Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Jis kaam mein hum pakke hain, uski mehnat kisi ko dikhti nahi.
Kuch logon ke liye ye kisi teacher se shuru hua jisne kaha, “Aaram se, hum intezaar kar lenge,” aur sach mein kiya.
Vichar ke neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Naye logon ke liye jagah banani chahiye,” aur uske bagal mein ek dheema-sa doosra: “Mujhe jagah ki zaroorat hi nahi padni chahiye.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Line se baar-baar maafi maangna
- Chhodkar counter wale aadmi ke paas chale jaana
- Agli baar us nayi cheez se bachna, chahe usse kaam aasaan hota
- Ghar par chupchaap abhyaas karna taaki galtiyan koi na dekhe
- Jhat se bol padna, “Kar to rahe hain jitna jaldi ho sake”
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Tiraahe par lamba horn
Jaipur mein scooter chalane ka pehla hafta. Tiraahe par aap zara rukte ho, raasta samajh nahi aata, aur peeche se lamba horn bajta hai. Koi khidki se kuch chillata hai. Haath handle kas lete hain, chehra tapne lagta hai, aur baaki raaste bhar ghabrahat bani rehti hai, jaise poori sadak dekh rahi ho ki aapse galti hui.
Seekhte waqt mile thoda waqt
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Seekhte waqt log mujhe thoda waqt dein.” Ye bilkul jaayaz lagta hai. Sab kahin se shuru karte hain. Par dekhiye ye kya karta hai: aapka bharosa anjaan logon ke haath mein de deta hai. Har horn ya aah is baat ka faisla ban jaati hai ki aapse hoga ya nahi, aur nayi cheez seekhna bheed ke saamne rassi par chalne jaisa lagne lagta hai.
Seekhna itna khula kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye thamte hain kyunki seekhna hamein khula hua-sa mehsoos karata hai. Shayad koi teacher yaad ho jisne aapko poora waqt diya tha. Shayad aap khud naye logon ko waqt dete ho. Jo bhi ho, seekhte waqt thodi narmi chahna kamzori nahi hai. Ye galti karke sahi tak pahunchne ki jagah chahne se aata hai. Ise izzat milni chahiye, ilzaam nahi.
Naye raaston se katraana
Har horn ya ghoorti nazar seekhna aur mushkil kar deti hai. Aap vyast sadkon se ya office ke naye kaam se katraane lagte ho. Us pal ko baar-baar dohrate ho. Shuru karne se pehle hi ghabrahat rehti hai. Jis cheez ko shuru karke garv tha, wo aise imtihaan jaisi lagne lagti hai jisme aap baar-baar fail hote ho, aur kuch din sab chhod dene ka mann karta hai.
Kya unki narmi ka intezaar theek hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: anjaan logon ke naram hone ka intezaar karne se kya seekhna aasaan hua? Ya zyada-tar ghabrahat badhi? Jaldi mein pade anjaan log aksar jaante hi nahi ki kaun seekh raha hai, aur doosri gaadi mein kya chal raha hai, ye koi nahi jaan sakta. Ek horn is baat ka paimana nahi ki seekhna kaisa chal raha hai. Kya is niyam ko itni kaskar pakde rakhna theek hai?
Seekhne ka waqt khud ko dena
Chhodne ka matlab ye maan lena nahi ki horn bajana theek hai. Matlab ye ki kisi anjaan ki besabri ab tay nahi karti ki aapka seekhna kaisa mehsoos ho. Jitna waqt chahiye, wo aap khud ko de sakte ho, bhale koi aur na de. Har galti abhyaas ka hissa hai. Yahin thoda sukoon lautta hai: apni raftaar se seekhte rehna, har chhote kadam par thaharkar santosh ke saath.
