Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Sorry jaise chhote shabd anjaan logon ke beech bahut kaam karte hain.
Kuch logon mein ye un mummy-papa se aayi jo dukaan mein kisi anjaan se takrane par wapas bhejkar sorry kehlwate the.
Vichaar ke neeche koi niyam ho sakta hai: “Kisi ko chhuo to maafi maango,” ya “Shareef insaan hamesha sorry bolta hai.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Saamne wali peeth ko tanz mein chillana: “Sorry!”
- Mudkar tab tak ghurna jab tak wo nazar se ojhal na ho jaye
- Din bhar kohniyan thodi chaudi karke chalna
- Train mein use dohrana, har baar aur gusse mein
- Tay kar lena ki poore shehar ki tameez khatam ho gayi
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Aasteen par behti chai
Dopahar ka waqt, Mumbai ke Crawford Market ki ek bhari gali. Jaldi mein nikalta koi aapke kandhe se zor se takrata hai, aur chai aapki aasteen par beh jaati hai. Wo rukta nahi. Mudkar dekhta bhi nahi. Aap footpath par bheegi aasteen aur tez dhadkan ke saath bheed mein use jaate dekhte ho, aur seene mein achanak garam gussa uthta hai.
Takkar par logon ko sorry kehna chahiye
Iske neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Takrane par logon ko sorry bolna chahiye.” Ye bilkul jaayaz lagta hai. Bas ek shabd. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: aapki dopahar ko ek anjaan ki tameez par nirbhar bana deta hai. Aap uski badtameezi office tak le jaate ho, wo pal dohrate ho, aur aasteen ka daag poore din ka daag ban jaata hai.
Sorry izzat jaisa kyun lagta hai
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki sorry basic izzat jaisa lagta hai. Bahut log iska koi roop bachpan se lekar chalte hain, aur tab ye theek bhi tha. Shayad aapko har takkar par maafi maangna sikhaya gaya, tab bhi jab galti aapki na ho. Shayad aap khud hamesha sorry bolte ho. Jo bhi ho, sorry chaahna nakhre nahi hai. Ye insaan ki tarah dikhne ki chaah se aata hai, rukawat ki tarah nahi, aur ise dosh nahi, narmi milni chahiye.
Har takkar ki kheej
Har bina maafi wali takkar thodi kheej jodti hai. Bahar se kuch nahi dikhta, par aap mehsoos karte ho. Bheed mein aap bachaav ki chaal chalne lagte ho. Us pal ko lift mein dohrate ho. Logon ke baare mein thode zyada kadwe hone lagte ho. Jin bhari galiyon ko aap kabhi romanchak paate the, wo dushman-si lagne lagti hain, aur aap agle kandhe ke liye tane hue pahunchte ho.
Kya ye kheej dhona theek hai?
Khud se imaandaari se poochiye: kya sorry ke intezaar se takkar kabhi kam chubhi? Ya wo pal bas lamba khinch gaya? Jaldi mein log bina jaane bhi takra jaate hain. Pakka koi nahi keh sakta. Jo bhi ho, na mila sorry aapki keemat ka paimana nahi. Kya ye niyam itna kasakar pakadna, poori dopahar wo pal dhone ke laayak hai?
Takkar bas ek takkar hai
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki tameez maayne nahi rakhti. Matlab ye ki ek laparwah anjaan ab poori dopahar aapke saath nahi rehta. Aap aasteen ponchh sakte ho, ek saans le sakte ho, aur aage badh sakte ho. Ye ek jhatke mein nahi hota, aur hona zaroori bhi nahi. Yahin kuch sukoon lautta hai: takkar bas ek takkar reh jaati hai, jaldi bhooli hui, aur aapka din aapka bana rehta hai.
Being harassed, followed, filmed, touched or grabbed, or pushed up against in a crowd is not a bump; it is worth taking seriously, and moving away can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleTakrane par logon ko sorry bolna chahiye.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleTakkar bas takkar hai. Mera din chalta rehta hai.
Teen chhote din
3 din try kijiye #
- Din 1
Takkar ke baad ek dheemi saans lijiye aur aage badh jaiye
- Din 2
Ek aise anjaan par gaur kijiye jo sorry bolta hai
- Din 3
Mushkil pal ke baad apne liye ek achhi cheez kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Bheed mein kisi anjaan ne aapke liye sabse achhi baat kya ki hai?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Station par kandha takraya, aur ek shabd nahi #
Mumbai, Dadar station ki subah ki bheed. Bada-sa bag liye koi ghoomta hai aur aapke kandhe se zor se takra jaata hai. Cutting chai haath par chhalak jaati hai. Wo mudkar dekhta bhi nahi. Baat lagbhag zubaan par aa jaati hai: “Takrane par logon ko sorry bolna chahiye.”
Aisa bhare bazaaron mein hota hai, escalator par, airport ki line mein, school ke gate par. Takkar ek second ki hoti hai. Jo reh jaata hai, wo hai na bola gaya “sorry”.
