Andar
Andar kya chal raha hai #
Teen baatein jo aksar in shabdon ke neeche hoti hain.
Barson dhoyi gayi tasveer mann mein ek tarah ke samjhaute jaisi sakht ho sakti hai, jiski sharten aapke Mummy-Papa ne shaayad kabhi dekhi hi nahi.
Kuch logon mein ye apne bachpan se ugti hai: Bhopal mein nani ki chhat par garmi ki chhuttiyan, Ratlam mein dadaji ki dukaan, ek nani jo sone ke niyam dheele kar deti thin.
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Achhe dada-dadi waise hi aate hain jaise maine socha tha,” ya “Agar wo mere bachchon se pyaar karte, to mere tareeke se karte.”
Reactions
Log aksar kya karte hain #
- Har mulaqat se pehle niyamon ki lambi list thama dena
- Har mulaqat ko gaur se dekhna ki kahan kami rahi
- Chupchaap unki tulna aise dost ke maa-baap se karna jo sab kar lete lagte hain
- Mulaqatein kam rakhna, taaki nirash hone ki gunjaish kam ho
- “Koi baat nahi, wo busy hain” kehna, aur har baar faasla phir bhi mehsoos karna
Deck
6 cards mein poori kahani #
Chhe chhote cards, us pal se chhod dene tak.
Wo drawing jise unhone zara dekha
Sunday ki shaam, Jaipur ke flat se Kanpur video call. Aapki beti bade garv se apni drawing dikhati hai. Dada-dadi us par nazar daalte hain, “Achha hai, bahut achha” kehte hain aur aapse flat ki baat poochhne lagte hain. Uske haath ka kaagaz dheere se neeche aata hai. Aap baat karte rehte ho, par mann uske chhote chehre par hai, aur barson se dhoyi tasveer kinaron se chupchaap chatak jaati hai.
Aapke sochhe hue dada-dadi
Neeche ek niyam baitha hai: “Mere Mummy-Papa ko waise dada-dadi hona chahiye, jaise maine hamesha socha tha.” Ye bezarar, yahan tak ki meetha lagta hai. Par dekhiye ye karta kya hai: har mulaqat ko barson pehle bani ek tasveer ke saamne rakh deta hai, shaayad kisson ya kisi aur ke parivaar se bani. Asli dopaharein, apne saadharan palon aur chhoti meharbaniyon ke saath, aise drishya se haarti rehti hain jo kabhi hua hi nahi.
Bachchon ke liye ye chaah kyun
Hum ise isliye pakadte hain kyunki chahte hain bachchon ke paas kuch achha ho, shaayad wo jo hamare paas tha, ya jo hamein nahi mila. Shaayad aapko apni nani ki kitchen aur uski khushboo yaad hai. Shaayad aapne chaha tha ki aapke Mummy-Papa agli peedhi se narm hon. Jo bhi ho, aapki tasveer naadaan nahi. Wo bachchon se pyaar se aayi hai. Use dosh nahi, narmi chahiye.
Har mulaqat ki tees
Jo mulaqat tasveer se nahi milti, har baar ek chhoti tees chhodti hai. Aap apne Mummy-Papa ko bachchon ke saath dekhte ho aur har pal par number dene lagte ho. Bachche ki taraf se nirash hote ho, kabhi uske khud mehsoos karne se pehle. Mulaqatein tay karte ho aur phir unse ghabrate ho. Saath ka waqt, jo bas wahi ho sakta tha jo hai, ek chup exam ban jaata hai jismein koi pass nahi hota.
Kya tasveer iske laayak hai?
Imaandaari se khud se poochhiye: kya tasveer se tulna karne se mulaqatein kabhi garam huin? Ya zyadatar kamre mein aap hi tanav mein rahe? Dada-dadi kai tarah se parwah dikhate hain, kuch chupchaap, kuch bedhange, kuch aise ki hamein dikhein hi nahi. Unke liye har mulaqat ka kya matlab hai, ye koi nahi bata sakta. Dono haal mein, tasveer asli dopahar ka paimana nahi. Kya is niyam ko itna kasakar pakadna iske laayak hai?