Being harassed, followed, filmed, touched or grabbed, or picked on for who you are is something else again; it is worth taking seriously, and moving away can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleSeekhte waqt log mujhe waqt dein.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleKhud ko seekhne ka waqt dena mere haath mein hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Galti ke baad mann mein kahiye, “Abhi seekh rahe hain”
- Din 2
Koi ek cheez dekhiye jo ab aati hai, pehle nahi aati thi
- Din 3
Agli koshish se pehle ek dheemi saans lijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Kisne aapko kuch naya badi narmi se sikhaya, aur kaise?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Scanner nahi chalta, aur peeche se awaaz aati hai #
Indore mein Sunday ki subah, sabziwale ka thela. QR scan karte hain to screen par “payment pending” aata hai, teesri baar. Peeche se koi kehta hai, “Jaldi kijiye bhaiya.” Haath akad jaate hain, phone girte-girte bachta hai. Mann mein baat aati hai: “Seekhte waqt log mujhe thoda waqt dein.”
Ye kisi naye shehar mein metro card ki machine par ho sakta hai, scooter chalane ke pehle mahine mein, office ke naye software par, ya bank ke passbook-printing kiosk par. Sabke saamne seekhna yaani anjaan logon ke saamne atakna.
Kisne aapko nayi cheez seekhte waqt waqt diya tha, aur aisa kya kiya ki atakna aasaan ho gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Wo haath jo achanak bhool jaate hain #
Kuch logon ko chehra garm hota lagta hai aur ungliyan jawab de jaati hain, jaise sab kuch ek saath bhool gaya ho. Kuch ko bas kisi bhi tarah nipta dene ki hadbadi hoti hai, taaki wo pal khatam ho.
Peeche ki awaaz chhoti ho tab bhi bahut badi lag sakti hai. Seekhte hue dekhe jaane ko shareer aksar bhaagne ki cheez maan leta hai, aur wahi hadbadi agla kadam aur mushkil kar deti hai.
Pichhli baar jab seekhte waqt kisi ne jaldi machayi, tab aapke haathon aur chehre ne sabse pehle kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Naya to har koi kabhi tha #
Ye chaahat samajh mein aati hai. Har hunar dheeme se shuru hota hai. Naye hone ki thodi jagah milna hi wo tareeka hai jisse koi bhi kisi cheez mein maahir hota hai. Ek aah ya jaldbaazi se lagne lagta hai ki nausikhiya hona mana hai.
Seekhna khula hua-sa bhi lagta hai. Jis kaam mein hum pakke hain, uski mehnat kisi ko dikhti nahi. Jab hum naye hote hain, to har galat button sabke saamne hota hai. Anjaan logon ki zara-si narmi us khulepan ko surakshit bana deti hai.
Jab kisi ne aapko seekhte waqt waqt diya, to nayi cheez kitni jaldi samajh mein aane lagi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Wo awaaz jo har aah sun leti hai #
“Sab mera intezaar kar rahe hain.” “Mujhse itna bhi kyun nahi hota?” “Baaki sab kitni aasaani se kar lete hain.” Awaaz aksar kisi anjaan ki aah ko aapki samajh par faisla bana deti hai, aur line hat jaane ke baad bhi tiki rehti hai.
Gaur karne layak baat ye hai ki ye awaaz line ke kisi bhi aadmi se kahin zyada sakht hoti hai. Us anjaan ne ek baar aah bhari aur bhool gaya. Awaaz us aah ko rakhkar ghar ke raaste bhar dohrati hai.
Jab aap kisi cheez mein naye hote ho aur awaaz shuru hoti hai, to pehli line kaun si hoti hai, aur kiski awaaz jaisi lagti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Waqt mila, ya nahi mila #
Kuch logon ke liye ye kisi teacher se shuru hua jisne kaha, “Aaram se, hum intezaar kar lenge,” aur sach mein kiya. Kuch ke liye ulta hua: aisi class jahan dheeme hone par hansi udti thi, aur jaldi karne ki aadat bachpan mein hi pad gayi.
Jagahein bhi alag hoti hain. Kahin line mein log chupchaap intezaar karte hain jab tak koi anjaan aadmi samajh na le. Kahin raftaar tez hai aur sabse ummeed hai ki saath chalein. Tez jagah mein naya hona dheemi jagah se kahin bhaari lag sakta hai.