Kab kisi anjaan se takrahat hui aur usne itne pyaar se sorry kaha ki chehre par muskaan aa gayi, aur usne kya kiya tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Sabse pehle body tan jaati hai #
Kuch logon ki gardan ke peechhe garmi ki lehar daud jaati hai. Kuch ka baazu akad jaata hai, ya wo jhatke se mudkar dekhte hain. Takkar par body ka reaction isse bahut pehle aa jaata hai ki mann tay kare iska matlab kya hai.
Phir us shabd ka intezaar aata hai. Ek second ke liye body taiyaar rehti hai, aadhi mudi hui, kisi “sorry” ki ummeed mein jo use dheela kar de. Wo nahi aata to taiyaari ko jaane ki jagah nahi milti.
Pichhli baar jab koi takrakar aage badh gaya, to us pehle pal mein aapki body ne kya kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Sorry kehta hai ki aap hain #
Is ummeed ke peechhe achhi wajah hai. Takkar ke baad chhota-sa “sorry” kehta hai: maine aapko dekha, yahan ek insaan hai, khamba nahi. Uske bina takkar aisi lag sakti hai jaise aapke saath furniture jaisa bartaav hua.
Sorry jaise chhote shabd anjaan logon ke beech bahut kaam karte hain. Bheed wali jagahon ko surakshit rakhte hain. Ye gayab ho to bhara station aisi jagah lagne lagta hai jahan har koi har kisi ke khilaaf hai.
Jab koi anjaan takkar ke baad jhat se sorry bolta hai, to aapki baaki raah ka ehsaas kaise badal jaata hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Escalator wali awaaz #
“Kamaal hai.” “Ek nazar tak nahi.” “Yahan to mujhe koi dekhta hi nahi.” Ye awaaz station se office tak chalti rehti hai, kahani baar-baar sunati hai, aur har baar kuch aur jod deti hai.
Kuch logon ko lagta hai ki awaaz us ek anjaan se phisalkar poori bheed par pahunch jaati hai, phir aane wale poore din par. Wo tez chalti hai, aur takkar bas ek second ki thi.
Takkar ke baad jab ye awaaz bolti hai, to kahan pahunchti hai: us anjaan par, shehar par, ya aap par?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Sorry bolne ki aadat kahan se aayi #
Kuch logon mein ye un mummy-papa se aayi jo dukaan mein kisi anjaan se takrane par wapas bhejkar sorry kehlwate the. Chhota-sa sorry sabke saamne shareef insaan hone ka hissa ban gaya.
Aadatein bahut alag hain. Bahut bheed mein takrana har kuch second mein hota hai, har baar sorry kahein to rukna hi na ho, isliye log kehte hi nahi, “bheed mein to ye hota hi hai.” Kahin log tab bhi sorry kehte hain jab doosre ne takkar mari ho. Ek hi chuppi ek shehar mein badtameezi hai, doosre mein kuch nahi.
Anjaan logon ko sorry kehna aapko kisne sikhaya, aur bachpan mein wo sabak kaisa dikhta tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Takkar ke neeche ka niyam #
Vichaar ke neeche koi niyam ho sakta hai: “Kisi ko chhuo to maafi maango,” ya “Shareef insaan hamesha sorry bolta hai.” Niyam naram hai. Par ye har bhaagte anjaan ko aapki subah khatti karne ki taakat bhi de deta hai.
Kuch logon ne ye niyam bachpan mein seekha; kuch ne aise shehar mein pakda jahan log har baat par sorry kehte hain. Jo bhi ho, ye ek niyam hai, aur niyam ko dekha ja sakta hai.
Sorry ka niyam kahan aapke liye bheed ko naram rakhta hai, aur kahan ek second ke dhakke ko poori subah bana deta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Na mile sorry ki keemat #
Takkar ek second ki hoti hai. Garmi lunch tak reh sakti hai: pehli mail ka rookha jawab, akdi hui chaal, chai ki machine par sunayi gayi kadwi kahani. Chhoti keematein, jo aap dhote ho, aur wajah wo jisne ek pal mein aapko bhula diya.
Kuch log bheed mein takkar ke dar se tane hue chalne lagte hain, baazu kase, nazarein ghoomti. Roz ki raah roz ki pehredaari ban jaati hai. Is tanav mein un dinon bhi energy jaati hai jab koi takrata nahi.
Pichhli takkar ne aapki subah se kya liya, aur us subah ko aap kis cheez par lagana chahte?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Ek subah jo dhakke se shuru hui #
Ek aam kaamkaaji din dekhiye jab “Takrane par logon ko sorry bolna chahiye” zor se baj raha hai. Station ki seedhiyan, bheed, kandhe. Isme kuch badalne ki zaroorat nahi.
Shayad seedhiyon par koi takrata hai, chai chhalakti hai, aur poori subah lift mein, desk par, lunch par use dohrane mein jaati hai.
Yahan kuch tay ya pehle se likha nahi hai. Aap jab chahein tasveer se bahar aa sakte ho.
Us subah aur kya tha jis par aapka dhyaan nahi gaya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Usmein aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Kai takkarein kisi ke dekhne se pehle ho jaati hain #
Bheed mein takrane wale ko bag ya coat ke paar shayad mehsoos hi na hua ho. Uski nazar platform, bachche ya gate dhoondh rahi ho sakti hai. Kuch logon ko takkar kuch kadam baad pata chalti hai, tab tak lautna mushkil lagta hai.