Asli mulaqatein, jaisi hain achhi
Chhodne ka matlab ye nahi ki aap unke beech garmahat ki chaah chhod do. Matlab ye ki mulaqat ko achha hone ke liye kisi painting se milna zaroori nahi. Aapke bachche dada-dadi ke saath apna raasta khoj sakte hain, ya nahi. Aap narm nazar se dekh sakte ho. Yahin se thoda chain lautta hai: asli dopaharein asli reh sakti hain, aur aap bhi unka maza le sakte ho.
If raising things at home has ever brought a reaction that frightens you, that is worth taking seriously, and keeping the hope to yourself can be the safe choice.
Palat
Purana rule, aur try karne ke liye ek naya #
Purana ruleUnhein waise hi dada-dadi hona chahiye jaise maine socha tha.
Try karne ke liye naya ruleAsli mulaqatein tasveer se mile bina bhi achhi ho sakti hain.
Agli baar ke liye
Agli baar try kijiye #
- Kadam 1
Agli mulaqat mein ek chhota-sa meherbaan pal dekhiye
- Kadam 2
Bachche ko batane dijiye ki wo apne dada-dadi ko kaise dekhta hai
- Kadam 3
Agli mulaqat mein tasveer se tulna na karne ki koshish kijiye
Is par baat karni hai?
“Pehle bachche ke aane se bahut pehle aapne socha tha ki aapke Mummy-Papa bachchon ke saath kya karenge?”
Free aur private. Shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi. Chat isi sawaal se khulti hai.
Yeh deck jo kuch jaanta hai
Aur gehraai mein #
Yeh kaisa sunai deta hai, kahan se aata hai, iski kya keemat hai, aur ise dekhne ke doosre tareeke. Har sawaal par chat khulti hai.
Yeh kaisa lagta hai
Kya kaha gaya
Pehli mulaqat se pehle bani ek tasveer #
Video call beech mein atak jaati hai, ya darwaze par bachche ko baahon se “laao, idhar do” kehkar aapki soch se zara jaldi le liya jaata hai, aur ek dheema vaakya uthta hai: “Mere Mummy-Papa ko waise dada-dadi hona chahiye, jaise maine socha tha.”
Zyadatar ye ek tasveer hai, jo pehle bachche ke aane se bahut pehle bani thi: kahaniyan, lorian, dheemi dopaharein, chhat par bachchon ke saath baithe aapke Mummy-Papa. Asli mulaqatein alag nikalti hain to tasveer chupchaap tulna karti rehti hai.
Mummy-Papa ke dada-dadi hone ki ye baat aakhri baar kab mann mein aayi, aur tab aapke bachche kya kar rahe the?Is par baat kijiye ›
Pehle kuch pal
Bachcha haath badalte hi jo kasaav aata hai #
Kuch parents ise seene ke kasaav ki tarah mehsoos karte hain, jab bachche ko tez “chal, idhar aa” kehkar le liya jaye, ya ghadi par nazar jaati hai jab khelne ka vaada kiya ghanta TV aur badon ki baaton mein badal jaata hai.
Kuch ko bachchon ke saamne kahi baat par garmi chadhti hai: “Humare zamaane mein bachche sunte the”, “Itna sir par mat chadhao.” Sochne se pehle hi bachav ka jawab banne lagta hai, is par dhyaan gaye bina ki kehne wale ka matlab kya tha, ya bachchon ne suna kya.
Pichhli baar jab Mummy-Papa aur bachchon ki mulaqat tasveer se nahi mili, to kuch kahe jaane se pehle aapne sabse pehle kya mehsoos kiya?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kyun lagta hai
Is ummeed mein asli baat hai #
Chahna ki aapke Mummy-Papa garmjoshi wale, saath rehne wale dada-dadi hon, ek jaayaz chahat hai. Kuch logon ke liye ye Mummy-Papa se zyada bachchon ke baare mein hoti hai: unhein wo kahaniyan, wo dulaar aur wo sabr mile jo yaad hai, ya jiski chaah rahi.
Barson dhoyi gayi tasveer mann mein ek tarah ke samjhaute jaisi sakht ho sakti hai, jiski sharten aapke Mummy-Papa ne shaayad kabhi dekhi hi nahi. Jab wo poori nahi hoti, to toote vaade jaisi chubhti hai.
