisla nahi.
Complaints about what you cook, how you dress, who visits or where you come from, or being watched or frightened at home, are not a matter of living quietly; they are worth taking seriously.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleHar chhoti baat par shikayat nahi karni chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleLihaaz rakhte hue bhi ghar mein khulkar raha ja sakta hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Ghanti baje to darwaza kholne se pehle ek dheemi saans lijiye
- Din 2
Aaj ek aisa kaam kijiye jisse ghar aaramdeh lage
- Din 3
Khud se kahiye: “Yahan mera khulkar rehna theek hai”
Is par baat karni hai?
“Ghar par aap kahan sabse zyada aaram se rahe ho, aur kyun?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Shaam aath baje ki ghanti #
Jaipur, Mansarovar ka flat. Shaam ke aath baje ghanti bajti hai. Phir wahi padosan: darwaze ke bahar ke joote “bikhre pade hain”, chhaunk ki gandh “bahut tez hai”, balcony mein kapde sukhana “theek nahi”. Darwaza band karte hue aap sochte ho: “Padosiyon ko har chhoti baat par shikayat nahi karni chahiye.”
Kai logon ke liye ye chaah asal mein apne hi ghar mein aaram se rehne ki hai. Har ghar mein thodi awaaz, thodi gandh, thoda bikhraav hota hai. Jab har chhoti baat shikayat ban jaye, to ghar aisi pariksha ban sakta hai jisme aapne naam hi nahi likhwaya tha.
Aisa koi ghar ya society yaad kijiye jahan aap poori tarah nishchint the.
Wahan rehna itna aasaan kyun lagta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Ghanti par chaunk padna #
Kuch logon ko shaam ki ghanti par jhatka lagta hai, ye jaanne se pehle hi ki kaun hai. Kuch ko peephole se padosi ka chehra dikhte hi jabda kas jaata hai.
Sharir dimaag se pehle harkat karta hai: jaldi se joote seedhe karna, khidki jhatpat band karna, darwaza kholne se pehle gehri saans. Lambe khayal aksar darwaza band hone ke baad aate hain.
Pichhli baar jab kisi padosi ne chhoti-si baat ki shikayat ki, to kisi bhi soch se pehle aapke sharir ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Ghar ko ghar jaisa lagna chahiye #
Bina lagataar shikayaton ke rehne ki chaah samajhdaari ki jagah se aati hai. Ghar wo jagah hai jahan insaan satarkta dheeli karta hai. Jab har awaaz, gandh aur joota gina aur bataya jaye, to aaram karne ka koi pal hi nahi bachta.
Chubhan ka ek hissa ye hai ki baat nijee lag sakti hai. Ek shikayat jhatak di jaati hai. Par lagataar aati shikayatein aisi lag sakti hain jaise kisi ne tay kar liya ho ki aapka ghar samasya hai, aur wo saboot jama kar raha hai.
Ek aam hafta ghar par kaisa lagta, agar koi kabhi kisi baat ki shikayat ke liye ghanti na bajata?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Darwaze ke peechhe ki awaaz #
“Ab kya?” “Kya apne hi ghar mein chain nahi mil sakta?” “Main kuch bhi karoon, unhein kabhi sahi nahi lagta.” Ye awaaz ghanti bajte hi sabse tez hoti hai, aur padosi ke jaane ke baad bhi bolti rehti hai.
Ye gaur karna kaam aa sakta hai ki awaaz aadhi kheej hai aur aadhi nazar mein rakhe jaane ka ehsaas. Kheej shikayat ke baare mein hai. Nazar mein rakhe jaane ka ehsaas zyada bhaari hai, aur use alag se dekh lena chahiye.
Jab darwaze ke peechhe ki awaaz bolti hai, to andar se wo kis baat se sabse zyada thaki hai, aur use uski jagah kya chahiye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Chain se rehne ki chaah kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon ke liye ye ek bhare-poore, shor wale, pyaar bhare ghar se aati hai jahan rasoi ki khushboo, gaane aur darwaze par chappalon ka dher bas zindagi ka hissa the. Unhi baaton par toka jaana aisa lag sakta hai jaise aap jo ho usi par toka gaya.