Isse aapka kandha kam nahi dukhta, aur sorry ki chaah galat nahi ho jaati. Bas itna ki na mila sorry aapke baare mein utna nahi kehta jitna lagta hai.
Kabhi jaldi mein aapne kisi ko takkar mari ho, to us pal aapke dimaag mein kya bhara tha?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Jo sorry aate hain #
Zyadatar hafton mein ye mil jaate hain: wo bachcha jisne aapke pair se bhidne par sorry bola, wo anjaan jisne baazu chhukar kaha “Arre, meri galti,” wo jisne aapki giri cheez uthakar di.
Ye station ki takkar theek nahi karte. Ye uske bagal mein rehte hain, chhote aur aasaani se chhoot jaane wale, kyunki jaldi aur achhe se nipat gaye.
Bheed mein kisi anjaan ki kaun si chhoti meharbaani aapko yaad hai, aur us pal mein kya baat thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Takkar jo ek second ki hi rahe #
Yahan sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki tameez maayne nahi rakhti. Takkar ke baad sorry chaahna jaayaz hai. Jo dheela ho sakta hai, wo ye ki ek dhakka din ka kitna hissa rakh paaye.
Bheed mein izzat aur suraksha “zyada ummeed” kabhi nahi, aapke liye bhi aur aaspaas sabke liye bhi. Jaan-boojhkar diya gaya dhakka, na bole gaye sorry jaisa nahi hota.
Chhedchhaad, peechha kiya jaana, video banna, chhua ya pakda jaana, bheed mein sataya jaana, ya pehchaan (gender, jaati, dharm, rang, umar, viklangta ya kahan se aaye hain) par nishana banaya jaana takkar nahi hai; ise gambhirta se lena chahiye, aur hat jaana, savdhaan rehna ya madad lena surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Agla bhara station sochiye, ummeed ek darja dheeli karke: koi aapke kandhe se takrata hai, aur agle minute mein aap kya saath le chalna chunte ho?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Bheed ke liye ek vaakya #
“Takrane par logon ko sorry bolna chahiye” ke bagal mein kuch log apna ek vaakya rakhte hain, jaise: “Sorry mile to achha lage, aur ek dhakka meri subah ka faisla nahi karega.” Ye pehle vaakya se behas nahi karta. Bas uske saath chalta hai.
Kuch logon ko dukhte kandhe ke liye ye vaakya zyada shaant lagta hai, aur wo apne shabdon ka chhota-sa tukda pasand karte hain.
Aap apne shabdon mein kya rakhenge, aisa vaakya jo sorry ki chaah rakhe aur takkar ko station par chhod de?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Dhakka platform par hi reh sakta hai #
Har takkar ko kaam tak le jaana zaroori nahi. Use dekhkar peechhe chhoda ja sakta hai, jaise gate se pehle dustbin mein daala gaya chai ka cup.
Sorry ki chaah saath reh sakti hai. Jo chhuan ya dhakka jaan-boojhkar laga, wo bilkul alag baat hai, aur gambhirta se lene laayak hai.
Ise station par chhod dene ka matlab ye nahi ki ye sahi tha ya kuch hua hi nahi. Bas itna ki subah kisi aur cheez ke baare mein ho sakti hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Agar takkar chhoti pad jaye #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah maan lijiye ki ummeed ek darja neeche hai. Wahi bag, wahi dhakka. Aap kandha sehlate ho, haath ponchhte ho, aur us pal ko station par chhod dete ho.
Bahut chhota ho sakta hai: aate hue ek gaana jo sach mein sunayi de, office ke guard ko thoda achha namaste, ek subah jo seedhiyon ki jagah desk se shuru ho.
Ye tasveer aapki hai, aur kisi aur ki nahi. Aage: is ummeed se sulah par ek nazar, aur us par jo aapke paas pehle se hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kaun sa chhota badlaav aap pakdenge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Chhoti cheezein, bas aapke liye #
- Takkar ke baad ehsaas ko ek shabd mein naam dijiye
- Gaur kijiye ki chubhan kitni der rehti hai, aur kya wo chhoti hoti jaati hai
- Is hafte ek anjaan par gaur kijiye jisne sorry bola
- Mushkil bheed ke baad ek minute apne liye kuch achha kijiye
- Dekhiye ki zyada chubhan takkar ki thi ya chuppi ki
Chahein to ek aazmaiye. Ye sujhav hain, kaam nahi.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Bheed mein kisi anjaan ne aapke liye sabse achhi baat kya ki hai?
- Kaun si bheed wali jagah aapko sach mein pasand hai, aur usmein achha kya lagta hai?
- Sorry kehna aapko kisne sikhaya, aur anjaan logon ke baare mein aur kya sikhaya?
- Bheed ki takkarein aapko thoda kam chubhein, to aapki subahein kaisi lagengi?
- Roz ke raaste ki kaun si chhoti baatein aapko pehle se achhi lagti hain?