Shuru ke saalon mein kisne seekhne ko surakshit mehsoos karaya, aur galti hone par usne kya kaha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Naye hone ke baare mein ek niyam #
Vichar ke neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Naye logon ke liye jagah banani chahiye,” aur uske bagal mein ek dheema-sa doosra: “Mujhe jagah ki zaroorat hi nahi padni chahiye.” Dono niyam ulti disha mein kheenchte hain, aur dono ek saath zor se ho sakte hain.
Kuch log ise bachpan mein jaldi machaye jaane se jodte hain, kuch aisi naukri se jahan galti ki keemat bhaari thi. Jo bhi ho, aise niyamon ko ek-ek karke dekha ja sakta hai.
Naye hone wala niyam kahan waqt maangne mein aapki madad karta hai, aur kahan har atkan ko imtihaan bana deta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Seekhte waqt jaldi machne ki keemat #
Nayi cheez tal jaati hai. QR wala app waise hi band pada rehta hai, machine se bachkar counter ki line chuni jaati hai, bhasha “Dhanyavaad” aur “Kitne ka hai” par atki rehti hai. Har tali hui koshish agli ko bada bana deti hai.
Kuch log dekhte hain ki wo sabke saamne seekhna hi chhod dete hain aur nayi cheez tabhi aazmate hain jab koi aaspaas na ho. Isse aahon se to bachat ho jaati hai, par duniya ka bahut-sa hissa pahunch se bahar reh jaata hai.
Dekhe jaane ke ehsaas ki wajah se aapne kaun si nayi cheez taal rakhi hai, aur wo aapke liye kya khol deti?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Seekhne ki ek dopahar, peeche aahon ke saath #
Koi saadharan dopahar sochiye, kaam-niptare wali, jab “Seekhte waqt log mujhe thoda waqt dein” zor se baj rahi ho. Machine, line, naya app. Ye bas ek khaaka hai, dekhne ke liye.
Shayad aap machine par atakte ho, peeche aahein uthti hain, card galat dal jaata hai, aur ghar ka raasta usi ko dohrate katta hai. Shayad staff wala counter hi akela counter ban jaata hai.
Ye ek tasveer hai, andaza nahi, aur kabhi bhi band ki ja sakti hai.
Us dopahar mein aur kya-kya hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhkar aap kya gaur karte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Line apne hi din ke baare mein soch rahi hai #
Hamein lagta hai log hamein jitna dekhte hain, asal mein usse bahut kam dekhte hain. Jisne aah bhari, wo der se pahuncha ho sakta hai, thaka ho sakta hai, ya apne hi phone par jhunjhla raha ho. Ek minute baad zyada-tar lines ko yaad nahi rehta ki dheema kaun tha.
Isse aah suhani nahi ho jaati, aur waqt maangne ki aapki chaahat kam jaayaz nahi ho jaati. Bas itna ki wo pal aapki yaad mein unki yaad se kahin bada ho sakta hai.
Agar ek ghante baad peeche wale ki tasveer sochein, to uske mann mein aap kya maante ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo waqt pehle hi mil chuka hai #
Kuch aise pal ho sakte hain: dukaan wale ne machine chalakar dikhayi, bus ke conductor ne sikke dhoondhne tak intezaar kiya, office ke saathi ne system do baar bina jhunjhalaye samjhaya.
Ye jaldbaazi wale palon ko mitate nahi, aur zyada waqt ki chaahat bhi bani rehti hai. Ye bas seekhne ki kahani ka hissa hain, aur aasaani se bhool jaate hain.
Haal mein ya bahut pehle, kisne aapke seekhte waqt jagah banayi, aur uske baare mein aap kya yaad rakhna chahoge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Naya hone ki jagah, bhale na mile #
Yahan sulah ka matlab ye maan lena nahi ki aapko zyada tez hona chahiye. Seekhne ke liye jagah chahna jaayaz hai. Jo badal sakta hai, wo ye ki aap kiski ghadi se seekhein: line ki, ya apni.