Kabhi ye bachpan se aati hai jahan ghar ya school mein bahut sudhara gaya. Har baat mein meen-mekh nikalne wala padosi wo purana ehsaas jaga sakta hai ki kuch bhi sahi nahi hota.
Aapki zindagi mein kahan aap sabse zyada befikr hokar bas ghar par rahe, aur wo aisa kaise laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Jiyo aur jeene do ka niyam #
Aksar neeche ek niyam baitha hota hai: “Jiyo aur jeene do,” ya “Chhoti baaton par shikayat karna theek nahi.” Ye jaayaz niyam hai. Par kuch logon ko har chhoti baat bahut zyada chubhti hai, apni sehat, apni fikron ya parvarish ki wajah se.
Niyam reh sakta hai. Uske baghal mein ek aur sach reh sakta hai: jo padosi bahut shikayat karta hai, wo aksar zindagi ki kai baaton se pareshaan hota hai, sirf aapse nahi.
Jiyo aur jeene do ka aapka niyam aapki society mein kahan baithta hai, aur kahan har shikayat ko hamla bana deta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Lagataar shikayatein kya le jaati hain #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai ghar mein dabe paanv chalna, pasand ki cheezein chhod dena, ya har shaam pet mein gaanth. Mahino mein thoda-thoda karke ye ghar ko aisi jagah bana deta hai jahan sambhalkar rehna pade, aaram karna nahi.
Ye apne baare mein aapki nazar bhi rang sakta hai. Agar koi baar-baar kehta rahe ki kuch galat hai, to “bura padosi” wala label maan lena aasaan ho sakta hai.
Pichhle mahine ke baare mein sochiye: ghar par kab aap poori tarah nishchint the, aur tab aap kya kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ghanti ke intezaar mein aur shaamein #
Bas ek tasveer, isse zyada nahi. Aage kabhi shaam ke aath baje ghanti bajti hai, aur aap ye jaanne se pehle hi chaunk padte ho ki kaun hai.
Shayad khidkiyan band karke pakaya gaya khaana, gaane ekdam dheeme, ek mehmaan jise bulaya nahi gaya, sote waqt ek lambi saans.
Is drishya mein kuch bhi tay nahi, aur ise aap kabhi bhi neeche rakh sakte ho.
Us shaam ka baaki hissa kaisa hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us shaam mein aur kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhte hue aapko sabse pehle kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Shikayati insaan aksar bahut kuch dhota hai #
Jo log bahut-si chhoti baaton ki shikayat karte hain, wo aksar kisi baat se joojh rahe hote hain: kam neend, dard, bahut fikr, ya ye ehsaas ki apni zindagi par zor nahi chal raha. Darwaze ke bahar ki chhoti cheezein wo jagah ban sakti hain jahan ye sab aakar girta hai.
Isse shikayatein jaayaz nahi ho jaatin, aur khulkar rehna chaahna sahi hai. Matlab ye ho sakta hai ki shikayatein aapke jooton se zyada unke dinon ke baare mein hain.
Agar aap sochein ki padosi ka pichhla saal bahut mushkil raha, to ghanti ki awaaz aapko kaisi lagegi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo sukoon pehle se hai #
Shikayaton ke baghal mein kuch shaant aaram shayad pehle se maujood hai: koi padosi jise kabhi kisi baat se dikkat nahi, ek kamra jahan aap apni marzi se reh sakte ho, mehmaan jo aapke khaane ki taareef karte hain, ek Sunday jab ghanti baji hi nahi.
Yahan kuch nahi kehta ki shikayatein sahi hain; chain se rehne ki chaah ab bhi jaayaz hai. Ye chupchaap sach bhi hain, aur aapke ghar ka hissa hain.