Aapke soche hue dada-dadi bachchon ke saath ek dopahar bitayein, to ghante-dar-ghante wo kya kar rahe honge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Andar ki awaaz
Tulna sambhalkar rakhne wali awaaz #
“Mere cousins ke liye toh unke paas poora waqt tha.” “Baaki dada-dadi toh ise bahut pasand karte.” “Mujhe toh bas itna chahiye tha ki wo use kahani suna dein.” Ye awaaz aksar mulaqat ke baad lautte hue raaste mein bolti hai, ya bina khele khilone samette hue.
Aisi tulna kisi kaam ki baat ki or ishara kar sakti hai. Kuch parents ko lagta hai ki unhein ghante utne nahi khalte jitni wo tasveer, jismein bachche ek aise paarivarik kisse mein jude hon jo unse bhi peechhe, unhein palne walon tak jaata hai.
Jab awaaz aapke Mummy-Papa ki tulna sochi hui dada-dadi se karti hai, to kaun-sa ek pal wo dekhna chahti hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Yeh kahan se aata hai
Yeh kahan se aa sakta hai
Dada-dadi ki tasveer kahan se aati hai #
Kuch logon mein ye apne bachpan se ugti hai: Bhopal mein nani ki chhat par garmi ki chhuttiyan, Ratlam mein dadaji ki dukaan, ek nani jo sone ke niyam dheele kar deti thin. Kuch mein ulti taraf se: ek dada-dadi jinhein bas zara jaana, aur ek chupchaap kiya vaada ki apne bachchon ko zyada denge.
Tasveerein aaspaas se bhi aati hain: dost ki mummy jo har Wednesday bachchon ko le jaati hain, school ke function mein dada-dadi ki photo, vigyapan jinmein har dadi meethe pakwan banati hai. Kuch log aisi tasveer ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi.
Kiske dada-dadi ne aapko pehli baar dikhaya ki dada-dadi kaise hone chahiye, aur unhone aisa kya kiya jo aaj bhi yaad hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iske neeche ki maanyata
Tasveer ke neeche ka chup niyam #
Neeche ek niyam baitha ho sakta hai: “Achhe dada-dadi waise hi aate hain jaise maine socha tha,” ya “Agar wo mere bachchon se pyaar karte, to mere tareeke se karte.” Pehla vaakya sunayi deta hai; neeche wala niyam tay karta hai ki har mulaqat, har phone aur har tohfa kaise padha jaye.
Ye shaayad hi niyam ki tarah dikhta hai. Ye bachchon ke liye seedhe pyaar jaisa lagta hai, aur uske neeche ka pyaar garam hai. Theek isiliye ise dekhna kaam ka hai, aapke Mummy-Papa jaise aaj hain aur aapke bachche jaise asal mein hain, unke bagal mein rakhkar.
Kuch log aise niyam ko bachpan tak le jaate hain, kuch nahi. Dono haal mein ise dekha ja sakta hai.
Aaj ke paarivarik jeevan mein dada-dadi kaise hone chahiye wala niyam kahan ab bhi fit baithta hai, aur kahan nahi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Iski kya keemat hai
Iski kya keemat hai
Ek saal mein tasveer ki keemat #
Iska matlab ho sakta hai mulaqat mein shaamil hone ke bajaay nigraani karte rehna, kisi birthday ki dopahar jo zyadatar isliye yaad rahe ki ek dada-dadi jaldi chale gaye, ya sote waqt extra cartoon par nikli teekhi baat. Kuch natakeey nahi, phir bhi ghar tak dhona bhaari.
Kai achhe pal bhi andekhe reh sakte hain. Jab har mulaqat tasveer se naapi jaati hai, to jo pal ho rahe hain wo sarak jaate hain: dadaji jo gaane ke galat bol sikha rahe hain, dadi ke kharab chutkule jin par bachche phir bhi hans padte hain.
Is saal ko dekhein to kaun-si mulaqat par tasveer ka rang sabse gehra tha, aur bachchon ko usmein phir bhi kya achha laga?Is par baat kijiye ›
Agar yeh aisa hi rahe
Paanch saal aur, hidayaton ki potli #
Ek aam Tuesday ki tasveer banaiye, us din ki jab “mere Mummy-Papa ko waise dada-dadi hona chahiye” zor se baj rahi ho. Ye bas dekhne ki tasveer hai, theek karne ko kuch nahi.