Izzat aur suraksha kabhi zyada maangna nahi hote, aapke liye bhi aur har us insaan ke liye jo kisi cheez mein naya hai. Seekhte waqt boli ya lehje par mazaak udaya jaana raftaar ki baat nahi hai.
Agar koi pareshan kare, peecha kare, video banaye, chhue ya pakde, bheed mein sate, ya aap jo hain uski wajah se nishaana banaye (gender, jaati, dharm, rang, umar, disability, ya aap kahan se hain), to ye alag baat hai. Ise gambhirta se lein; hat jaana ya madad lena surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Agli baar sabke saamne kuch naya aazmate hue, is chaahat ko thode halke haath se thame hue sochiye: aah aati hai, aur aap kis cheez ko apna waqt dene dete ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Scanner ke saamne ke liye ek pankti #
“Seekhte waqt log mujhe thoda waqt dein” ke bagal mein kuch log ek pankti rakhte hain: “Ye mere liye nayi cheez hai, aur nayi cheez mein waqt lagta hai.” Use jeetna nahi hai. Wo bas pehli pankti ke saath baithi rehti hai.
Line lambi ho to ye bahut naram lag sakti hai. Kuch log apni ek chhoti pankti chunte hain, itni chhoti ki phone haath mein ho aur kah di jaaye.
Aap apne shabdon mein kaun si sachchi pankti likhoge, jo thodi jagah bhi maange aur apni raftaar se seekhne bhi de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Atkan thele par hi reh sakti hai #
Har atkan ko dohrana zaroori nahi. Use ek pal mehsoos karke peeche chhoda ja sakta hai, jaise sabzi ki parchi thaile mein daalkar bhool jaate hain.
Seekhne ke liye jagah ki chaahat aapke paas reh sakti hai. Seekhte waqt aap jo hain uski wajah se mazaak ya pareshani jhelna alag baat hai, aur use gambhirta se lena theek hai.
Aaj ise jaane dene ka matlab ye nahi ki jaldi machana theek tha, ya kuch suljh gaya. Bas itna ki agli koshish naye sire se shuru ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar jaldi ki pakad thodi dheeli pade #
Ek pal ke liye mann mein sochiye: wahi machine, wahi beep, wahi aah. Aap utna waqt lete ho jitna zaroori hai, screen theek se padhte ho, aur bhugtaan ho jaata hai.
Bahut chhota kuch ho sakta hai: haath zara sthir, machine par halki-si hansi, ghar lautte hue kisi aur baat ka khayal.
Jo bhi dikha, wo aapka hai, use kisi darshak ki zaroorat nahi. Aage ke cards is chaahat se sulah aur jo pehle se maujood hai use dekhte hain.
Sabse pehle kya badalta dikhega?Is par baat kijiye ›
Inmein se kaun sa aapko sabse apna lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch shaant cheezein jo aazmayi ja sakti hain #
- Is hafte ek nayi cheez ko utna waqt lene dijiye jitna lage, bas ek baar
- Koi aah sunayi de to mann mein us ehsaas ke liye ek seedha shabd dhoondhiye
- Koi cheez yaad kijiye jisme pehle dheeme the aur ab wo aasaan hai
- Aise anjaan ko dekhiye jisne kisi aur ko seekhne ka waqt diya
- Gaur kijiye ki jaldi ki ye awaaz kiski awaaz jaisi hai
Chahein to ek chun lijiye. Kaam aaye to theek, na aaye to bhi theek.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Kisne aapko kuch naya badi narmi se sikhaya, aur kaise?
- Abhi aap kya seekh rahe ho jis par chupke se garv hai?
- Sabse mushkil cheez jo aapne seekhi, wo kya thi aur kisne madad ki?
- Agar sabke saamne dheeme hone se zara kam farq padta, to aap aage kya aazmate?
- Is saal aapne kya seekh liya hai jiska aap khud ko shrey dena chahoge?