Aapke ghar mein kisi shaant din kya pehle se aasaan aur aaramdeh hai, jise aap aur mehsoos karna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Apne roop mein, apni raftaar se rehna #
Sulah ka matlab shikayaton ko jaayaz maan lena nahi. Bas itna ki ghanti tay na kare ki ghar mein aap kaisa mehsoos karte ho. Aap jo pakate ho, pehente ho, jo mehmaan aate hain, ya aap kahan se ho, us par shikayatein jo aapke swaroop se judi hon, chupchaap rehne ki baat nahi; unhein gambhirta se lena chahiye.
Agar koi padosi aapko dhamkaye, pareshaan kare, aapka saamaan bigaade, peechha kare ya nazar rakhe, ya aap jo ho us wajah se alag nishaana banaye (dharm, jaati, rang, aap kahan se ho, ya koi viklangta), to wo kuch aur hai, aur use gambhirta se lena chahiye; saavdhaan rehna surakshit chunaav ho sakta hai.
Darwaze ke neeche dara dene wale note, ya roz ki zindagi ke liye doosron se aapki shikayat kiya jaana bhi chhoti shikayatein nahi hain; unhein bhi gambhirta se lena chahiye.
Ghar par buniyaadi izzat aur suraksha kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti, na aapke liye, na aapke padosiyon ke liye.
Ek aisi shaam ki kalpana kijiye jahan ye ummeed zara halki hai: aap kya pakaa rahe ho, aur kiske liye?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Ghanti ke liye ek vaakya #
“Padosiyon ko har chhoti baat par shikayat nahi karni chahiye” ke baghal mein kuch log rakhte hain: “Apne ghar mein aam zindagi mera haq hai, aur unki shikayat unke hi dhone ki cheez hai.” Pehla vaakya jaayaz rehta hai. Doosra wazan lauta deta hai.
Shuru mein ye diler lag sakta hai. Kuch log ise chhota karke “aam zindagi ki ijaazat hai” kar lete hain. Kuch apne ghar ke hisaab se shabd dhoondh lete hain.
Aapka apna sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo jaayaz chaah bhi rakhe aur aapko ghar mein apne roop mein rehne de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Shikayat dehleez par reh sakti hai #
Har shikayat ko aapke saath andar aana zaroori nahi. Kuch ko suna ja sakta hai, chhota-sa jawab diya ja sakta hai, aur wahin dehleez par chhoda ja sakta hai jahan wo kahi gayi thi.
Chain se rehne ki chaah reh sakti hai. Jo shikayatein aapke swaroop ka peechha karein, dhamkiyan, pareshaan karna, tod-phod, peechha kiya jaana ya nazar rakhi jaana, ya daraane wale note, wo kuch aur hain, aur unhein gambhirta se lena chahiye; saavdhaan rehna surakshit chunaav ho sakta hai.
Shikayat ko dehleez par chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki wo jaayaz thi. Matlab ye ki aapki shaam aapki ho sakti hai.
Aap uske saath kya karna chahenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar ghanti ka dabdaba thoda kam ho #
Wahi shaam sochiye, ummeed thodi halki rakhi hui. Ghanti bajti hai, aap apne roop mein apni raftaar se darwaza kholte ho, aur shikayat ko wapas andar dhoye bina darwaza band kar dete ho.
Kisi ke liye ye aisa khaana hai jiska swaad phir ghar jaisa hai. Kisi ke liye gaane phir apni aam awaaz mein.
Ye aapke aur aapke beech ki baat hai. Aage: yahan sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur aapke jeevan mein pehle se kya hai.
Kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapka pehla chhota sanket kya hoga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Ghar par karne ki ek cheez chuniye jo aapko pasand hai, aur use jaan-bujhkar maze se kijiye
- Aisa ghar yaad kijiye jahan aap bilkul nishchint the, aur uski tasveer banaiye
- Dhyaan dijiye kab awaaz ek shikayat ko “mujhse kuch bhi sahi nahi hota” bana deti hai
- Kalpana kijiye ki padosi ka saal bahut bhaari ja raha hai
- Mann mein apne ghar ki ek aam baat ka naam lijiye jo use aapka banati hai
Sirf aapke liye, aur kaam ki lage tabhi. Ek kaafi hai.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
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