Shaayad dada-dadi ke ghar jaane ke liye bachchon ka bag lagana, upar hidayaton ki mudi parchi ke saath: sone ka waqt, mobile, kaun se shabd na bolein. Us dopahar phone par list do baar dohrayi gayi; shaam ye sochte beeti ki kaisa raha hoga.
Isme kuch bhavishyavani nahi, aur isse kuch badalna bhi zaroori nahi.
Usmein kya hai: phone, hafte ke iraade, sandesh, na kahi gayi baatein?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us din kya bhara hai, aur kya intezaar mein hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Us Tuesday ko dekhkar, agar kuch, to aapko kya dikhta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Ise dekhne ka doosra tareeka
Dada-dadi, kis roop mein? #
Bachche dada-dadi ke kareeb ek se zyada roop mein ho sakte hain. Ek dadi jo Kanpur se voice note bhejti hain, ek dadaji jo bas cricket ki baat karte hain, ek sakht aur ek maskhara: bachche har ek tak apna raasta khud khoj lete hain, kabhi us raaste se alag jo aapne socha tha.
Jo tasveer aap dhote ho aur jo aapke Mummy-Papa dhote hain, wo shaayad ek nahi. Isse aapki tasveer zyada ya unki galat nahi ho jaati. Ye unhin bachchon ki do tasveerein hain, do alag zindagiyon se bani.
Aapke sochhe hue dada-dadi ki saari baaton mein bachchon ke liye kaun-si sabse zaroori hai, aur kaun-si aapke apne liye thi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Jo pehle se hai
Unke beech jo pehle se chal raha hai #
Poori na hui ummeed ke bagal mein kuch parents dekhte hain ki unke Mummy-Papa aur bachchon ke beech pehle se kya chalta hai, chahe kitna chhota: ek aisa naam jo bas ek dada bulate hain, darwaze par koi bewakoofi bhara khel, aapke chhe saal ki umar ka kissa jo hanste shrotaon ko sunaya jaye.
Ise dekhne se kuch chukta nahi hota aur kuch radd nahi hota; adhoori tasveer aur ye chhote pal, dono sach ho sakte hain. Bin soche pal aksar wo hote hain jo bachche ghar le jaate hain, isliye un par nazar rakhna kaam ka hai.
Koi mulaqat bina kisi khaas baat ke bhi guzar sakti hai, aur wo theek hai.
Aapke Mummy-Papa bachchon ko pehle se kya dete hain, jo bachchon ko khud pasand aata lagta hai?Is par baat kijiye ›
Sulah
Tasveer se sulah, bachchon ki parwah #
Is ummeed se sulah ka matlab ye tay karna nahi ki tasveer zyada thi, ya ye ki wo aapka haq hai. Matlab ye ki aapke sochhe hue dada-dadi aur aane wale dada-dadi ke beech ka faasla tay na kare ki har saath bitayi dopahar kaisi lagegi.
Isme jo jaayaz hai wo reh sakta hai: bachchon se pyaar, aur palne ke aapke tareeke ki izzat. Bachche ki suraksha ki baatein, jaise car seat, allergy, bachcha kiske paas chhoda jaye, kabhi dheeli nahi hotin. Bachcha kisi bade ke paas bechain dikhe, to wo dhyaan dene ki baat hai, sehlakar taalne ki nahi.
Buniyadi izzat aur suraksha, aapke liye, bachchon ke liye aur Mummy-Papa ke liye, kabhi “zyada ummeed” nahi hoti. Dheela wo hai ki tasveer kitni kasakar pakdi hai. Ghar par baat uthane se kabhi aisi pratikriya mili ho jo darati ho, to use gambhirta se lijiye; ummeed ko apne tak rakhna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai.
Is sulah ke saath agli mulaqat ka saamaan baandhte hue aap kis baat ka intezaar kar rahe honge?Is par baat kijiye ›
Ek zyada sachcha vaakya
Agli mulaqat ke liye ek sachcha vaakya #
“Mere Mummy-Papa ko waise dada-dadi hona chahiye, jaise maine socha tha” se behas karne ki jagah, kuch log taiyaar rakhte hain: “Maine kuch aur socha tha, aur mere bachche khud apna raasta khoj sakte hain.” Ise jeetna zaroori nahi, bas purane vaakya ke bagal mein khada rehna kaafi hai.
Mann mein pehli baar kehne par ye feeka lag sakta hai. Kuch logon ko apne shabdon wali pankti dheere-dheere thodi jagah banati lagti hai; kuch ko nahi, aur wo bhi theek hai.
Aapke apne shabdon mein sachcha vaakya kya hoga, jo bachchon ke liye chaahat rakhe aur jo dada-dadi asal mein hain unke liye jagah bhi chhode?Is par baat kijiye ›
Kya rehne dein
Kuch tasveerein wapas album mein ja sakti hain #
Paarivarik zindagi ki har tasveer isi saal sulajhani zaroori nahi. Kuch ko dekha ja sakta hai, pal bhar thaama ja sakta hai aur wapas rakha ja sakta hai, jaise Indore ke kisi ghar mein purane album ki photo ya Jaipur ki baithak mein deewar par tangi frame.
Is chaahat ko darwaze par uthana zaroori nahi. Agar ghar par baat uthane se kabhi aisi pratikriya aayi ho jo aapko darati ho, to use gambhirta se lena zaroori hai, aur ummeed ko apne tak rakhna surakshit chunav ho sakta hai. Wo dono haal mein aapki rehti hai.
Aaj shaam ise neeche rakhne ka matlab ye nahi ki sab sahi tha, ya baat tay ho gayi. Bas itna ki agli mulaqat ko poori tasveer peeth par nahi dhoni hai.
Agar yeh dheela pade
Aur agar tasveer thodi bhi dheeli ho #
Sirf tasveer ki tarah sochiye ki ye ummeed ek darja dheemi hai. Bachchon ke liye chaahat ab bhi hai, par mulaqat bas mulaqat hai, aisa exam nahi jo dada-dadi de rahe hon.
Chhoti cheezein kaafi ho sakti hain: bag mein sabse zaroori hidayatein aur apne liye ek nashta, bachchon ke door rehne par apni ek dopahar, ya mulaqat ka haal jigyasa se sunna, list milaye bina.
Yahan kisi se kuch kehne ki zaroorat nahi. Jo bhi aaye, wo aapka hai aur gaur karne laayak hai. Aage, dekhiye ki is ummeed se sulah ka kya matlab ho sakta hai, aur pehle se kya maujood hai.
Sabse pehle kya alag lagta hai, chahe zara-sa?Is par baat kijiye ›
Aapki pehli chhoti cheez kya hogi?Is par baat kijiye ›
Try karne ki chhoti cheezein
Try karne ke liye kuch
Kuch chhoti cheezein jo log aazmate hain #
- Mulaqat se pehle dekhiye ki kaun-sa pal aap pehle se dekhna chahte ho
- Mulaqat ke dauraan ek aisa pal dekhiye jo bachchon ko achha lagta hai
- Aaj ki ek chhoti chaah dekhiye, chahe kitni bhi chhoti
- Chupchaap khud se poochhiye: ye ummeed bachchon ke liye hai, ya unki umar mein apne liye?
- Dekhiye kaun-si baat zyada zor se hai: jo mulaqat ho rahi hai, ya jo sochi thi
Chhoti, nijee aur sab apni marzi ki. Jo aasaan lage, wo aazmaiye.
Ek sawaal chuniye
Baat kijiye #
Kisi ek par tap kijiye. Dr. Thoughts ke saath chat usi sawaal se khulegi: free, private, shuru karne ke liye sign-up nahi.
- Pehle bachche ke aane se bahut pehle aapne socha tha ki aapke Mummy-Papa bachchon ke saath kya karenge?
- Dada-dadi ki kaun-si mulaqat aap ab bhi dohra rahe ho, aur darwaze par theek kya hua tha?
- Bachpan mein kisi dada-dadi ne aapke liye aisa kya kiya jo aap chahte the ki aapke bachchon ko bhi mile?
- Jis din sochhe hue dada-dadi door lagein, us din aap kya taal rahe honge?
- Aapke bachche apne dada-dadi mein pehle se kya pasand karte lagte hain, jaise wo hain?